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39 Tucson, AZ Woman


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  • Ages 28–68
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Last online
Jul 26
Queer, Homoflexible, Lesbian
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update: Having been wandering through this dating world for a while, I have a recommendation for people who are wondering if they should get in touch with me. Get in touch (please) if you're awesome and you know it. If you're a great friend, or you're amazingly generous, or you'll blow me away with your ability to stimulate my mind, or you love Love (nod to Pink). If Sonoran sunsets make you cry sometimes or you've decided to live off the grid and you're into hydroponics/aquaponics, urban homesteading, if you brew beer in your basement (I've known one person in Tucson who actually had a basement; shocking!) and you burned your television. Please, contact me. Don't lurk. Don't be shy. I'm confident, and direct, and friendly, too, so let's just get that cuppa or pick up a six-pack on the way to Gates Pass and we'll sit, tell stories, and pass a bit of time together.

In contrast, you should NOT contact me if your only way to impress me is to talk about your bank account, your house, your accoutrements of capitalism, or how your intelligence has helped you with your life, your goals, your "whatever" that continues to center around you. Taking care of yourself is good, but only taking care of yourself will get you nowhere with me. Just savin' you time, friends.

Original: I am a walking set of contradictions: the environmentally-conscious vegetarian hippie who bathes and doesn't smoke pot (I don't care if you do); someone who believes in feminist standpoint theory but works as a statistician; the humanitarian who likes putting people into binary code. I bike to work but NEVER go to the gym. I forget to eat when I'm busy but love a good meal and can pack it in. I'm an extrovert who works in an introverted profession. It really never ends, but I assume that we are all multi-dimensional people who never conform to one type, and I can write the mathematical proof to demonstrate this to be empirically true: No one is normal.

In my day-to-day life, I spend my time working, volunteering, mommying (my birth baby is at college, but there are generally a few kids on my couch at any given time), and verbing (this would be when you create verbs where they did not previously exist, like "verbing"). I also like quilting and sewing and have made a few precious art quilts. I prefer to quilt in combat boots and have made many a feminist march in heels. Maybe I just love contradictions.

Hmm.. what else? I should probably explain the whole "religious" thing because it keeps coming up; I think when I say "I'm religious" people think I mean that I'm waiting for the rapture (side note: our post-rapture party ROCKED!). I'm a Unitarian Universalist. We have no creed, meaning we don't care about what you do and don't believe. There are atheist, agnostic, Christian, Buddhist, and Muslim UUs. We just care that you live by the Seven Principles (or at least try really hard), one of which is a free and responsible search for truth and meaning. The general idea is that wherever you find your light works for us. I'm pretty serious about my religion because I try hard to be a principled person, but I do not want to convert you or influence your belief systems. I expect the same.

I guess the shortest summary of me would be how I generally have people introduce me when I give talks: I operate under the radical notion that all people should be treated like human beings.
What I’m doing with my life
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Everything and anything I can think of to make the world a better place. This ranges from writing statistical models to predict bad things happening to people and prevent them to direct support for social justice activities to the occasional arrest for civil disobedience. If you've been thinking, "Where have I seen her?" it was probably some news report associated with one of these various activities.
I’m really good at
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trouble-shooting. I trouble-shoot code, personal lives, relationship problems, and any moral or humanitarian crisis. I'd do almost anything to avoid a meeting, but love a good conversation, a march in the streets, or an appropriate intervention. Basically, I'd rather do something about "things that are wrong" than complain about "things being wrong."
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height, my legs, my legs and my height. I usually try to act surprised when people say, "Wow! You're tall!" I look at myself and exclaim, "Holy shit! I'm really tall!" After that they notice that I'm wicked smart and have a bad ass attitude (not a bad attitude). I'm just a bad ass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I recently went into the library just as it was closing for the weekend, just before a long road trip, and they tried to shoo me out. I dropped to my knees in front of the librarian and literally begged her for a book on CD for my drive. She gave me two. Both were decent and I have no idea what they were entitled but "Cheesy Detective Bestseller" and "Pseudo-Sci-Fi Thriller" would have covered it. I could have listened to music but my iPod was grossly underprepared for the impending trip. Point being I really will read anything that's just handed to me.

I obviously love Jeanette Winterson (read Written on the Body) but there are about a hundred more authors I could wax poetic about. I've been re-reading "Are Prisons Obsolete?" and trying to wade through "Feminism without Borders." Also on my shelf: "Bash Pocket Guide" (a Linux thing), "Gardening in the Desert Southwest," "When Nietzsche Wept"... you get the picture. Basically, I'll read anything that's not nailed down (and some things that are). I have a soft spot for ethnic minority literature (Asian American, African American, etc.) for protest and fiction and non-fiction by feminists (note that this includes male feminist authors).

My musical tastes range from punk to the typical lesbian folk. What queer woman doesn't love ani difranco? I have a soft spot for protest/social justice music with an "angry bitch" flair. I've been to my fair share of KFMADays and indie shows on 4th. The most recent band I saw was a friend's Santana cover-band. Now I like Santana, but four hours of a Santana cover band was a bit much, even for me, but especially because I had no one to sexy dance with. And some hip-hop or R&B? Just TELL it, particularly some of the serious social justice hip-hop coming out of Phoenix these days! Also, if you are willing to hit a dance floor with me, I'm so willing to dance with you to pretty much anything.

I'm a bit of a "utilitarian foodie." When I have to eat, I do, and I'll eat anything veggie. But there are times (Wonderful times! Amazing times!) when I get to eat REALLY GOOD FOOD. And I enjoy every single bite. "Really Good Food" mean anything that consists of food I can name, like "oh, that rice and veggie stirfry just rocked my effin' world!" in contrast to "WTF is Velveeta? Should we really be eating this? Isn't this just food-like product? Plasti-food?"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I dislike consumerism and furthermore hate the reduction of people into things (my family, my homies, etc.). Therefore, I refuse to answer this question on moral grounds. That, and it's just too hard to answer.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Statistics and research methods. No joke. I'm the person who reads the paper, comes across a statistic and goes to look up the original data. Plus, it's my job and my passion.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing code, at a fundraiser, doing volunteer work, dancing, or maybe just reading whatever's at hand.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I'm having one of those days when everything's going wrong, I watch Free Willy I, II, III, or IV. Betcha didn't even know there was a sequel and I own them all. Kids, whales, and everything always works out for Willy in the end. It makes the world a better place.
You should message me if
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you knew what I meant by feminist standpoint theory.
you want to know what I meant by feminist standpoint theory.
you are an artist.
you are a numbers person.
you are a people person.
you want to know how artistic vision is being combined with mathematical theory to produce art quilts.
you think that we shouldn't be deporting our neighbors. (This is terribly important.)
you don't have a pre-existing "I'm looking for someone to be my [insert relationship role here]" that you're trying to fill. (I don't know what I'm looking for with you because I don't know you yet.)
you understand that commitment and monogamy are not the same thing. (I'm an open relationship, wherever-the-love-comes-from-let's-enjoy-that-love-exists person).
you understand that someone who generally identifies as a lesbian makes exceptions to her rules for exceptional men.
you read this long-ass profile.