I'm a very passionate man. I'm a very loyal person. Since I was very young the idea of loving and caring for a woman appeared to me as one of the most noble of pursues. I’m a geek (a programmer when I was 6 years old!) and I love sorting out daily life puzzles and problems - technology and I are good together. I’m a natural poet and a philosopher of life. I try hard to discern what’s good from wrong in my behaviors and those of others and I try to correct for what is due - and help others correct their behavior when is due, too.
Perhaps because I went through many years of psychotherapy myself, I've become very interested in deep psychology and what make us do the things we do - and how can we help and be helped to be more integrated, healthy, and genuinely happy. I’m an activist at heart and I tend to manifest against organizations or individuals that hurt people. I’m the kind of person that would not compromise and instead risk everything in order to be in integrity.
I’m a natural dad and teacher for kids, they tend to like me and I like them and I've always thought about being a father. I can be a very deep person. An ex passionate spiritual seeker now turned normal person again (more on this on the next section!) I've gone through a whole spiritual journey - so there is some depth here, that sometimes feels as if I was an older person in the body of a younger person. In partnership I tend to be extremely kind, dedicated, responsive, generous and trying to make my partner feel loved, cherished, seen, and protected.
I can be very funny, on occasion loud and energetic.
I’m a natural teacher and leader, and I feel at home if I am leading/guiding in a situation, although I am good listener and feel at home following as well. When in partnership, intimacy in the form of cuddling, sleeping together, and love making are for me of the most sacred things of life - and I cherish each of those circumstances, never taking them for granted even as a relationship gets older - each day tends to be like the first day for me.
I would like to dedicate some lines too to my defects and blind spots; I've been historically somewhat impatient and sometimes anxious.
In the past and when in situations in which I was being subtly or overtly betrayed or emotionally abused, I've responded a sometimes with reactivity, disconnection/lack of empathy and/or emotional aggression.
I've been working to overcome these tendencies (psychotherapy), and I understand now that if somebody is not being respectful and caring with me (after enough warning and communication) I should leave them instead of responding back to them with any kind of aggression or negativity. My anxiety and impatience have also been much better since I started to work with self-soothing and self-love.
Some of my particular wounds and relationship-failures in the last few years have been around dating a few women that were for different reasons unprepared and/or incapable of providing safety and/or stable love in relationship - and thus ended hurting me.
I hold high standards for monogamy both for me and my partner, which basically boil down to “when in relationship, the couple vow to -try to- focus all their sexual energy (both mental, verbal and physical) only in their partner and nobody else”. So it's zero flirting or immaturity with me please.
NOTE: I'm on this site with the intention of hopefully finding the right person for a romantic relationship. I'm not here to make new friends, for I pursue that (friendship) through other online and offline channels that I find more appropriate for that. So in case I don't see romantic potential I will probably not respond to you, even if your message seems friendly. Thank you.
Added: I am originally from Argentina, I lived more than 20 years in Buenos Aires. I then moved to France where I lived 2 years, before finally moving to Boston 3 years ago. English is my second language (French is third) and I speak it and write it fluently, yet you may find some grammar issues here and there.