Having said this I can tell you that I am proud of the man I am. I am very picky but as soon as I figuered out what I want I go straight forward and that counts for intimacy too. The two most important points in keeping a relationship alive I belive in, are constant personal growth and making shared dreams come true.
You have to love yourself and have a positive attitude towards life. Altough we all have our flaws, the most important person for you to love is yourself. Nobody on earth, nor me, can do this for you. Only those who love themselfs can truely love someone else.
Oh, you have to love children too. They are the greatest gift on earth.