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irreverentjane

48 Staunton, VA Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
University
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$60,000–$70,000
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Esperanto (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am only interested in truly brilliant, socially conscious, and kind men. This is important.

Actually, decency and kindness in a man is really important to me.

I'm not often (as in almost never) interested in men my age or older. Why? Because men of my generation, and older generations, tend to be assholes. Even when they think they aren't, the sexism, racism, and classism run deep. I can't ignore it, and I can't abide it.

But real brilliance in a man - coupled with the kind of courage that allows one to think outside all the boxes and examine oneself and life from every angle - is endlessly fascinating to me.

My 14 yo son told me I'm weird, nerdy, and funny in the same way that Tina Fey is weird, nerdy, and funny. I thought, "that's the coolest compliment I've ever gotten."

Once I am comfortable with people, I'm usually pretty funny. My friends say I'm "clever". I'm generally calm and easy to please. I'm happy when the people around me are happy.

I'm into what others might consider "weird religions". Currently studying Kabbalah. I love it. I love to be around people also studying these things, but all I really require in a relationship is a man intelligent enough to understand me, and who is really, really kind. The older I get, the more important kindness in others seems.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I finished a first-draft of a novel last November (thanks to NANOWRIMO!) and am working on the first rewrite of it. I had a poem published for the first time a few years ago and that was very encouraging to me.

I've been very active in Kiva, and encourage everyone to try it. Since we all share this planet together, I think it's important that we take responsibility for one another. I have no interest in people who don't take an active role in bettering this planet. A little less Ayn Rand, and a little more Ubuntu, please.

I have very strong values, and I am committed to them. I stand up for the underdog, won't eat chocolate unless I am as certain as I can be that no 9-year-old slave harvested the cocoa in it, and I am really nice to people.

The only real exception to that is if I see someone victimizing someone who is defenseless. Or an adult being mean or rude to one of my kids. I can get kind of vicious then. Like the time the employees at Borders had to separate me from this nasty little man they were afraid I was going to assault. I had my reasons.

I guess you can add that exception to my "always nice" rule. I'm not ALWAYS nice. I'm INFJ. The J stands for judging. I suppose we can be assholes, too, but only if we really think you deserve it.

I don't spend a lot of time outdoors. I am dealing with some chronic pain-and-fatigue issues, so if you're looking for someone to go hiking and camping and mountain climbing with, I'm not the one for you. Move along... ;)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a Freak, apparently.
The Freak

The scary thing is, that's pretty accurate.

I'm really good at self-examination. I'm not afraid of change, revelations, or enlightenment. I will expect the same of anyone I get close to.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I like to think it's my hair. People tell me it's my eyes. I suspect it's really my... err... 'curves'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Pachelbel's Canon in D. The Cure.
Authors: Austen, Charlotte Bronte, Laura Kinsale. Rumi. Vonnegut. N.K. Jemisin.
Poems: Desiderata, Song of Myself. The World, by Vaughan.
Movies: Idiocracy, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Wings of Desire. Metropolis. Rocky Horror Picture Show. Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Heroes: Mr. Rochester from Jane Eyre, Thomas Marshal from Ironclad, Mikael Blomkvist in Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (Swedish version)
Dystopian stories and historical romances with happy endings. I know, they are pretty opposite.
Guinness on tap. Esperanto. Dive bars.

I love to travel. I've lived in a dozen states and I've traveled to a few countries. If I could live anywhere in the world it would either be right where I am in Shenandoah Valley, or in Evora, Portugal. I also really love East Grinstead and the Plains of San Augustin.

I don't own a tv. Reality tv scares the fuck out of me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children. Laughter. Coffee. Poetry. Music.

I realize that only comes to five. But I have a lot of children, and now they are getting married and such, and I love their partners, too. So really the least I could do is give them 2 spots in my list of things I can't live without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
dignity and fairness for all human beings. Basically... don't contact me if you're into using porn or going to strip clubs. I shouldn't even have to say this, right?

For anyone I would be truly interested in, you should be so far outside THAT box that this would be a waste of keystrokes for me to type this. But seriously, for the rest of you, if you're into using women that way, just don't even contact me. It won't be pretty.

Watch this

and this explanation by Russell Brand.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably at home. I have a genetic condition that will not shorten my lifespan but does cause disability - mostly pain and fatigue. I need a lot of downtime. If I overdo it, the fatigue sets in and it can take a few days in bed to recover.

Sometimes in a bad spell, I need to use crutches - or a wheelchair, if I'm out for an extended period with a lot of walking like at a museum, the airport, or even shopping. It's embarrassing and I hate it, but so it goes. I'm getting used to it, but also hopeful that I'll have another upswing and get put the crutches away again for a few years.

I don't "look sick". Actually, the condition causes me to have very soft skin and look younger than I am - but sometimes I feel 80 years old. I guess it's a tradeoff. heh
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was born with six fingers on each hand. (But I don't still have them.)

I'm what the Hungarian called a táltos. Actually, yeah.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you can deal with complexity. Lots and lots of it. If you can't stand overanalytical and emotional women, then move on to the next profile. I like to figure things out, and I feel things really deeply... you don't have to be that way - and it's better if you're not. But you have to be able to tolerate it.

... you support gay marriage. It's just one of those issues that's important and fundamental enough to me that I know if you don't, there would be too many other points of contention. I don't even really want to be friends with people who would deny my gay friends the right to marry.

... you have a definite preference for curves. I really don't want to date a guy who thinks I have a pretty face, so will put up with or try to ignore my overly abundant curves. I really much prefer dating men who love the curves as they are. This is important to me.

... you like to analyze, and you like to make your own decisions.

... you naturally live by the philosophy of Ubuntu (the African philosophy, not the operating system.) This is important, too.