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iminyjo

35 / F / Straight / Single

New York, New York

Her Details

Last Online
May 16
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m).
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I've been a member of OkCupid for six years and counting and I have had a lot of fun with it.

I'm originally from The Bronx but spent much of my formative years growing up in Northern California in the Bay Area. It's nearly impossible to overstate how that shaped my outlook on things. I can be sort of cynical and cagey, but it's kind of a front for the soft and fluffy hopeful optimist that is lurking beneath. The New Yorker in me threatens to make me aloof and dour, but I'm actually quite a friendly and trusting soul. I've just learned to hide it well.

When I grow up (!) I want to be a novelist or at least get paid to write something, anything. :-) I've written for as long as I can remember, quite literally before I had words -I drew pictures (which goes a long way toward explaining my affinity for comic books). I admit to being a bit scattered in my interests. I'm a bit of a nerd, a complete cinephile. There are few things I won't watch (from obscure arthouse docs to the most asinine big budget comedies). I adore movies and thought for a number of years that I wanted to be the director of kick-ass action movies on par with a Kathryn Bigelow or Mimi Leder or the screenwriter of the next DieHard (I mean not, like, the sequels, I meant the original -you remember yippee-kai-yay).

Growing up my most serious and long-lasting aspiration was to be a veterinarian-until Calculus and Chem royally kicked my ass in college. But despite my failure to master covalent and ionic bonds or complex variables or whatever abstract thing it was they were trying to teach me, many aspects of science in general and biology in particular still intrigue me; so I read the Science Times religiously on Tuesdays (just like my H.S. Bio teacher taught me- thanks Mrs. Battaly!!) However, I'm still prime for #1 passenger on the short bus with regard to mathematics- seriously, it's scary how much I don't know and can't figure out (I think this admission was a viable candidate for "Most private thing I'm willing to admit"). Word to the wise, don't ever ask me to calculate the tip or tell you the sale price, I'll just make you sad.
What I’m doing with my life
I like to think I'm a writer. But I don't know anymore, because nothing I've written has been published in quite a few years. (Alright I'll admit that I haven't submitted anything for publication in the same amount of time). Right now, I think I'd like to go back to school to get my MFA. No use in suggesting I plan on getting it soon though, since currently I'm enslaved to the dread demon "Full-Time Gainful Employment" in a desperate and ultimately futile attempt to placate the twin succubi "Mounting Expenses" and "Bottomless Educational Debt".
I’m really good at
Listening, Laughing, Talking (a lot...no, seriously A LOT), Having fun. Treating people with respect. Apologizing when I'm wrong. Giving a compliment to someone who's earned it (or needs it). Giving bad advice. Giving good advice. Being loyal.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile...and I have big eyes, apparently. Oh yeah and beautiful lips (I swear that's not just me being vain - more than one make-up artist told me that- I blame bridesmaid duty at weddings) and my poor fashion sense....I wish that last bit weren't so (Candidate #2 for "Most Private Thing I'm Willing to Admit").
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
After reading some of the profiles of guys I thought were interesting and the ladies that make up my "competition", I'm kinda embarrassed that I can't say my favorite books aren't a little more highbrow. I think people don't admit to themselves or each other how much this section makes or breaks a profile. One wrong choice...such as a weakness for Danielle Steele or Stephen King (just examples okay, EXAMPLES I SAY!) and all the cute Philip Roth fans, Cormac McCarthy junkies or Paulo Coelho adherents head for the hills! So let me just say it now, I do know who Proust, Hemingway and Faulkner are, it's just that my reading tastes tend to be far more pedestrian. Don't judge me... (okay, that was Candidate #3...are you keeping track?)

My favorite film...not sure anymore, don't think I have one. I've seen too many at this point. Seriously, as a child, my step-dad's BFF owned a video store that was like my own personal candy store (can you say Rated-R movie cavalcade?!?!) and we owned over 500 ourselves. So picking just one or two is tough, but I will say this, as a kid it used to be a tie between The Terminator and the aforementioned Die Hard (which I personally think is the best plotted, paced and executed action movie of its kind).

Other childhood favorites were Clash of the Titans (haven't seen the remake, and yes I now do know with my adult eyes that it was stupid with the mechanical owl and everything), the Rocky Horror Picture Show (Time-Warp- 'nuff said), Miss Firecracker, Crimes of the Heart, etc.... And though my tastes have certainly matured, I guess the truth is I'm still quite lowbrow. More recently, I saw and enjoyed Les Misérables and Django Unchained.

TV: I watch more than I should admit- Assorted L&Os (SVU, UK, etc.)- it's like comfort food for any NYer I think. Greys, Scandal (it's so stupid but I can't stop- it's like "girl crack"), The Good Wife, Justified, True Blood, Archer, (Homeland, at the urging of family and friends), Boardwalk Empire, The Walking Dead, Breaking Bad (just finished season 4 on Netflix)... side note, I might be in the minority opinion here, but Walter should have cut Pinkman loose three seasons ago.

Musically, I tend to be more of a generalist. A survey of my iPod would uncover R&B/Hip Hop mostly but I'm open to all sorts of music. I'm completely willing to be musically educated. At work I float between my "Sarah McLachlan", my "Eric Hutchinson", my "Police" and my "Aaliyah" stations on Pandora. (Side note: "Sarah McLachlan" plays very little actual Sarah McLachlan and for some reason, Spotify and IHeartRadio freak me out in a way Pandora never has so I remain resistant...for now).
The six things I could never do without
I answered this on another site. Let's see, what did I say:
...a blanket (I can't stand to be cold)
a tv
pen and paper (I am a writer after all)
sugar (I have a crazy *insane* sweet tooth)
and a book (I love to read).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My friends and family, my health, my figure (what woman doesn't), the future...
On a typical Friday night I am
Vegging out with some take-out -making it a Blockbuster night (or lately Netflix...don't ask me why at one point I was subscribed to both, it's a long sordid story). OK, UPDATE: so as I was recently reminded, Blockbuster is over and done with and usually my Netflix selection is collecting dust on my bureau. So it's really just me and whatever programs my fickle DVR (that I've named Josh) has decided I can watch.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't have a driver's license. As a result, I'm very nervous in cities without reliable public transportation options (whether or not I will actually have to use it).
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You can appreciate a little self-deprecating humor, you think you're pretty cute, you think I'm pretty cute, you've discovered that dinner with friends is always a good time, you like the actual experience of movie-going (cool theater, warm tub 'o popcorn, giant screen and someone to share it all with), you love a good conversation, a bad joke or a great book. And especially if you have something interesting to say- I love that!