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27 F Santa Cruz, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 18–60
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:10pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
When drinking
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Polyamorous, pansexual, genderqueer, chubby, swole, kinky, primal, energy-eater, chaotic neutral. Full of salt and vinegar, addicted to puzzling at inter/intra-personal kaleidoscopes, plays very well with others.

Beware! I have a sort of "everyone's soul mate" effect about me - my current working theory is that I exude an odd combination of deep serenity in conjunction with a deep fascination towards whomever I'm interacting with, making it so unusually easy to be all-of-oneself-outloud with me that people need to define and justify that intense experience with a whole bunch of loaded words and phrases. Alternatively, I may be a succubus.

I'm highly appreciative of all types of personal fluidity (gender, sexuality, paradigm, language). The people I love most tend to be those with cores of compassion and skins of steel, who are incapable of being bored in any circumstance, and who are actively engaged in doing whatever they are passionate about. I still love and am fascinated with the deadhearts who exist in hazes of dissatisfaction and sullen daydreams, but I don't bond well with them.

Alright, adjective forest and vague anthrophilosophical notes are complete. Now for a brief sales pitch:
Are you looking for a friend or lover who will give you super comfortable hangouts filled with quicksilver banter, deep philosophical absurdism, and an unexpected enthusiasm for gory, gross, and horrifying thoughts and experiences? Do you need people in your life who make really good pillows? Do you desire nonmonogamous relationships where compassionate radical honesty are fostered and love is seen as an infinite resource? Do you enjoy seeing where you uniquely connect with each unique creature in each unique moment of ubiquitous uniquity? If so, we may get along famously :)
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in the non-profit sector, getting paid to problem-solve and talk to people. It's wonderful.

I spend most of my non-work time soaking up current events and new information, with particular emphasis on following research on human behavior and communication. I enjoy spending time with friends and lovers doing many different things: hiking, listening to music, chatting about our lives, sharing videos/information, gaming (board, tabletop, console - my PC is a POS), discussing politics and ways to influence the world, dancing, visiting museums or shows or interesting places. I art sometimes, I write sometimes, I read [mostly sci-fi/fantasy, some general fiction and rarely nonfiction] sometimes, though much less than I used to. I volunteer at a LGBTIQQA resource center doing small things to improve the comfort and aesthetics of their space.

I also enjoy doing practical things like budgets, having "how are we doing?" talks with friends/lovers, and exploring possible plans for the future (e.g. What if I want to career jump and go into the education field? What if I want to pursue a PsyD? What if I want to make a fire meteor and start learning to wield it?) I'm always insanely excited to find new ways to do or understand things, and I love collaborating with others on this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Defying conventions in deceptively casual ways.

Doing or not doing, instead of trying.

Loving fast and deep, with a distinct lack of demands and expectations (note: many people think this is a good thing until they realize that they're used to partners expressing love *through* demands and expectations. Consider this carefully.)

Entertaining myself thoroughly while accidentally entertaining others... Or horrifying them.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I get "wow, your hair is awesome!" and "your eyes are gorgeous!" and "I feel so comfortable with you!" all very frequently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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- Sci-Fi/fantasy

- Dry (esp. British) humor / existential angst / fuckfilmnoirsorrythereisaidit / supernatural-spiritual horror

- Ambient / beatpoetry / metal / altrock / throatchants

- Vinegar. Salt. Garlic. Greens. Spices. Potato. Meat?
My liquid intake is approximately 299% tea & tisane.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Biology and ecology (especially given radical environments); broad-scale behavioral assessments and statistics; hidden pieces of selves and the unseen role they play in our lives; the use-value or lack thereof in human cultures and traditions; the expansion-&-contraction of various concepts through language and mental organizing, plus how fucking beautiful those mechanisms are; sex/sexuality - mmmff oh god energy flowing between and around people; gender norms and related enforcement-coercion systems; whether or not alien contact will give us some much needed perspective on our species or tear us apart; Buddhist concepts of nonattachment and the 8-fold path; community; self-reliance, self-determination.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On most Fridays, I get off work and hit the gym before the unreasonable amount of caffeine I've pounded all day abandons me to my baseline low metabolism. I work out furiously (chasin' that endorphin high, mmmmm-MMM!) all the while thinking about how I'm going to go home and do a bunch of cleaning, or work on that art project, or train my cat to ride on my shoulders, or woo my live-in lover with my wiles and wit into some crazy animalistic lovin', or SOMETHING because dammit IT'S FRIDAY AND I HAVE SO MUCH TIME FOR WHATEVER I WANT TO DO AND I CAN SLEEP IN TOMORROW.

Then I get home from the gym and somehow fall asleep while watching Netflix.

So it goes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm sorry internet, I've already told you too much.
You should message me if
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If we have a 75% match rating or higher [or you can speculate on why we have a low match percentage in a way that doesn't indicate sheer stubborn denial of basic interpersonal paradigm compatibility.]

If you're sapiosexual. If you're both joyful and cynical as fuck. If you consider it a personal project of yours to better understand, accept, and care for yourself and the world around you in physical, intellectual, and emotional ways. If you find beauty in twisted, morbid things. If you experience existential crises on a regular basis and want to rant about how completely absurd this existence is and hyperventilate together.

If you are *actually* good with polyamorous/open 🔓 relationships [I'm not giving up my live-in partner vederoth, nor anyone else I might be dating.]

If you're in another country and want a s/text-pal in the states 😊