Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am only interested in truly brilliant, socially conscious, and
kind men. This is important.
Actually, decency and kindness in a man is really important
I'm not often (as in almost never) interested in men my age
or older. Why? Because men of my generation, and older generations,
tend to be assholes. Even when they think they aren't, the sexism,
racism, and classism run deep. I can't ignore it, and I can't abide
But real brilliance in a man - coupled with the kind of courage
that allows one to think outside all the boxes and examine oneself
and life from every angle - is endlessly fascinating to me.
My 14 yo son told me I'm weird, nerdy, and funny in the same way
that Tina Fey is weird, nerdy, and funny. I thought, "that's the
coolest compliment I've ever gotten."
Once I am comfortable with people, I'm usually pretty funny. My
friends say I'm "clever". I'm generally calm and easy to please.
I'm happy when the people around me are happy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I finished a first-draft of a novel last November (thanks to
NANOWRIMO!) and am working on the first rewrite of it. I had a poem
published for the first time a few years ago and that was very
encouraging to me.
I've been very active in Kiva, and encourage everyone to try it.
Since we all share this planet together, I think it's important
that we take responsibility for one another. I have no interest in
people who don't take an active role in bettering this planet. A
little less Ayn Rand, and a little more Ubuntu, please.
I have very strong values, and I am committed to them. I stand up
for the underdog, won't eat chocolate unless I am as certain as I
can be that no 9-year-old slave harvested the cocoa in it, and I am
really nice to people.
The only real exception to that is if I see someone victimizing
someone who is defenseless. Or an adult being mean or rude to one
of my kids. I can get kind of vicious then. Like the time the
employees at Borders had to separate me from this nasty little man
they were afraid I was going to assault. I had my
I guess you can add that exception to my "always nice" rule. I'm
not ALWAYS nice. I'm INFJ. The J stands for judging. I suppose we
can be assholes, too, but only if we really think you deserve
I don't spend a lot of time outdoors. I am dealing with some
chronic pain-and-fatigue issues, so if you're looking for someone
to go hiking and camping and mountain climbing with, I'm not the
one for you. Move along... ;)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a Freak, apparently.
The scary thing is, that's pretty accurate.
I'm really good at self-examination. I'm not afraid of change,
revelations, or enlightenment. I will expect the same of anyone I
get close to.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like to think it's my hair. People tell me it's my eyes. I
suspect it's really my... err... 'curves'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Pachelbel's Canon in D. The Cure.
Authors: Austen, Charlotte Bronte, Laura Kinsale. Rumi. Vonnegut.
Poems: Desiderata, Song of Myself. The World,
Movies: Idiocracy, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog,
Wings of Desire. Metropolis. Rocky Horror Picture
Show. Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Heroes: Mr. Rochester from Jane Eyre, Thomas Marshal from
Ironclad, Mikael Blomkvist in Girl with the Dragon
Tattoo (Swedish version)
Dystopian stories and historical romances with happy endings. I
know, they are pretty opposite.
Guinness on tap. Esperanto. Dive bars.
I love to travel. I've lived in a dozen states and I've traveled to
a few countries. If I could live anywhere in the world it would
either be right where I am in Shenandoah Valley, or in Evora,
Portugal. I also really love East Grinstead and the Plains of San
I don't own a tv. Reality tv scares the fuck out of me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children. Laughter. Coffee. Poetry. Music.
I realize that only comes to five. But I have a lot of children,
and now they are getting married and such, and I love their
partners, too. So really the least I could do is give them 2 spots
in my list of things I can't live without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
dignity and fairness for all human beings. Basically... don't
contact me if you're into using porn or going to strip clubs. I
shouldn't even have to say this, right?
For anyone I would be truly interested in, you should be so far
outside THAT box that this would be a waste of keystrokes for me to
type this. But seriously, for the rest of you, if you're into using
women that way, just don't even contact me. It won't be
and this explanation by Russell Brand.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably at home. I have a genetic condition that will not shorten
my lifespan but does cause disability - mostly pain and fatigue. I
need a lot of downtime. If I overdo it, the fatigue sets in and it
can take a few days in bed to recover.
Sometimes in a bad spell, I need to use crutches - or a wheelchair,
if I'm out for an extended period with a lot of walking like at a
museum, the airport, or even shopping. It's embarrassing and I hate
it, but so it goes. I'm getting used to it, but also hopeful that
I'll have another upswing and get put the crutches away again for a
I don't "look sick". Actually, the condition causes me to have very
soft skin and look younger than I am - but sometimes I feel 80
years old. I guess it's a tradeoff. heh
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was born with six fingers on each hand. (But I don't still have
I'm what the Hungarian called a táltos. Actually, yeah.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you can deal with complexity. Lots and lots of it. If you can't
stand overanalytical and emotional women, then move on to the next
profile. I like to figure things out, and I feel things really
deeply... you don't have to be that way - and it's better if you're
not. But you have to be able to tolerate it.
... you support gay marriage. It's just one of those issues that's
important and fundamental enough to me that I know if you don't,
there would be too many other points of contention. I don't even
really want to be friends with people who would deny my gay
friends the right to marry.
... you have a definite preference for curves. I really don't want
to date a guy who thinks I have a pretty face, so will put up with
or try to ignore my overly abundant curves. I really much prefer
dating men who love the curves as they are. This is important to
... you like to analyze, and you like to make your own
... you naturally live by the philosophy of Ubuntu (the African
philosophy, not the operating system.) This is important, too.
Who are you looking for?
This helps us know who to show you on OkCupid.