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My self-summary
I am a decorative ironworker by profession. Four years ago I moved to Tucson to realize my dream of opening my own fabrication shop and art collective.

I often feel deeply out of place in society. Even as a very young man, I would listen to my grandpa tell stories about the old days and feel a deep sense of loss, lamenting that I had been born two generations too late. I crave the kind of adventure which most would call reckless and idealistic. (Case in point; I joined the Foreign Legion and even that wasn't far out enough for me.) I dedicate myself to principals and ideals which most seem to aspire to but find too unrealistic or difficult to attain.
What I’m doing with my life
-Adventuring/Doing weird shit
-Running a business
-Renovating my house
-Chopping motorcycles
-Constructing a military grade flamethrower (yes, that's legal)
I’m really good at
Organic chemistry. Considering people's feelings. Hugging. Making swords/knives/anything sharp. Cooking meats. Driving. Field surgery. Demolition. Shooting things at really long distances. Alienating terrible people. Looking good in plaid. Being surprisingly responsible and safe when it comes to wildly dangerous activities. Walking the fine line between cynicism and hopeless idealism.
The first things people usually notice about me
People usually notice my blue eyes... but I feel like eyes really don't say much about a person. With this in mind, I polled some friends and randos and here's what they had to say about our first encounter.

"You were turned up to 110%. Really intense. I was like, 'This guy is like a whirlwind of things happening.'" - LaurenBot

"This guy is like the Salvador Dali of Destruction." - Dakota

"Interesting, funny, and refreshingly gentlemanly." - Anna

"I really respect your 'go hard or go home' attitude when it comes to food." - RiotRix
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I spend a lot of time reading industry related articles and DIY books, so I rarely ever have time or energy to read purely for enjoyment. When I do find time, I enjoy reading philosophy, chemistry, modern and medieval history. Hunter Thompson and Bukowski are two of my favorite authors.

Movies: Any and all Tarentino, Anderson, Arnofsky films, The Thin Red Line, No Country for Old Men, Fight Club, American Psycho, Apocalypse Now, Escape from Alcatraz, Pineapple Express, Dirty Harry, The Great Escape, In a Lonely Place, Serenity, Platoon, Miller's Crossing, Taxi Driver, Natural Born Killers

Shows: Breaking Bad, Homeland, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, The Sarah Silverman Program, Star Trek, Firefly, Seinfeld, The Simpsons, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Six Feet Under

Music: Cab Calloway, Iggy Pop, Tom Waits, James Brown, The Isley Brothers, The Temptations, Curtis Mayfield, Judas Priest, CCR, Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, Rage Against the Machine, Black Sabbath, Johnny Cash, Parliament, Led Zeppelin, Velvet Underground, Rolling Stones, Miles Davis, Bootsy Collins, Radiohead

Food: All of it. All the food.

Games: Poker, Dice, Blackjack, Apples to Apples, Warhammer, The Dot Com Game, the entire Fallout series, TES
The six things I could never do without
1. Power tools
2. Cake
3. Plaid
4. Flammables/Flamethrowers
5. Science
6. Friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-Why people believe what they believe and do what they do.
-Why I believe what I believe and do what I do.
-What I want to eat next.
-What I want to create next.
-Why I left the military and why I'm going back.
-How to find peace and understanding in the face of some of the horrific things I've seen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typically being atypical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a rare seizure disorder which I've been dealing with since 2011. Typically, I'll have one major episode per year and suffer minor after effects for a few weeks. I've had two episodes (2011 and 2015) which left me in a dissociative state for several months. The most recent was complicated by a traumatic brain injury and a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship, all this while dealing with a recently diagnosed potentially fatal illness. It was, by far, the most horrific experience of my life.

Anyone I become involved with will have to understand and accept that this disease is huge part of who I am. It has significantly complicated my life and can temporarily alter my personality. While it isn't an easy thing to live with by any means, it affects me less than a fraction of a percent of the time and has motivated me to become a more compassionate, open minded and patient man.
You should message me if
I want the kind of romance that I believe many of us desire but most have lost faith in and find unrealistic. If I find myself deeply attracted to someone, they become the center of my universe and I don't look for fulfillment outside of the relationship. Unfortunately, the only women I've met as of yet who claim to value this sort of extreme monogamy are incredibly possessive and selfish. It would be nice to meet someone who wasn't.

I am kind and giving on a level which borders on self sacrifice. I'm not proud or sanctimonious about it, it's just who I am. That being the case, I have to be extremely vigilant and cautious when it comes to letting people into my life. I need someone who can reciprocate that deep level of care, understanding and compassion which I give abundantly; the kind of woman who would go to hell and back with me, knowing that I would do the same for them without hesitation.

-You have a thorough understanding of and respect for consent and boundaries.

-You demand a lot from your friends because you give just as much back.

-You are an introvert, but not a hermit.

-You are pick-up-one-day-and-go-to-Uruguay-for-the-Winter kind of spontaneous.

-You're a weirdo, eccentric and occasionally downright goofball.

-You expect a man's full attention and affection. You won't settle for anyone who doesn't make you feel like you're the most desired woman in the world. You have this kind of confidence, rather than the jealous insecurity which most girls possess.

Negatives/Possible Deal Breakers
-If you do not understand and appreciate dark humor, we will not get along. I have an extremely morbid sense of humor.

-If you are judgmental or intolerant. Most of my friends and family are queer/trans/POC. Even if this weren't the case, I have zero attraction to bigots. At the same time, I appreciate a healthy amount of political incorrectness.

-If you don't have a handle on your use of substances. Good rule of thumb is that if I can tell that you're on something, I don't want to hang out with you.

-If you are obsessed with sports. Though I would prefer that you abhor sports as much as I do. I think I could stomach someone who enjoys watching or playing the occasional game.

-If you have anger issues which manifest violently, are impatient, bossy, secretive. Zero interest.

-Politeness, punctuality, and consideration for others are the quickest and best ways to impress me. Disregard for any of these things is the quickest way to turn me off.

-If you are full of yourself. I like people who are confident and love themselves, not those who are arrogant and self absorbed.

-If you are a radical feminist/MRA/etc. I am an egalitarian, race and queer politics are important to me, but I am not seriously involved and generally do not get on well with people who identify as radicals.

-If you constantly post pictures of food that you didn't prepare yourself: DO. NOT. CONTACT. ME.