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27 F Santa Cruz, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:49am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
When drinking
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Polyamorous, pansexual, genderqueer, squishy-swole, kinky, primal energy-eater looking for purrrrfect connections of myriad sizes, shapes and behavior patterns (oh sweet baby kumquat give me more behavior patterns to explore.)

Are you looking for a friend or lover who will give you super comfortable hangouts filled with awesome banter, deep philosophical absurdism, and an unexpected enthusiasm for gory, gross, and horrifying thought experiments? Are you tired of having people in your life who don't make really good pillows? Do you perhaps feel super-down with open relationships where compassionate radical honesty are fostered and love is seen as an infinite resource? Do you enjoy seeing where you uniquely connect with each unique creature in each unique moment of uniquity?
A "yes!" to ANY of the above merits a message, I humbly posit. If somehow you answered "yes!" to ALL of the above then probably you are me and we shouldn't meet because it would fuck up the fabric of space and time.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in the non-profit sector, getting paid to be part personal cheerlearder, part conflict mediator, part activity organizor, and part resource guru.

Other than the paid stuff, I spend most of my time on anthrophilosophical thought-crunching, especially on the topics of interpersonal relationships and cognitive dissonance. Also I seem to have started a war on plants where I see how many different kinds I can manage to kill while trying really hard to nourish and grow them.
I’m really good at
Defying conventions in really nonchalant ways.

Being the change I want to see in the world.

Rejecting nonsensical grammar rules. Rejecting nonsensical rules/traditions in general.

Loving fast and deep, with a distinct lack of demands and expectations.

Entertaining myself thoroughly while accidentally entertaining others... And/or horrifying them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I probably have a weird expression on my face because I'm engaged in imaginary conversation with someone in my head.

If not that, probably my hair - I generally have a combination of shaved head and long hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Dry (esp. British) humor
Vinegar. Salt. Garlic. Greens. Spices. POTATO.
I'm approximately 20% tea & tisane.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Biology and ecology (especially given radically alternate environments), behavioral research, hidden pieces of selves, how crazy human cultures and traditions are, and the expansion-&-contraction of various concepts.
On a typical Friday night I am
On most Fridays, I get off work and hit the gym before the unreasonable amount of caffeine i've pounded all day abandons me to my baseline low metabolism. I work out furiously (chasin' that endorphin high, mmmmm-MMM!) all the while thinking about how I'm going to go home and do a bunch of house cleaning, or work on that art project, or train my cat to ride on my shoulders, or woo my live-in lover with my wiles and wit into some crazy animalistic roleplay, or something else because IT'S FRIDAY AND I HAVE SO MUCH TIME FOR WHATEVER I WANT TO DO AND I CAN SLEEP IN TOMORROW.

And then I get home, screw around on the internet and fall asleep. Goddamn Friday ambitions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
[Cue: audience-dependent, utterly shocking and deeply humbling revelation.]
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 18–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You really shouldn't let anyone tell you what you should do, you know. You're your own person. A free agent, a creature of will and whim! You can message WHOEVER you want, WHEN you want, WHATEVER you want!!!

... Um. I like intelligent people? And... cat videos?

Assuming you want to date/sex me, you MUST be OK with me dating multiple people besides yourself - I'm not giving my live-in vederoth up, nor any of my other myriad relations.