Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a perfectionist, someone who likes to tangle with
contradictions, and someone who tends to question. Sometimes these
traits have an upside, but I'll make do when they don't. I'm
attracted to all forms of intelligence, creativity and adventure. I
have a strong sense of social responsibility. I'm also skilled at
I try to keep my priorities clear, but if you send me a video
involving non-human animals, chances are I will drop everything and
watch it. If it involves some unlikely cross-species friendship,
you can probably make me miss my plane.
Speaking of which -- it's a truism, but I do love to travel. I just
returned from an incredible visit to South Africa, on my own but
connecting with a couple of friends at certain points and meeting
some wonderful, local friends of friends along the way. Got a taste
of the fascinating complexity of the country. Made countless
pedantic comparisons of Cape Town and the Bay Area, and of race
relations in S. Africa and the US, and didn't document them; you're
welcome, blogosphere. Saw big, gorgeous, non-human animals up close
in their element.
Some things I love and hope to do more: hiking, climbing, aiming,
throwing, catching, finding le mot juste, tennis, cooking and
baking for friends, spending enough time with friends and family to
get to the thoughts that have been germinating in our dark corners,
playing along on guitar.
Some things I love and do almost enough of: using Turing-complete
languages to solve problems, reading the New Yorker and its ilk.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I might say I'm trying, in fits and starts, to be less judgmental,
more compassionate, and more honest with myself. The astute reader
might take from this that I'm currently a judgmental,
self-centered, delusional asshole (the best kind of asshole!). I
hope that's not the case. Moving on.
I write software, and am about to join a company in the
educational-technology space -- very excited about that. I try to
make a decent living but also try to help level the playing field,
as the saying goes, in however small a way.
I enjoy having time on my own, but I also need a good dose of time
with my friends. I gravitate to people who are kind and honest, try
to enjoy life, like to think, learn and explore, like to be
challenged but also like to chill when their chattering minds allow
it, have an irreverent streak, and are pretty damn funny.
I also have a pretty connected and loving (and extended) family,
though we have our share of dysfunction, like most families. That's
what keeps it interesting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
noticing when someone misunderstands.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I do a little jig every thousand years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Anna Karenina: it kind of scares me how keen an observer Tolstoy
was; I wonder why the rest of us should ever bother to try to write
The Master and Margarita
The Great Wall of China (short stories by Kafka -- esp.
Investigations of a Dog)
I'll pick up Heidegger or Foucault when I feel like reading
something just out of my grasp -- and I sometimes do.
I read The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook cover-to-cover on
a plane once. Unfortunately I don't remember a damn thing. Well, I
remember that it explained how to improve your chances of survival
when falling from a great height, but I don't remember the
Monkey Hill - short story by Paul Theroux (thanks to an OKCupid
user who tracked down this title from my vague description of
I go through micro and macro phases.
Old favorites include Pavement, Polvo, Billie Holiday, Bikini Kill,
Biggie Smalls, Magnetic Fields, Sonic Youth, Stevie Wonder.
Beck's Stereopathetic Soulmanure comes into the rotation from time
More recent stuff I like includes Sleigh Bells, Dum Dum Girls, New
Pornographers, the Knife.
I go to the symphony and opera once a year or so.
I like Celia Cruz, classic rock, and Willie Nelson in the right
time and place.
There's no way I'm going to cover this topic, so I'll just stop
I'm embarrassingly out of date, but I am catching up on the Wire.
It's still really good, in case you were wondering.
I've also been enjoying Wolf Hall, having read and loved the books.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. the ability to count
6. lots of other things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how we learn. Why I don't learn faster. Why I don't learn some
things at all. Whether I'll meet someone spectacular, or whether
I'm the biggest loser. Lunch. What's the deal with many
Republicans. Software design patterns. Why I didn't think to say
that thing that time, and whether it's too late to say it now.
Where I'd like to travel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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