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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English, Hindi, Sanskrit, Urdu
My self-summary
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I am considered simple, easy going, minimalist, and someone who appreciates a sense of humor, quirkiness, and intelligence.

Apart from my day job at a tech startup, I spend time on creating art, drawing, and poetry. I enjoy making charcoal portraits, writing poetry and run a poetry meet-up group in San Francisco.

Up until recently, I did not feel I belong to a place or country and called myself - "Place Agnostic" (Mumbai, Pune, Bangalore, Delhi, London, White Plains NY, Princeton NJ, Atlanta, Santa Barbara), but then I fell in love with San Francisco for its laid-back, quirky and adventurous people.

I admire thoughtful, well-read, ambitious, and someone who has a creative side. My thought process has evolved in recent years, and can be summarized in an article by another technologist -

I find the spark in free thinkers, free spirits people - not defined and bounded by notions of religion, society, and upbringing, and those who are contemporary yet classy, thoughtful yet adventurous, and respectful. In general the philosophy that drives me in life is centered around questioning and challenging social status quo, learning, improving and challenging oneself every day, active life, working to enjoy life, striving to become a better person, and more importantly ability to connect at human level.

Being vulnerable, authentic, and real are not for the weak-hearted. I respect and love individuals who possess these qualities.

I am seeking someone who is looking for meaningful conversations, finding a genuine connection, enjoy reading and spending time at cafes, live music at small neighborhood places, seeking effortless chemistry, synergy and potential for growing together and enjoy the life at our own pace. I find reading and writing together, walking in the park, or relaxing with wine are just as fun as going out on hikes/treks and physical activity/gym.

I like to explore and visit cities together, enjoy road trips, develop a deep bond and caring relationship where we connect at multiple levels. I value personal time for creative writing and poetry, and hence I value same for others.

I am willing and open to new experiences of creativity, thoughts and culture. I make honest attempts to be helpful, encouraging and kind to people around me. It is my constant quest to improve and become a better human being.

My interests are diverse, and evolve as I explore myself as a person such as - learning a new language, going for a theatre class, drawing/sketching, going on a drive without fine prints, spending time at the bookstores, public libraries, museums, art shows, spending time reading/blogging at cafes, going out for live music, movies, enjoying a stroll in neighborhood parks and more. Doing all of the above and more with the right person is even more fun.

I spend time connecting with myself. I play games :) - Ping pong, badminton, field hockey and soccer. I enjoy running and biking around Golden Gate Park and Ocean Beach.

I switch between carefree and intense.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Taking time to smell the roses on the way!

Trying not to stuck up feathers up my butt and look like a chicken :).

Working with a tech startup. I love my job, and my colleagues.

I love taking mini road trips for few days be it long weekends or taking few days off. I love visiting small towns, strolling around the local stores, stopping to feel the air on the lookouts, striking conversation with locals and strangers, and in the process learning their stories and developing serendipitous experiences.

I run a poetry reading meet up group across SF/South Bay - If you are someone who likes live firehose of information, my opinionated self is found here -

I am a beginner level Djembe (African Drums) and percussion drum player. One of the interesting things about playing drums is that it builds a structure of rhythm, and then you go in and out of the structure while maintaining rhythm and tempo. I think this applies to even relationships. The best times of a relationship is when you are able to slowly build the tempo, rhythm and then be able to hold that for very long periods of time :).

I took summer lessons to learn basic Arabic. I love to read and learn about different religions including Buddhism, Christianity, Islam and Hinduism.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Slow Jamming the Life.
Sketching and Drawing.
Long drives without lot of fine prints.
Cooking vegetarian food.
Making pour over coffee.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curly Hair.
My Hats.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - Notes from Underground, The Plague, The Crisis of Islam, Short Stories by Tagore, Poems by Harivansh Rai Bacchan, Beautiful Sufi Poetry by Rumi and Hafiz, Poems by Pablo Neruda, Daniel Kahneman - Thinking fast and slow, The Idea of Justice - Amartya Sen, Memories Look At Me - Tomas Transtromer, The Book of Question - Pablo Neruda, Maya Angelou Poems and many many more.

For all the Haruki Murakami's fans, I would like to share his quote - "If you read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking."

Comedy and dance shows - Daily Show, Colbert Report, So you think you can dance, The Prisoners of War (Israeli TV series - Homeland is based on), House of Cards, Between two Ferns by Zac Galifianakis.

Dexter and Breaking Bad.

Music - Indian, African Drums, Soul, Jazz. A huge list on Pandora and Spotify.

I like to try out new places to eat always. Italian, French, Ethiopian, Mediterranean, Indian and many others.

Movies - I love SFIFF; I have watched many SFIFF movies for last 3 years. Among many favorites, a few are - Tincup, Shawshank Redemption, The Aviator, Inglorious Bastards, Invictus, Inception, The Departed, Shutter Island, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, The Patience Stone, Stories we tell, Tangerines, Return to Homs, Begin Again ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Spending time with family.
Reading books, and alone time.
Intellectual honesty.
Listening, reading and working on new ideas.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Many things but one in particular - Why everyone seems to have read - Alchemist :)

Looking for the cool events every week in the city, and places to visit.

In general about - how to enjoy life and been healthy. Being positive, and making every day in life and work fun. Developing new hobbies, and how to keep the balance in life.

How to help under privileged, low income families ? - I worked on building platform to help improve their livelihood. Yea, who wants to know serious side here, right :)

Is hope a human right ? Fairness ! Who invented this concept ?

It is about time, I invent my own holidays !
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes cooking and relaxing at home, out on hayes/cole/mission, spend time at bars in the neighborhood. Going out for gigs - live music or shows.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love gummy bears.
I wish I can kiss SF fog :)
I am solar powered.
I own a real type writer.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a positive person who wants to build a meaningful and rich life filled with diverse experiences and explorations.

You are curious, soulful, and someone who listen to their creative side. You like to observe things around you and immerse yourself in experiencing the moments.

You have a worldview, open-minded, aware and appreciative of different cultures and religions. You like reading books, and in general intellectually curious. You have opinions and are passionate about something in life.

Above all, you are genuine, ready for an honest and real connection, building a relationship and life together, willing to meet in person, take it slow, and see how it goes.