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indecisionwins

31 Los Angeles, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Dec 8
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I really enjoy having conversations with intelligent people who are curious about the world--whether about politics, Jewish cultural stuff, stories of my past (or yours), or something else. I tend to be opinionated, but I'm also happy to be shown why I'm wrong if I am. I usually prefer a friendly (but intense), rambling discussion to a head-to-head debate, though. I can be shy in certain contexts, but I'm pretty talkative and open once I get into a conversation...

I like exploring new places (museums, neighborhoods, restaurants, etc.), and I also like going to see interesting movies. I'm generally not so interested in bars/clubs. I usually wouldn't be the first to sign up for a long hike, but I can definitely admire the natural beauty of the outdoors in California. Mostly, I enjoy hanging out with and getting to know interesting people in a quieter place.

I'm in a Ph.D. program in research psychology (cognitive neuroscience) at UCLA, and although I sometimes wonder if it's worth it (Ph.D. Comics makes some good points! :-) ), I'm generally excited to be in academia, especially after it took me a bit of time to figure it out and get to this point... (I sometimes take a while to actually figure out which direction I want to go in, which is where my username comes from...but once I do figure it out, I'll go all out for things...)

L.A. is maybe growing on me a little, now that I've been here a while, although there is still a lot about this crazy city that I don't really get. But it does have its charms... Like the random, intellectually stimulating lectures/programs that occasionally come up, for one. There's also the fact that you can find so many kinds of tasty food around the city. (I haven't managed to explore enough of the restaurants around here, but I know that there are some good ones. There were also the food trucks that used to come to UCLA, many of which had really tasty food, but they sadly got replaced by something more permanent but less tasty.) Oh, and the weather, of course. (Well OK, I actually still think the weather here is kind of strange--why can it be hot during the day but cold at 8 PM??--but I mostly can't actually complain about it.)

I'm originally from St. Louis, and I lived on the East Coast for 8 years (Philadelphia area for 6 years, and then Connecticut for 2 years) until I moved out here for grad school.

While I can be serious at times, I do have a sillier side, too... And finally, last but not least, even if I'm a bit awkward sometimes, I usually try to be a nice person, and I'm almost incapable of lying...
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in grad school now, and hoping to be a professor in a few years.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- taking tests in school (although, hmm, unfortunately that's not actually a useful life skill beyond a certain point, is it?)
- intense conversations
- With close friends, being a sympathetic ear to help when they have problems, and trying to help analyze their problems (but despite the fact that I study psychology, I really am only an amateur psychologist in that sense...).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Reading: The Steve Jobs biography was really interesting. I don't manage to read books as often as I'd like, but I do spend a fair amount of time reading about current events (in the NY Times, The New Republic, etc.).
TV shows: House, The West Wing, Monk, Law and Order, Rachel Maddow.
Food: Some of the food trucks that used to come to UCLA are really good...including the Flying Pig, Canter's Deli (especially their chocolate chip rugelach!), and India Jones. I also generally like Indian, Thai, Mexican, Greek, and Italian food...
I often prefer (intelligent) talk radio to music, but I do like a lot of the music that they play on KCRW...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- The Internet
- My computer (OK, that's partly a repetition of the above, but...)
- Trader Joe's
- NPR (I mentioned KCRW above, but I'm also a big fan of NPR more broadly...)
- Air travel (to occasionally see my family and friends around the country)
- Intellectual stimulation of some sort
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A lot of things, but here are a few:
-- Politics (especially wondering how the Republicans manage to convince so many people to vote for them despite a complete disregard for reality)
-- My research (trying to figure out what the next steps are...)
-- What's going on inside the heads of the people around me (and what's inside my own head, too, sometimes...)
-- How I can take advantage of the good parts of living in a city like Los Angeles, and wondering where I can find more like-minded people to explore with...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some Fridays, I'm at Shabbat services and/or dinner. I've been sort of off and on over the years in terms of how active I've been Jewishly, but I do think that's a nice thing to have in common with new people (definitely not a requirement, though). I wouldn't consider myself particularly "religious", but being culturally Jewish is important to me.

When I'm not busy with that, my Friday nights usually aren't all that exciting (some combination of reading stuff on the Internet, listening to the radio, talking to friends online, watching TV, etc.). But I'm also not opposed to going out somewhere, if the opportunity presents itself...
You should message me if
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You're a good person at heart, but also intelligent and interesting, and a little bit off-center (because being too normal is boring...). I generally like people who are intellectually curious, really valuing learning and knowledge for its own sake. And also someone who is willing to be a sympathetic ear, but who can also tell me / convince me when I'm wrong.

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