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53 Encino, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 31–62
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:42pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I am lying on this sofa thinking what words can I come up with that would allow me to define myself in one sentence. The qualities that I most identify with when I am at my best are INQUISITIVE, KNOWING, CHANGE, SELF AWARE, DARING, FIT, RAW, LOVING, MASCULINE, DRIVEN, CALM, ROMANTIC, INTIMATE, JOYOUS, SPIRITUAL, SENSUAL, and DEEP. Yet, while I really feel warm to those words, and to me they feel fitting, I feel they make me to be a wacky a blend of Type A and New-agey. I am I suppose, but when I do have amazing new experiences or learn something special, or someone wonderful shared their amazing life with me, I really get an appreciation. I do have a bit of Adrenaline-junkieism in my blood. When I push myself and show my strength, I am overcome with appreciation for the opportunity to live. LIfe at its best is an adventure. At this stage, I am hoping to live adventurously and joyously, and I would love to enjoy someone to share that with and be inspired by.

Too often I say something that feels real, but than feel compelled to qualify what I say because it feels misleading. I feel my words make me sound like a traditional romanticist. I am not. I am not polyamorous, but at the same time feel that a deep trusting and giving relationship makes room for the exploration of self, desires, and dreams. To me, loyalty is huge. It is not about rules, but about heart. I would love to be at a deeply connected and open place where trust was a non-issue. When there is real trust and connection, I feel same exploring our deepest dreams and fantasies.

I get my greatest joy out of doing and experiencing new things. I enjoy morning jogs, gym workout, hiking mountain peaks and desert canyons. I appreciate the journey, but do enjoy the challenge of the destination. I have hiked Whitney, Half Dome, and the Grand Canyon rim-to-rim. That said, I love to read and learn.

I am attracted to those with similar qualities of curiosity, adventurousness, openness, cerebral, cultural, physical, and have a chronically youthful soul.

There are a lot of things I do not do that I aspire to. I would love to be a great dancer. I love watching Tango, and would love to be able learn to get lost in that sensuous place without ending up on America's Funniest Videos. I would love to hike the Pacific Crest Trail just like Cheryl Strayed, but would also like to explore the planet, nature at its wildest, and humans in the most creative and passionate states. I love the National Parks and the local mountain trails (though less so at the moment as I recover from a mountain biking accident).

As much a cringe admitting this, I do love technology, and technology is my friend. I love social media, not as a way of narcissistic exhibitionism, but as a tool. I love my Twitter feed. It brings me all the stories of life, news, and experience of people who inspire me right to me. I love artistic tools that allow me to express myself, dig into my feelings, share, experience, and learn.
What I’m doing with my life
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My work until recently required I travel quite a bit. Traveling from Point A to Point B and being alone in hotels allowed me time to read and think. Commuting, I listen to a host of interesting and provocative podcasts covering self-improvement, life stories, science, politics and adventure. I listen to staple NPR (NPRish) content like the MOTH, This American Life, Savage Love, OnPoint, TED, etc. I am now in a more traditional place, back in corporate America, working reasonable hours. I miss my freedom, but am pleased I am now doing some things I need to do. I am in a comfortable place, getting ready to look for the next BIG thing. I hope to restart my consulting practice, but focus it in a way that makes peoples lives better. Fulfillment and purpose are important to me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am good at my work, and take pride in my achievements. Beyond that, I like to think i am a craftsman in a number of areas including observing nature, living a deliberately healthy life, and communicating. I am curiosity about people and things and think that has prepared me to be quite good at authentic conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I suppose my hair, but it is tamer than it once was.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lately I have have found myself reading relationship books by Dan Bergner, Vicki Larson, David Schnarch, David Dieda, and John Gottman. I am wondering if my expectation for deep connections and sexual harmony is idealistic and unrealistic, or something one risks everything for.

I do enjoy David Sedaris, Sandra Tsing Loh, (and I will add more later). I have not seen enough movies lately, but loved the Hangover, anything Cohen Brothers, Film Noir, (I will be more specific later). I love life experience oriented public radio. I love This American Life, Radio Lab, The Story, The Moth, OnPoint, etc. As for food, I mostly enjoy vegetable based, ethnic, and spicy (Indian, Thai, Malaysian, Ethiopian).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My Technology (Apple products and tools)
2. Adventures
3. Inquisitiveness
4. Passion
5. New Experiences
6. Achieving and inspiring people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Far too much. I would sleep better if I thought less. I am not a worrier but a thinker. I think about family, relationships, the environment, weekend plans, vacation plans, work issues, home care issues, kids.....

Lately, the craziness of American politics and the cold callous values that seem to be becoming mainstream have occupied thoughts. I concern myself with the peril of most living things due to humanities domination. I do think of the future: my own, the planet's, and that of humanity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sheeesh... Its Friday night and I am filling out this profile. My Friday's are usually not too exciting. I prefer to fill in my life adventures on other days and use Friday to be quiet. However, that pattern is negotiable :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am pretty much an open book. However, you will have to talk to me to get it out of me.
You should message me if
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you would like me to message you back.