I love to chat. Message me for any reason! Don't be intimidated by my profile or feel forced to read it. I'm a super nice, super "whatever" kind of character. I'm just trying to tell you everything you need to know with my profile just in case your time is valuable and you already know what you're looking for.
I'm into Ken Wilber, I'm a musician, filmmaker, and novelist. I don't have beliefs, I do love to talk, I don't mind being alone, meditation is an important part of my life, I'm extremely honest, open, and caring, highly intelligent, deeply passionate about everything I involve myself with, casual, laid back, everything's funny to me, everything's open for discussion. I'm far from perfect but I've got high self-esteem, strong work ethic and insight, willingness to change anything for the purpose of progressing and bettering myself or my relationships with the people that are worth it.
I have a weirdo, class clown, princess, hysterical comedic ranting kind of personality, but we're only talking about surfaces here. If you don't care much for depth, you'll almost certainly find me amusing at least. I embarrass myself all the time, but people tend to find me articulate, funny, and talented. I do have moods, insecurities, frustrations, and fears, but I'm very self-aware and interested in being wherever the light happens to be. I educate myself to be competent at everything I'm interested in. I have no problem admitting that I'm ignorant of many perspectives and pursuits, and I let other people educate me on those things. Likewise, I'm a sucker for anyone who appreciates and listens to what I have to say on the things I do know about, or anyone that's patient with my slow, methodical pace of learning.
I'm a very sexual person. I love to touch, play, and cuddle, and I love all kinds of sex. It's unfortunate, though, that I refuse to be a man-whore. I'm attracted to a lot of people, but I never get sexually involved with anyone I'm not at least hypothetically serious about, because clarity of intention is key to all pursuits, and what I want is a mutual love relationship, however it may turn out that you actually get there. I obviously don't know....
I like to wear women's clothing, accessories, and makeup, like Ed Wood and Eddie Izzard, and like them, it's not a gay thing, nor do I have any interest in changing my biological gender. It's a sexual fetish, too, but I see that part of it as a different thing from the gender identity part of it. I support and involve myself with LGBT people, but I'm just a crossdresser because I think I look cute in a dress and it fits my personality better than any of the "guy stuff" I find at the Goodwill Bins. I get virtually everything but socks and underwear there.
I don't have more money than it takes to live my life. No trophy goods. Fancy dinners and vacations only for special occasions. I like to treat a woman well by being kind and generous emotionally, not by wasting money on hollow gestures and crap made by other people. I WILL buy you flowers and travel to Japan with you every once in a while if it genuinely makes you feel good and helps to show that I care and am flexible. :) My care about money comes down to what I need, and I have no problem earning whatever I need, but since I have no children and nobody to take care of, I'm very happy devoting my time to nurturing the dream of an arts career, and I'm perfectly okay with it never being "economically viable" as a profession. It's 2014 ladies. The Future is wide open, but how about I stay home and make quilts and care for the babies and vegetarian dinner while you go out and conquer the world? Or, you just be okay with the awesome guy that I am, in spite of the fact that I have no interest in slaving my life away to impress people and earn a mate. I only wear a suit in a satirical sense, but if you're not impressed with what you see in my heart, my mind, and my character, regardless of what I'm wearing, there's no further business for us to conduct.
I never cheat, I insist on being respectful, calm, and giving, even if what's happening is painful or difficult or overwhelming. I think things through very carefully before making major decisions. I've had my heart broken two major times, and I will never put anybody through what I've experienced. You just have to be honest with yourself, and find a tactful way to be honest with each other, and it doesn't have to be this drawn out, abusive nightmare just because a thing has run it's course and we've determined that we're not a match. Communicate, ask for what you need, sooner or even later is okay, but trust me, I can handle anything. I have no interest in being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love me back, though I will still love you because I'm just full of love and I give it where it needs to go and it would be very cheap of me to insist on getting anything in return, though I will eventually gravitate toward the places where it is given back.
I'm happy being single, I'd be even more happy sharing the happiness with someone who wants and deserves it.
I tend to go for people that match or are compatible with everything you see here, you don't settle for me, you're excited at the possible prospect that everything you see here is true, and open to allowing me to prove it to you over friendly dates and message exchanges, but if my self-image is accurate, I'm exactly what you want right now. Message me, already! Find out!
I may cold message you, but it's not likely. I've had bad luck with this website. Lot's of shallowness.... Lot's of flakes and people with bad attitudes and unrealistic expectations, but above all, mediocrity. I do better just going to bars, unfortunately, but I'm leaving this profile up just in case. Good luck in your own searches, everyone, and hugs for all the lonely hearts out there that want nothing to do with a guy like me. :)
I want to build very slowly and patiently toward everlasting love, and I'll relish every step of the way without expectations or misunderstandings. I have the hornyness and loneliness that all young single men have, but it's not the boss of me. I refuse to jump the gun, and I never go anywhere where I'm not wanted.
You've probably never met anyone like me before. If you have, PLEASE INTRODUCE ME TO THIS PERSON RIGHT NOW! I'M WILLING TO PAY YOU! Otherwise, just know that I realize that most people will find me arrogant, weird, and lame, so you don't really have to share that with me. About once every two years, I meet somebody that I see eye to eye with, and those are the friendships that last a lifetime. Those are the people whose opinions I care about, and those are the people that challenge me---not cowardly, ignorant internet trolls. I think the likelihood of meeting a genuine kindred on OKCupid is way less than 1%, but here's hoping.
Friend "adam loewen" on facebook if you're a real person and you want to see a zillion pics of me and determine for yourself what I'm like in the real world. No problem, no questions, my facebook is totally public and open, as I use it to promote my art projects. Just indicate that you're a real person from okcupid so I'll accept, because I don't want some bot hacking my account. That could be disastrous. If you want to do me a favor, "like" my band Stein as well. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. :)
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