In my personal life away from work I'm a bit of a dichotomy. I enjoy being adventurous and trying new things (I've been skydiving, surfing, swimming with dolphins and enjoy rock climbing but it’s not about what you have or haven’t done it’s about the mentality of being open to trying new things and exploring) but I'm also an introvert so need plenty of quite time at home, maybe snuggled up next to you watching a movie or Netflix? I love to try new things, find the optimal way to do something and do blind taste tests to see what brand I really like the most instead of what I think I like the most. I've been told that I have midwestern values, meaning that I tend to be practical in most of the things I do. I love dogs and while I don't own one myself, it’s great if you do and your dog and I will probably become good friends. I also usually visit at least one farmers market during the week.
Professionally I have an advanced degree, work in the finance industry and have my own small business. While you don't have to be in the corner office it would be great if you loved your job or were at least trying to better your career and can support yourself. It would be even better if you know what a savings account was and have one.
Spiritually, I was born Christian but I'm not overly religious and especially when it comes to organized religion. Technically I think I'm probably agnostic, but I tend to think along the lines of karma, that there is something more then just us and that were all connected somehow so it's best to live as good of a life as you can.
Sexually while I love kissing and cuddling and soft, gentle romantic sex, I also like to spice things up with some kink friendly activities quite often. To be clear, I'm not in the "lifestyle", I am looking for a romantic connection and compatibility first, anything kinky comes second. From when I first started learning about kink and kinky activities, I've vacillated about how much kink and BDSM matters to me. I've gone from totally vanilla to completely kinky and I've come to realize that at the end of the day I need both — a love centric relationship with cuddles and kisses but also plenty of the dirty stuff. In the past I've primarily been the dominant one in the relationship but I usually run about 80%/20% dom/sub so ideally I’d find another switch where we could satisfy all of each others needs.
Though I am much more than my kinks, it is an important part of my sexuality, and I need it to be in my partner’s life, too. For beginners or kink curious reading this: if you are interested, send me a message. I have experience and won’t rush you into any situation or make you uncomfortable, nor do I have unreasonably high expectations that I expect you to meet but rather I will go at a pace that you will find both exciting and comforting. That doesn't mean that I won't try and push you and make you grow, but I always remember that everyone, including myself, was new at some point. If you're more experienced, that's great, my interests don't run that extreme so I'm sure we'll most likely find a lot of common ground. I would like someone who has a high sex drive, who is sexually adventurous, is open about what they want or would like to try, who loves to makeout and cuddle, and who loves to play and keep it interesting. Perhaps a little control in the bedroom goes a long way in the rest of your life. Maybe you find the idea of being tied up and ravaged to be exciting and something you desperately hope to experience or perhaps it's something you've done before and its become something you need in a relationship - either way I'd like to hear from you.