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If you're a creative, independent, energetic and affectionate man
who already has a lot on your plate - but is missing that
particular entree called a significant other... we could be a good
match! In you I hope to find a new best friend, confidant, and
lover with whom to share life’s joys – and, if need be, its
downsides. A great sense of humor is a big plus, as well as being
socially-concerned, adventurous and open-minded.
I hope we can explore mutual passions (or learn new ones from each
other) and be there for each other but also allow leeway to do our
own things. I’m now 64, which seems a bit preposterous, since I
have a daughter still in college - and I’m anything but a retiring
A bit of background: I own a walking tour business, focusing on
ethnic food in NYC. I've worked in education and journalism. I've
written several books. Currently, as a career changer, I'm a
special education “resource room” teacher. The job is satisfying
and, luckily, close enough to home that I can ride my bike to work.
I love having long summers off and always take time to travel. I
recently returned from a short trip to Medellin - an beautiful city
that has emerged with pride and progress from the horrors and
losses of its violent past. I hope you also enjoy diverse types of
I love to read, cook, travel, go to movies and see LOTS of theater.
I’m a jazz fan and love almost anything having to do with NYC,
especially exploring neighborhoods. I enjoy hosting dinners for
In my partner I hope for someone who’s a mensch, loves music,
theater and reading, whether it's the New York Times, the New
Yorker, fiction, non-fiction. (My current favorites include Isabel
Wilkerson's remarkable "The Warmth of Other Suns" and Colum
McCann’s brilliant “Let the Great World Spin.”) To me, a great book
is like a gourmet meal: I love the different courses as I move
through a delicious book and savor the feeling that comes with
finishing it. But I also feel sad when the “meal” is over and I
hunger for second helpings from that author.
FYI – I live in northern Manhattan, near beautiful Fort Tryon Park.
I don’t have a car, so mass transit and bicycle are my modes of
Two more things: Please don’t contact me if you live far away. I’m
not interested in a long-distance friendship/relationship. And
please tell the truth. I don't lie about my age (and it probably
works against me. Sigh.) So please don't lie about yours. Thank
What I’m doing with my life
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I support my daughter and myself (and my passions) by working as a
special education resource room teacher, which means that I work
with small groups of students with learning disabilities. I'm in my
14th year of teaching (with retirement plans looming close) and
preceded that with a range of writing, editorial and research jobs,
with a four-year "intermission" living in South Africa (where I was
able to do a fair amount of writing). I publish an occasional
newsletter and blog related to food and neighborhoods in New York
City and take lots of photos! I love to swim! I enjoy the freedom
of the empty nest - but am also intimidated by it and am always
very happy when my daughter comes home to visit. She's in college
in a nearby city so I can see her fairly often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
exploring, writing about, and leading food-themed walking tours in
NYC's ethnic neighborhoods as part of a business I created 16 years
ago. My book about NY food, entitled Nosh New York, was published
by St. Martin's Press in 2003. While I'd love to update it, this
probably won't happen because of the proliferation of food blogs...
sigh. I'm very much into the idea of food as a gateway to new
cultures - and a way to foster peace. So my tours also include
history and culture.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Andre Schwarz-Bart's "The Last of the Just" was my first
favorite book as an adult (I loved Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle books as a
child); more recent favorites include Colum McCann's masterpiece
"Let The Great World Spin," Michael Chabon's "The Amazing
Adventures of Kavalier and Clay" and Joseph O'Neill's "Netherland";
all-time favorite movie is Paul Mazursky's "Next Stop, Greenwich
Village." My favorite Broadway play is "Jerusalem," which was in
NYC in 2011, starring the remarkable Mark Rylance (I saw it three
times), and I'm a fan of the musical "Finian's Rainbow," which
surprised me with its political depth and brilliant lyrics. In
early 2015 I was captivated by the brilliant play "The Curious
Incident of the Dog At Nighttime," which i made a point of seeing
twice, once with its star, another time with the regular
understudy, who was excellent!
Food: Take me to an ethnic neighborhood of NYC and I'll take you to
the best eateries... or surprise me with your own favorites (or
your cooking!). Not interested in so-called "in" neighborhoods;
have never eaten in "hipster" Williamsburg but do know the delis
and shops in kosher Williamsburg!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NOT in order - here are SEVEN!
1. Being a mom to my wonderful daughter
2. A great guy to be a best friend & more!
3. New York City & opportunities to travel to other world
4. My bicycle
7. Friends who are always there for each other!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how to finish all the things I want to do, including reading
books, seeing theater, creating photo essays, exploring NYC, my
next trip, seeing my daughter through to happy, stable
... giving away lots of stuff I don't have the heart to give away.
(I'm not a hoarder but I am very sentimental so I hold on to things
that I should have given away long ago.)
... finding the right person to share life with!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... there is no "typical" Friday night. Sometimes it's "happy
Friday" with my colleagues. Other times it's going out to dinner
with friends in one of NYC's great neighborhoods. Still other times
it's going to MOMA, theater or movies... and other times it's
coming home, reading, vegging out and making sure I see the Friday
night edition of Rachel Maddow!
You should message me if
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you've read my profile thoroughly and feel that we truly share
similar values, experiences and goals. No response if you live far
away and/or have clearly not read about who I am. Ditto if you
can't write a good grammatical sentence and/or clearly have not
taken the time to proof-read! Also, please be honest about your age
and your situation (job, family, etc.). The truth will come out at
some point if you're not. It's a waste of time if you can't follow
these simple requests. I realize that I'm probably losing out on
meeting great guys because I'm in my 60s, but I believe honesty is
essential in a good relationship, and I really hope to find just
one amazing person whose life I can enhance and who will enjoy
being my partner.
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