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31 Middletown, OH Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Sep 12
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
High school
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm ONLY attracted to BLACK MEN. This is not a conscious choice that I've made. And no, it's not a "size thing" (which is a myth, for those of you who were wondering). *****To quote an article from okc's blog "On an individual level, a person can’t really control who turns them on—and almost everyone has a 'type', one way or another." Apparently my "type" is narrowed first to black men. THERE! Now STOP sending me messages that say "Why only black men?" ***** If you're so offended by this that you feel you must send me hate mail, please try to at least make it interesting. Messages that just say "Nigger lover" or "What a waste" only make you sound stupid AND racist. The least you could do is be entertaining while you force your opinions on me. And before the jabs at me using the term racist begin, no I do not consider myself racist. That would be like saying all gay people are sexist.

I'm only looking for LOCAL men. If you live more than 45 minutes or so from me that kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it? If you don't have clear pics (yes, that's plural) of yourself it's highly likely I won't respond to any messages you send. Only unattractive or married and cheating men have an excuse for not posting pics, and I'm not interested in either of them.

Text speak annoys me, and I'm a pretty heavy duty grammar nazi. I don't expect everyone to be perfect, but you should at least make an effort. And please make your first message something that I can respond to with more than "Pretty good. You?". Show me we're going to have something to talk about. There's plenty of content here for you to comment on. Just pick something and run with it. Oh, and I almost forgot. TYPING IN ALL CAPS IS THE ONLINE VERSION OF YELLING! Just don't do it. Also, if we decide to exchange numbers I'd much rather talk than text. Why take 30 minutes to say via text what you could in 2 minutes of conversation?

I'm a true hedonist at heart. If something sounds like fun and I don't have any moral issues with it I'm probably going to do it. My sexual orientation is what I call "heteroflexible". Basically, I'm straight, but s**t happens. I'm currently involved in the swinger lifestyle. I enjoy it, but I'm not dependant on it. I may or may not choose to have a relationship inside of that. Right now I'm not necessarily looking for a full blown relationship, although if it happens it happens. I'd honestly like to add an fwb or two to my current "rotation". Yes, I said it. I'm very up front about everything in my life. I love sex, and at this point I would like to be having it 2 to 3 times per day, if possible. I'm not, however, into anonymous sex. I like to get to know the people I'll be spending my time with and require that we have some type of positive connection. I'm selective regarding who I sleep with, and am not looking for a one night stand or something that will fizzle out in a week or two. I'm a "spend the night" kind of girl. As in I come over, we have some drinks, we do our thing, wake up in the middle of the night and do it again, wake up in the morning for one more round before jumping in the shower and heading off to work. If we're both interested in doing things together outside of that I'm open, but that's typically how I like the end of my day to go and the next to begin. I do prefer men who have more dominant personalities and no or very few submissive tendencies. I am capable of being a switch (for those who know what that means), but am much more satisfied as a bottom/submissive with a dominant personality. Also, I appreciate all the interest, but I'm not into cuckolding.

Okay, it's not as if anyone actually reads these things, but just in case, if you do get a response from me and we exchange numbers please don't pester me for more pics. The ones I have that I like are already up on here. If they aren't enough for you maybe you shouldn't message me after all.

NOTE: Judging from my own experiences as well as those of females I've spoken with there's something guys just don't seem to grasp. Calling us baby, honey, sweetheart, cutie (<-That's the worst one. Way to make me feel like a 5 year old again!) etc before getting to know us at all is not a compliment. It's actually somewhat derogatory. A word of advice, please don't assume every female finds those terms endearing when coming from a stranger. Thanks!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to make it from day to day without killing anyone! Just kidding :) I just started a new job which will have me looking to move to the Fairborn/Xenia area in the very near future. I'm enjoying learning new skills to add to my resume, as well as working in a place where I feel my current skills are utilized.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the "big picture", and taking it into account.
Helping (or gently pushing) people to think outside the box.
Getting to the bottom of the pile of bs :-D
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and my legs
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movies - Noise, Sin City, Spread, Requiem for a Dream, Sucker Punch, The Boys and Girls Guide to Getting Down, The Strangers, The Prestige, The Shape of Things, Chronicle - just to name a few.
Shows - House, The Walking Dead, Spartacus, Game of Thrones, The Boondocks, Shameless, House of Lies, Scandal, American Horror Story, House of Cards, American Dad, Bob's Burgers
Books - The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice (Not what it sounds like. Trust me:) ) Anything historical, especially regarding religion and philosophy
Music - Mostly Hip-hop/R&B and some hard rock/heavy metal.
Food - Does chocolate count?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much people allow the way others perceive them to affect the way they live their lives.

Why so many people from 100+ miles away continue to view my profile.

How racist a person must be to feel like they need to send me hate mail. I was actually once accused on here of being the reason Obama was elected lol. It's good to know I have so much influence.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Been going to the lifestyle club in Milford with a group of friends lately.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told I snore pretty loudly.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- You think it sounds like we'd be a good fit. If you found that first paragraph amusing at all that's probably a decent indicator that we'd get along ;).
- You have a great smile. I've always been a sucker for an attractive black man with a great smile.