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42 San Francisco, CA Man


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  • Ages 26–42
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My details

Last online
Mar 22
Indian, White
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Other, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), LISP (Okay), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm a perfectionist, which occasionally has an upside. I'm friends with a lot of contradictions. I'm attracted to intelligence, creativity and adventure. I'm pretty skilled at watching TV.

Some things I love and wish I'd do more: hiking, climbing, aiming, throwing, catching, finding le mot juste, tennis, spending enough time with friends and family to get to the thoughts that have been germinating in our dark corners, playing along on guitar, and doing things we're on OKC to do. (There's a lot I like about being single, but there are a few things I really don't.)

Some things I love and do almost enough of: using Turing-complete languages to solve problems, reading the New Yorker and its ilk.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write software, sometimes for good causes. I seek breadth and depth. I spend time with people who try to enjoy life, are kind, like to think, and are pretty honest, usually in the interest of getting a laugh. I keep on the lookout for more.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
noticing when someone misunderstands.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I do a little jig every thousand years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Master and Margarita
The Great Wall of China (short stories by Kafka -- esp. Investigations of a Dog)
I'll pick up Heidegger when I feel like reading something just out of my grasp -- and I sometimes do.
I read The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook cover-to-cover on a plane once. Unfortunately I don't remember a damn thing. Well, I remember that it explained how to improve your chances of survival when falling from a great height, but I don't remember the explanation.
There was a spellbinding short story in the New Yorker maybe eight years ago about a disaffected American couple who go on a resort-y vacation in south India. It was racy in multiple senses of the word. Can't remember the author or title.
I'm in the middle of Anna Karenina now -- not because the movie is out, but just because. It kind of scares me how keen an observer Tolstoy was, in that I wonder why the rest of us should ever bother to try to write anything else.

I go through micro and macro phases. Love Biggie Smalls, Billie Holiday, Bikini Kill, the Beach Boys, the National, but haven't listened to any of them in a while. I kept Beck's Stereopathetic Soulmanure on in the car for a few weeks. I've gone through a long Neutral Milk Hotel phase to get me through some melancholia -- or maybe to indulge in it. Pavement is a recurring refrain.

The last show I went to was Reggie Watts at the Independent, and he blew me away, despite the drunkenly loud and stonily inane banter of the kids behind us (not that I have anything against such banter when it's not drowning out something better). I had a mini Russian composer phase last summer (a mini phase, not mini Russian composers). Some MGMT in between. Discovered a new appreciation for old Tom Petty on the radio. I enjoy opera every once in a while. The Smiths are cool. Nirvana and the Kill Rock Stars gang all have a special place in my heart, as does Dolly Parton. This is all hard to summarize or even wrap up, so I'll just stop here.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. the ability to count
6. lots of other things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how we learn. Why I don't learn faster. Why I don't learn some things at all. Whether I'll meet someone spectacular, or whether I'm the biggest loser. Lunch. What's the deal with many Republicans. Software design patterns. Why I didn't think to say that thing that time, and whether it's too late to say it now. Where I'd like to travel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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you are absolutely positive that we will be soul mates. Or you play tennis. Or you just feel like it.