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35 Herndon, VA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Feb 8, 2014
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly other
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a machine that turns coffee, bourbon, and bacon into wit, shenanigans, and the occasional profanity.

I'm married and polyamorous. My wife is l0lakitten, and she's my love and my best friend. She's 100% on board with me forming my own relationships on my own terms, and I support her doing the same. We've been poly for a few years now.

I'm a nerd. I crank out software for a living. I take pictures (Canon, not Nikon). I read lots of non-fiction. I quote Firefly randomly.

My wife likes to say I'm dapper as fuck. I wear vests. I wear wingtips. I'm more fashion aware/conscious than a straight man should be.

I'm kinky, sadistic, and Dominant. I'm sex-positive and a feminist who believes in female empowerment and informed consent. I firmly believe dominant is not the same thing as controlling, and dominance confers more responsibility than privilege.

I'm athletic and outdoorsy. I Crossfit. I used to run competitively. I found my truest self in a small mountain town where upon moving in, they issue you a kayak and a large dog. Standard fare in that town was driving half-a-mile to work and then running 5k on your lunch break, or driving a $500 car with a $5000 mountain bike on the roof. I like being in the sun and getting dirty.

I love to cook. Food is the medium through which I show love, and that's an avenue of expression for my paternal/protector/provider soul, no doubt. I love music and art, but I'm not terribly talented at either. I'm generally in awe of the creativity others master that I'm just not capable of.

Other details that may shed some light into my personality, I'm libertarian, I'm Jewish, I keep to the paleo diet, and I love (and have two) dogs. I'm originally from Texas and I love southern/Americana music (but not mainstream country). If you cringed at the word "Texas", keep in mind that it's telling I left. I sometimes harbor fantasies of moving back, though.

People in my life who I love would describe me as kind, direct, intense, loyal, patient, and expressive. I endeavor to be the sort of man my dogs believe I am.

I like reading your explanations to questions on here. I've written a lot of them, so if you're interested in some of the finer details of who I am, that's probably a good place to look.
You should message me if
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The recommended criterion are....

* You're experienced with, familiar with, or at least curious about polyamory - my wife is the gravity of my universe, and I'm *never* going to leave her (nor her me).
* You're experienced with, familiar with, or at least curious about kink (and you identify as submissive).
* You are honest with yourself as much as you are honest with others. You're controversial but not dramatic - in fact, you're drama averse.
* You're curious, confident, and self-reliant. Most of my friends are educated, but all of them are passionate.
* You say what you think and mean what you say.
* You love to laugh.
* You're not a jealous or possessive person - because I'm really neither - but you're okay sharing your insecurities and worries when you have them (we all do).
* You respect your body, take excellent care of it, and enjoy using it to its full potential - but you're pretty sure you can drink me under the table.