Just a curious boy who walked though the looking glass into the world of queer and indulgence that is San Francisco. I like nice people, food and doing things. I want to meet more people who want to do things like go hiking and camping in California, go out modern dance and art performances, teach me how to weld and let me work on their art projects, find new places to eat and people who want to get together to cook and play silly card games. I like to kiss people deeply and I occasionally think how nice it would to go a date with someone I haven't known for years . I think it would be nice to date and get in relationships with people outside the circle and community I already have. I have old fashioned values like honestly, loyalty and commitment that I try to apply to my far from old fashion life in the city.

I'm not into sports, I am into the arts. I'm not into sexism, racism, homophobia or classism, I am into white folks who work on their white supremacy issues and don't react in a knee jerk reaction when called on their ignorance and biases. I'm not into being uber mascluline, I am into being dominant and a top. I'm not into overly serious BDSM, I am into sex and play where laughter is ok. I'm not into worrying about my weight, looking younger or being trendy, I am into feeling hot in great in whatever outfit I am in.

I've lived in enough socialist countries to know that social democracy is indeed better than other systems of government for most people.

Some words that people tell me are important to mention about me are below:

poly
kink
queer
trans
ftm
urban dweller/nature lover
feminist
teacher
student
non-academic
dyslexic
sailor
switch
working class raised
sarcastic
creative
geeky
mac user
fond of biographies and history books
Dr. Who fan
scared of fan fiction
culture whore
foodie
traveler
explorer
tactless
brutally honest
survivor
work in progress
straight edge
married and yes it's a queer marriage
my friends are my family and I feel very lucky to have then in my life even if most of them live in the East Bay or overseas.
have lived on three continents
omnivore who can cook vegan and likes it.

teaching ESL, planning a few trips, going to many art shows and performances, hanging out with my friends, building relationships. trying to find things I like in San Francisco, playing games.

-finding good food to eat and interesting things to do.
-cutting through the bullshit and not being impressed by people's toys or years of expensive education.
-being supportive of the people I care about.
-insulting people by accident.
amusing myself and others with random thoughts.

My diminutive size.

that I look younger than my age.

that I grin a lot.

Food:sushi, brussels sprouts, asparagus,beets, lamb, dark chocolate, French food, venison, ice cream especially homemade and savory flavours, coconut bliss, avocados, I love food other than travel and my friends I rarely spend as money as I do on food.

books:Breathe, Eyes, Memory by Edwige Dandicat, Cold Comfort Farm, Dennis Cooper's books, Moliere, Tales of the City, The Hitchhiker's Quide to the Galaxy, the diamond age by neal stephenson, samual delany, cunt, the ethical slut, george sands, charles delint books, biographies, the big book, Ursula le Guin, emma goldman, saul bellows, noam chomsky, the people's history by howard zinn, I love reading and I love books.
Music:
where to begin or end everything that is creative and interesting-dyke punks, homo hop, queercore, new wave, no wave, electroclash, FOLK, classical, italian opera, mozart, trip-hop, acid jazz, big band, torch songs, eartha kitt,

Movies and TV, I don't own a TV but I do download and watch stuff online:
Dr. Who, Torchwood, Dexter, Life

movies I like: a room with a view, tank girl, cold comfort farm, i love classic movies, musicals

1.my circle of friends and lovers
2.good food
3.hope
4.curiosity
5.passion
6.traveling and living in new places

traveling
work
having a purposeful life
the people I love
kink
how annoying and enjoyable San Francisco can be.

out at a friend's art opening, going to a queer performance, playing games with friends, having a date with my spouse or a lover, going to a play party, relaxing at home.

I watch reality TV competition shows- ANTM, Project Runway, Top Design, Top Chef, SYTYCD etc and none of my friends even the card carrying gold star gay boys are interested in watching them with me.

you want to. I can't do it for you. If you are a sarcastic optimist who isn't afraid to admit they watch reality TV as well as going to protests and political actions. If you like to play card games and go on the swings in Dolores Park and try every ice cream place in the city. If you are looking for a kink relationship. If you are looking for a platonic friendship that involves hiking or anything to do with nature, food or going to interesting arts performances.

As for dating I am attracted to a huge range of genders and body types. I'm mostly a top and I've been into kink for around 15 years. I prefer kink to vanilla, I prefer friendships to fucks. For me attraction is very much based on personality, the interactions of ideas and personal intelligence.

The main thing I'd don't accept in friends or lovers are sexist, racist, classist or transphobic views, internalize homophobia and inability to have rational discussion or debate.