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  • Ages 20–28
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Last online
Sep 1
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Open relationship
Mostly monogamous
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)
My self-summary
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"You make me so mad in a way that I really like [...] It's like when I look back you were so damn smug and full of yourself, but you were *right* and I just wish I could have gotten there first. But when I get there first it's like 'no big deal' because 'of course she's right' [...] You're just so comfortable being an ass that it just doesn't come off the same and people can't really get mad at you for it. You see through peoples bullshit and call them on it but you see through your own too and when you find it you make sure to change it"-girlfriend (no okc profile)

"Most people are dicks by being wrong and doing it loud enough that everyone just goes along with it to appease them. Thats boring and annoying. But there are lots of ways to do it uniquely. It would seem your unique way of doing it is largely because you do it by being right instead of wrong. There is an automatic uniqueness to that, one that could probably get pretty infuriating after awhile. Also there is a very special technique to effectively saying "you don't know anything" without being offensive. [...] Which is unique too, because now you are making someone feel like they don't know anything, but thats ok, because its not their fault and you will even fix it....which now you are helping the person so you can't be dick if you are just helping someone get better at something, or learn that the way they are doing things are wrong, or learn that their thoughts on a matter are wrong."-entrenous234323
What I’m doing with my life
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Cultivating curiosity. Being that child asking "but why?" until he gets to something that makes him say "huh...". Always asking how things work and how to make them work better. Including things like going meta. And things like when to slow down on this increasingly meta neurosis.

And then slowing down and living in the present moment.

For a bit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." — Robert Heinlein

Working on it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I have a "piercing" gaze. There's a kind of intensity there, but with increasingly soft edges.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In the past, I've been sucked in by books like Thomas Schelling's The Strategy of Conflict and Robert Cialdinis' Influence:The Psychology of Persuasion. Gendlin's "focusing" is also awesome but came too late for me to get that into it. I also loved Yudkowskys rationality sequences. More recently I've been excited every time Mark Lippman comes out with a new post on his "meditation stuff" blog

In short, my drive for reading is dominated by exposing myself to new viewpoints, exploring them, meshing them with my current world view, and moving on.

I can't quite get to the core that drives my tastes in music, but here's a representative sample:

dispatch/state radio
john butler trio
staind/aaron lewis
zach brown band
counting crows
say anything
the mountain goats
violent femmes

My eating habits get so abnormal that "eat a day with me" was one punishment option for my cousins' fantasy football league - and the loser decided to walk out onto big bear lake and jump through the ice instead. But that's the extremes. Most of my meals aren't that weird.

I prefer minimal cooking. Both for ease of preparation and taste/nutrition. For cow, fish, and egg yolk, this means raw. For poultry and pork, I pieced together a temperature controlled water bath. Precisely minimum safe temp, perfectly repeatable, and minimal work (flip switch on, toss in bag from freezer, wait, enjoy). It's the engineering solution to cooking. "Sous Vide" - google it.

As compelling and enjoyable as good food can be, it is fuel first and pastime second. In a perfect world I would eat every 2 to 3 days and make it count - and then go about my business uninterrupted. Unfortunately biology limits me to eating ~1.5x per day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
*physical challenge.

*mini adventures. (no, not like "museum date", or "well worn hiking trail". Like, *real* adventures)

*mysteriously underexplored intellectual frontiers and the corresponding new ground.

*human connection. Intense and unfiltered primary emotions in both directions.


Well, that's five. Call me low maintenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to use our minds to do interesting things.

For example, you know how when it's cold out our ears/noses/fingers/toes get much colder than the rest of our body? That's because our blood vessels in extremeties constrict to minimize heat loss so that our core can stay warm. I think that's pretty cool itself, but that happens to everyone automatically. We're wired for it.

Where it gets interesting is that those same circuits can be used to help control and even outright stop bleeding. It doesn't happen automatically, but it can be taught - in 20 seconds at that. At least if you have blood pouring out of your hand and are more interested in controlling the bleeding than the outcome of the latest walking dead.

I pick that one because it's particularly attention grabbing, quick, and hard to believe (I didn't really believe it either until I saw it first hand). The ones I spend more time thinking about tend to be harder to even recognize as something worth being interested in, which makes it a bit harder to share my excitement through those.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out of town. Or home recuperating, refactoring, and planning. The latter case involves lots of jacuzzi with friends and family.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I feel more like an exceptionally big kid than a genuine grown up, and part of me definitely likes it this way.

But part of me wishes I could be "all grown up" already.

(Also, perhaps relatedly, I used to be obsessed with Peter Pan as a kid. I wore my Peter Pan costume all the time, green tights and all)
You should message me if
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I've already got a serious girlfriend and I'm not really actively seeking anything on here, but I do want to encourage interesting people to reach out.

If you have something to add to my life that I'd have a hard time finding in other people, I'd love to hear from you - even if it's something small or not entirely unique. Some of the people who are very special to me couldn't see it themselves for a while (something I need to keep working on!), and it would be a shame to not meet new awesome people just because they aren't (yet) cocky and self assured.

If you're hesitant because you're not sure whether I'd be interested, send the damn message! I'm likely more interested than you think.

If you're just not sure if you're interested enough yourself, then your unenthusiastic ass probably wouldn't interest me either. So there!