Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First off, I will RARELY if ever send the first note. The kinds of
people who are looking for, or accepting of, who and what I am are
few and far between, so I prefer to not bug anyone who would rather
not hear from someone who is queer and involved in open
relationships. This does NOT mean I am not interested in meeting
folks of most flavors! I certainly am. I will respond to each and
every person, spend a bit of time getting to know you, then decide
if we would get along well.
I am eclectic, eccentric, reliable, and fun. I enjoy life and
living it and I am never bored. I am patient and passionate about
the things I love. I am very intelligent and I love making the
people around me feel smart too. I try to be kind and considerate,
even to those who do not return the courtesy, but I know how to not
be a doormat. I have two female primary partners and a female long
distance relationship, with whom I share most things, and we lead a
slightly kinked lifestyle without being too out there. We are
polyamorous and it's worked pretty well for almost a decade now
among my primary partners and I. I've been polyamorous pretty much
most of my life and have found that it suits me best. The couple of
times I've tried monogamy it ended when they cheated on me!
People who know me casually will assume I am straight because I
don't act like a stereotypical queer, whatever that means... I am
involved in a lot of traditionally straight male activities,
however I am most certainly not straight. I become interested in
someone for who they are and their physical attributes are
secondary to that. To be sure I appreciate the physical attributes,
but it also doesn't matter if those are male, female, both, or
neither. I don't try to identify as straight and a lot of the
typical gender duality ways of thinking really grate on me as my
internal landscape is more androgynous or gender neutral.
I live in the woods and spend most of my time there which suits me
fine. If someone offered me an all expenses paid trip to New York
City for a week, or an all expenses paid trip to backpack in Alaska
for a week, there wouldn't even be any hesitation in the decision.
And if I could drive to the Alaska trip so's to experience the
country, so much the better. I try to get out west a couple of
times a year for backpacking trips, and I love exploring new places
away from the crowds. I am off-grid and have been building my
homestead for the last two decades now.
I sold a business I ran for a long time a couple of years ago and
am enjoying taking some time for myself. I am working part time
doing something I enjoy and have the means to support myself. I
have never expected someone else to support me and I prefer
partners who are self-sufficient.
Oh, that religion thing? I'm respectful of other people's religious
beliefs if they are sincere and not hypocritical about them and
they don't try to get me to share. As far as myself though, I am an
apatheist. Apatheists Just Don't Care.
I am very emotionally stable and even-tempered. I don't buy into
the excuse of being "fiery" to describe treating someone else
poorly, and I very much treat other people at least as well as I
expect to be treated, if not a little better.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Mostly exactly what I want to be doing! I teach in emergency
services and am involved in a lot of activities.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am the proverbial jack of all trades! I love learning new skills
and using the ones I have. If I care about you I can listen really
well. I enjoy understanding who someone is, but don't mistake that
for agreeing with who or what they are.
I build and fix things. I can manage groups of people coming
together for a common goal, but I'm a good follower too when I need
to be. I tend to be a nexus point in networks of people as I like
figuring out who should meet each other.
I am a scientist in that I believe in the scientific method for
adding to the general body of knowledge, and I am trained in
several disciplines. I am also an intuitive person and often follow
my instinct, but I always try to distinguish which is my feeling
and which is fact.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The impish grin barely hidden.
Many people I've gotten to know over the years have told me that
one of the first attractive physical features they noticed about me
was my arms. I never gave it much thought until I had several folks
tell me about it later.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Bujold, hands down. Others too numerous to mention. I read a
lot! Movies, meh. Shows, some plays and musicals. Music, 60s and
70s rock with a mixture of other eras and genres. Television is a
complete waste of time.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Being out in nature in some way. Urban settings give me the
I can be unclothed all day long but feel naked without my
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, the universe, and everything!
At night I lay back, look up at the stars, and wonder...
... what the hell happened to my roof???
Why do so many straight men visit my profile? Secretly interested?
What percentage of personals ads on sites like these actually
result in people meeting and becoming friends or more? In a decade
of using them, both as a single person and otherwise, I can
honestly say that out of hundreds of conversations with folks,
three have resulted in actually meeting someone.
I know it's easy to blow off a name on a screen, but I try to deal
with folks I meet online as if they were actual people and treat
them as I would like to be treated.
So many people say they are looking, but their actions seem to
belie their words. I know not everyone will be compatible, but when
it never even gets to the point of getting to know someone, what
exactly is the point?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I've not had a typical Friday night in years. Half the time it's
hanging with a sweetie, the other half the time both my partners
and I are traveling somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think I have a cute butt. It's the only part of my body I am
You should message me if
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You find me interesting and are interesting yourself. I am
particularly looking for a casual boyfriend. Someone who
understands that I already have two primary relationships and a
third long distance, all of whom mean everything to me and am not
looking for another primary or even a strong secondary and that I
am a fairly busy person who WILL make time for people who make time
for me. Ideally I would like to meet a guy who is involved in many
of the activities I enjoy and who wants to share them, and with
whom I can be snuggly and enjoy some intimacy as well, but hey, a
casual partner is fine too as long as we click.
That aside, I am looking for friends in general, male, female, or
other, real friends who go out and do stuff together. If they are
folks who might be interested in getting intimate with myself and
my partners more's the better but it's not a requirement. Deeper
emotional development is not off the table but would have to come
about naturally, it is not being sought.
If you like doing outdoors stuff and are looking for open minded
activity partners, even if nothing physical will ever happen. I
really enjoy hiking/backpacking, kayaking, day bike trips...
Maybe you find just me interesting and have no interest in my
partners, drop a line and let's see what happens! When I say I'm
looking to meet new friends, I'm not just speaking in code, I
really am interested in meeting new friends.
If you speak Spanish fluently and want to teach me/us, you've
piqued my interest!
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