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25 F San Mateo, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 18–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 28
White, Other
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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It should be noted that I don't consider myself "bisexual", I identify as "queer". Shit, OKC, if you're going to make me label myself, at least let me choose the label.

I have a tendency to intimidate people, which is regrettable, but helpful, sometimes.

Side Note: I spent my high school years in the "punk scene" (I feel ridiculous saying that); consequently, whenever I approached someone of like "nerdy" mind, they thought I was mocking them or about to beat them up. This severely stifled the wellspring of actually beneficial relationships I could have had. Damn mitigating factors, and so on and so forth.

(I was raised in the quicksand and lava pits of 4chan, and spent too much time on reddit. Your trolling will have no impact.)

I'm extremely social and amiable, but occasionally my sarcasm and dry humor do not result in smooth interactions. I blame this on my parents, born and raised in Philly. I will go out of my way to make people laugh and smile, and if that means shamelessly mocking myself, I'm all for it.

I have been told on more than one occasion that I have a habit of sounding pretentious. I promise, most of the time, I'm not. Most of the time.

If you can make me laugh, and can have a conversation about anything from Foucault's Panopticon to Delta Blues, we'll be best friends. If you can teach me new words, I'm sold. If you can use expert puns, euphemisms, innuendos and mind-tangling word-play, I'll love you forever. Appreciation for Georges Bataille and Otis Redding means appreciation for you. Interest in Continental and Post-Structuralist Philosophy, and Transgressive Literature, guarantees a response. I'm really into Critical Theory; therefore, Foucault, Derrida, Lacan, Zizek, Ronell, etc. are colonizing my mind. I saw 'colonizing' intentionally, considering my growing studies in Post-Colonialism. If someone wants to be my reading buddy for Said, Bhabha, Fanon, Achebe, and Spivak, please let me know.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm on my last semester of school, working on my double BA. I had some trouble (recklessness, a general lassitude and irascibility) at the beginning of community college, but finally got my shit together, and am currently at a Private University. After I receive my double BAs in English and Philosophy, I plan on getting into, essentially, social work. I'll be getting my MA focusing on engendering a stronger set of resources and tools for at-risk youth, to help mitigate the potential for delinquency.

Tutoring is my primary work source while handling my academic workload; however, I also do public speaking for the county, which is easy as hell since I love it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, making people laugh, saving awkward situations, finding something to talk about, complimenting people (sincerely), being a wing-woman, retaining things I read, school, impressing teachers, getting people to care about what I have to say, making an impression.

I have also been told that I'm a very good writer, but as any writer knows --that's a matter of complete, irrefutable subjectivity.

I'm also really good at tripping while walking up stairs; I'm not entirely sure how...

Crossword puzzles, cooking, memorizing lines, impressing teachers and parents, being scared of babies, intimidating people with a larger vocabulary than they deem acceptable, creative profanity, being heard from across the room (stage voice, sorry), quoting things that most people don't get, sounding like a hipster while really not wanting to, keeping calm, having a guilty conscience.

I am NOT good at: Trying to even give a white lie, engaging in confrontation, making decisions (sometimes, see: usually), pretending to be amused or engaged, not getting very passionate during debates, whistling (I can't do it at all, it's a shame), faux-laughing, faux-smiling, faux-listening. Extreme aberration from routine.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair, probably. I have auburn, curly, big hair. Then, though it's not an aesthetic characteristic, my laugh --which is just as big, and if it were a color, would probably also be auburn.

I get complimented on my glasses a lot, and the books I'm always carrying around with me. I'm not entirely sure if that qualifies.

I have Georgian (Republic of) Roma (see: gypsy) ancestry, and it is apparent through both my aesthetic and my personality. No one has ever been able to stereotype me in a fashion genre.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I will not list specifics, as I know that will subsume way more time than I have to give, and you have to exchange.

Music: BLUES (my favorite --had the honor of seeing Buddy Guy in concert over the summer, inexplicably brilliant), Classic Rock, Punk Cabaret, '70's punk, some grunge, Classical (in particular the Russian composers), Opera, Cabaret music (encapsulating Kurt Weill, of course), Tom Waits is paramount to my auditory education, and Dr. John the Nightripper is supreme. I love New Orleans Jazz, as well. '80's, '90's and underground (about as mainstream as I'll go is Atmosphere) hip hop (-ahem hem- Let me clear my throat), World Music (I feel like such a douchebag saying that), and the album "Reverse Shark Attack" by Ty Segall and Mikal Cronin. Also, I love Van Morrison; haters gonna hate. If you believe that someone can't be a fan of The Smiths, Crass, and Nina Simone simultaneously, we were never meant to be friends. I cannot emphasize how much Otis Redding possesses my entire soul.

Movies: (Will keep this in genres for the formerly presented reasons) Dark Humor, Foreign, Comedy, Fantasy, Horror (not as much as before, but still mentionable), Independent, Documentaries, etc. I will pretty much watch anything if it sounds interesting and original enough.

Books: (This would literally take me forever, so I'll just pinpoint some of my favorite authors, and books if they are removed from them.) Neil Gaiman, Oscar Wilde, Hunter S. Thompson, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Chuck Palahniuk, Raymond Carver, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Kant, Friere, MICHEL FOUCAULT, Schopenhauer, AM Homes, W. S. Burroughs, Ginsberg, Straub, Toomer, Hitchens, Foster Wallace, Camus, Kafka, Hughes, Toni Morrison, Rousseau, Hume, Milan Kundera, Dostoevsky, Gogol, Nikolai Grozni, Sartre, Tolstoy, Chekov, Lacan, Kristeva, Bataille, Acker, Zizek, Ronell, Badiou, Baudrillard, Agamben, Jean Genet, Tom Stoppard, Nabokov, Bakunin, Kropotkin, Nick Cave, McCarthy, Bataille, Henry Miller (Tropic of Cancer <3), Baudelaire, Rimbaud, Barthes, Levinas, Beckett, Borges, Ballard, Kierkegaard, Rawls, Rachels, Aurelius, Nietzsche, Marquis de Sade, Ginsberg, Baraka, Lord Byron, Shelley. etc.
Wittgenstein, Brandom, Davidson, Searle, Quine, Frege, Russell, Grice, etc. are on my reading list, because I need to "diversify" (Continental girl).

Food: Let me start this with the confession that my Mother spent most of her formative professional years as a well-renown chef (with a specialty in pastry) in both Philadelphia and California; consequently, she has bestowed her knowledge, and her talent, unto me. I have a passion for cooking and baking, and enjoy most anything aside from seafood (it's a visceral, incessant loathing).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Herbal Sleep Aids, The people I love (see how I grouped that together? Parsimonious? No), Literature, my hands, a sense of humor and my imagination.

Realistically, though, I could survive without them; consequently, this is more of a 'six things I don't want to do without' list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think too much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either with friends at a dive, at Philosophy night (at my old school), writing, tutoring, reading, or getting excited about new books I found in the Used Book store, and trying to decide which to start reading next.

There's also the whole "Crossing the threshold into the 47th dimension" thing, but that's whatever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm embarrassed about my love of going to bed on the early side, and waking up before the sun rises.

I still, on occasion, forget when to use "effect" and "affect". Murrr...
You should message me if
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You actually want to have a conversation. Please do not contact me for a hookup, I am not looking for that at this time in my life.

If I receive a message that is inundated with netspeak, and the like, I will not reply to you. If, however, you send me a message where you properly use a semicolon, I will definitely reply.