Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you're a creative, independent, energetic and affectionate man
who already has a lot on your plate - but is missing that
particular entree called a significant other... we could be a good
match! In you I hope to find a new best friend, confidant, and
lover with whom to share life’s joys – and, if need be, its
downsides. A great sense of humor is a big plus, as well as being
socially-concerned, adventurous and open-minded. (It definitely
helps if you live in and love New York City. I find it a
continually challenging and exciting place to be!
I hope we can explore mutual passions (or learn new ones from each
other) and be there for each other but also allow leeway to do our
own things. I’m now 64, which seems a bit preposterous, since I
have a daughter still in college - and I’m anything but a retiring
A bit of background: I own a walking tour business, focusing on
ethnic food in NYC. I've worked in education and journalism. I've
written several books. When my daughter was in elementary school, I
became a career changer, switching from working at non-profits to
becoing a special education “resource room” teacher. It gave me the
same schedule as my daughter, and the job is satisfying and,
luckily, close enough to home that I can ride my bike to work. I've
loved having long summers off. I love to travel and have been to
many countries. I lived in Paris as a student (long ago) and in
Johannesburg during the heady years when Mandela had been newly
released, through to his election to the presidency of South
Africa. I recently returned from a short trip to Medellin, Colombia
- an beautiful city that has emerged with pride and progress from
the horrors and losses of its violent past. I was fascinated to
visits its Casa de la Memoria - a museum that aims to celebrate
Medellin's emergence from the horrors without forgetting
My passions - aside from NYC itself - include cycling, listening to
jazz, exploring NYC neighborhoods, theater and reading. I helped
found a book club in my neighborhood and had the joy to read Isabel
Wilkerson's remarkable "The Warmth of Other Suns" and Colum
McCann’s brilliant “Let the Great World Spin” among the many great
books we've chosen. To me, a great book is like a gourmet meal: I
love the different courses as I move through a delicious book and
savor the feeling that comes with finishing it. But I also feel sad
when the “meal” is over and I hunger for second helpings from that
FYI – I live in northern Manhattan, near beautiful Fort Tryon Park.
Light, quiet and green space mean a lot to me, and I have all of
these where I live. I don’t have a car, so mass transit and bicycle
are my main modes of transportation! I've never been married but
was in a long live-in relationship. However, I raised my daughter -
who I adopted - on my own when the relationship ended. My daughter
is studying engineering at Johns Hopkins. We're very close but
she's as independent as she should be, which means... very!
Strong-minded, funny, decisive and delightful. I'm a proud
Three more things: 1) Please don’t contact me if you live far away.
I’m not interested in a long-distance friendship/relationship. 2)
Please actually read the profile. From time to time I get messages
that indicate that whoever saw it didn't take the time to read it.
And 3) please tell the truth. I don't lie about my age (and it
probably works against me. Sigh.) So please don't lie about yours.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I support my daughter and myself (and my passions) by working as a
special education resource room teacher, which means that I work
with small groups of students with learning disabilities. I'm in my
14th year of teaching (with retirement plans looming close) and
preceded that with a range of writing, editorial and research jobs,
with a four-year "intermission" living in South Africa (where I was
able to do a fair amount of writing). I publish an occasional
newsletter and blog related to food and neighborhoods in New York
City and take lots of photos! I love to swim! I enjoy the freedom
of the empty nest - but am also intimidated by it and am always
very happy when my daughter comes home to visit. She's in college
in a nearby city so I can see her fairly often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
exploring, writing about, and leading food-themed walking tours in
NYC's ethnic neighborhoods as part of a business I created 16 years
ago. My book about NY food, entitled Nosh New York, was published
by St. Martin's Press in 2003. While I'd love to update it, this
probably won't happen because of the proliferation of food blogs...
sigh. I'm very much into the idea of food as a gateway to new
cultures - and a way to foster peace. So my tours also include
history and culture.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have no idea. Ask them!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Andre Schwarz-Bart's "The Last of the Just" was my first
favorite book as an adult (I loved Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle books as a
child); more recent favorites include Colum McCann's masterpiece
"Let The Great World Spin," Michael Chabon's "The Amazing
Adventures of Kavalier and Clay" and Joseph O'Neill's "Netherland";
all-time favorite movie is Paul Mazursky's "Next Stop, Greenwich
Village." My favorite Broadway play is "Jerusalem," which was in
NYC in 2011, starring the remarkable Mark Rylance (I saw it three
times), and I'm a fan of the musical "Finian's Rainbow," which
surprised me with its political depth and brilliant lyrics. In
early 2015 I was captivated by the brilliant play "The Curious
Incident of the Dog At Nighttime," which i made a point of seeing
twice, once with its star, another time with the regular
understudy, who was excellent!
Food: Take me to an ethnic neighborhood of NYC and I'll take you to
the best eateries... or surprise me with your own favorites (or
your cooking!). Not interested in so-called "in" neighborhoods;
have never eaten in "hipster" Williamsburg but do know the delis
and shops in kosher Williamsburg!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NOT in order - here are SEVEN!
1. Being a mom to my wonderful daughter
2. A great guy to be a best friend & more!
3. New York City & opportunities to travel to other world
4. My bicycle
7. Friends who are always there for each other!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how to finish all the things I want to do, including reading
books, seeing theater, creating photo essays, exploring NYC, my
next trip, seeing my daughter through to happy, stable
... giving away lots of stuff I don't have the heart to give away.
(I'm not a hoarder but I am very sentimental so I hold on to things
that I should have given away long ago.)
... finding the right person to share life with!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... there is no "typical" Friday night. Sometimes it's "happy
Friday" with my colleagues. Other times it's going out to dinner
with friends in one of NYC's great neighborhoods. Still other times
it's going to MOMA, theater or movies... and other times it's
coming home, reading, vegging out and making sure I see the Friday
night edition of Rachel Maddow!
You should message me if
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you've read my profile thoroughly and feel that we truly share
similar values, experiences and goals. No response if you live far
away and/or have clearly not read about who I am. Ditto if you
can't write a good grammatical sentence and/or clearly have not
taken the time to proof-read! Also, please be honest about your age
and your situation (job, family, etc.). The truth will come out at
some point if you're not. It's a waste of time if you can't follow
these simple requests. I realize that I'm probably losing out on
meeting great guys because I'm in my 60s, but I believe honesty is
essential in a good relationship, and I really hope to find just
one amazing person whose life I can enhance and who will enjoy
being my partner.
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