A lot of people think I'm hilarious. A few people think I'm obnoxious. Some people think I'm brave, and while I certainly do exhibit that quality in many ways, if you get to know me you may find out the ways in which I am a total pussy.
I try really, really hard to see the awesomeness in all people. Sometimes I am successful. And sometimes I determine they are just assholes.
I am married, technically, at least in Canada, but my husband and I haven't been romantically involved in a few years. We have not divorced because there is not now, nor will there ever likely be, a need to do so. We are essentially roommates who have a child together. We share a home and parenting duties and we get along just fine. I know all of his girlfriends, and they are all awesome. He often meets the people I date. "Single" is an accurate practical description of my situation. I get a lot of questions/comments about this that make me think that perhaps I'm not being clear. He and I are not pretending to be together or any such bullshit. We're a publicly and privately broken up couple who are friends and harmoniously share the same roof over our heads but certainly not the same bedroom. This living situation is positive, is not a threat to any other relationships, and is not something we plan to change anytime soon.
I tend to not favor monogamy, but I absolutely do not self-identify as polyamorous, and when people refer to poly/non-monog as a "lifestyle", I just...no. That's not me. I can expand on that if asked, but basically it boils down to feeling like it would be odd to define my life by such a thing.
I have met plenty of really awesome men on OKC. We're talking high quality humans...smart, fun, interesting people with whom I have had a ton of fun talking, dating, hanging out, making out, and banging. But these are largely not guys with whom I really want to spend my talking/hanging/making out/banging time on anything resembling a frequent basis. And I'm more than comfortable with that. I'd also be more than comfortable with...not that...but I'm also really busy (and happily so) with continually developing my own awesomeness.
I'm sort of an outgoing introvert. I'll have a grand loud time hanging out with friends at a party or talking to strangers at a bar, then go home early so I can have my required 1-2 hours of unwinding time before I sleep. I'm pretty sure there's a Myers-Briggs type for me, but I've never been able to get far in the test because I get super annoyed that I don't feel comfortable with any of the options to many of the questions, so I give up. That probably says a lot more about me than actually completing the assessment would.
I am not interested in riding bikes, being outdoors all the time (I'll walk/hike if it means I get to see way cool nature shit, and being by water can be fun...strolling around the lakes does not qualify), watching Doctor Who (or sci-fi in general, except for Star Wars because I recently let someone special turn me on to it) or not eating meat. I have absolutely zero problems with other people who are into that stuff, but it's just not my bag, and if it's important to you to connect with people who share those interests, we are not compatible. I'm throwing that out there because a ton of my really high matches are super outdoorsy bike-everywhere sci-fi loving meat avoiders. It's odd.
Clear grown-up communication is super important to me. I mean what I say, I say what I mean, nothing more, nothing less, and I expect the same from others. Don't read into shit, don't make assumptions. If I say "maybe" or "I don't know", it's genuine and means I haven't come to a decision yet...it's not a veiled "no". If you won't freak out about a person who has feelings and will express them, that'd be great.