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Yesterday – 7:45pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
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Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am a walking set of contradictions: the environmentally-conscious vegetarian hippie who bathes and doesn't smoke pot (I don't care if you do); someone who believes in feminist standpoint theory but works as a statistician; the humanitarian who likes putting people into binary code. I bike to work but NEVER go to the gym. I forget to eat when I'm busy but love a good meal and can pack it in. I'm an extrovert who works in an introverted profession. It really never ends, but I assume that we are all multi-dimensional people who never conform to one type, and I can write the mathematical proof to demonstrate this to be empirically true: No one is normal.

In my day-to-day life, I spend my time working, volunteering, mommying, and verbing (this would be when you create verbs where they did not previously exist, like "verbing"). I also like quilting and sewing and have made a few precious art quilts. I prefer to quilt in combat boots and have made many a feminist march in heels. Maybe I just love contradictions.

Hmm.. what else? I should probably explain the whole "religious" thing because it keeps coming up; I think when I say "I'm religious" people think I mean that I'm waiting for the rapture (side note: our post-rapture party ROCKED!). I'm a Unitarian Universalist. We have no creed, meaning we don't care about what you do and don't believe. There are atheist, agnostic, Christian, Buddhist, and Muslim UUs. We just care that you live by the Seven Principles (or at least try really hard), one of which is a free and responsible search for truth and meaning. The general idea is that wherever you find your light works for us. I'm pretty serious about my religion because I try hard to be a principled person, but I do not want to convert you or influence your belief systems. I expect the same.

I guess the shortest summary of me would be how I generally have people introduce me when I give talks: I operate under the radical notion that all people should be treated like human beings.
What I’m doing with my life
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Everything and anything I can think of to make the world a better place.
I’m really good at
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trouble-shooting. I trouble-shoot code, personal lives, relationship problems, and any moral or humanitarian crisis. I'd do almost anything to avoid a meeting, but love a good conversation, a march in the streets, or an appropriate intervention. Basically, I'd rather do something about "things that are wrong" than complain about "things being wrong."
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height, my legs, my legs and my height. I usually try to act surprised when people say, "Wow! You're tall!" I look at myself and exclaim, "Holy shit! I'm really tall!" After that they notice that I'm wicked smart and have a bad ass attitude (not a bad attitude). I'm just a bad ass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I obviously love Winterson (read Written on the Body) but there are about a hundred more authors I could wax poetic about. I've been re-reading "Are Prisons Obsolete?" and trying to wade through "Feminism without Borders." Also on my shelf: "Bash Pocket Guide" (a Linux thing), "Gardening in the Desert Southwest," "When Nietzsche Wept"... you get the picture. Basically, I'll read anything that's not nailed down (and some things that are). I have a soft spot for ethnic minority literature (Asian American, African American, etc.) for protest and fiction and non-fiction by feminists (note that this includes male feminist authors).

My musical tastes range from punk to the typical lesbian folk. What queer woman doesn't love ani difranco? I have a soft spot for protest/social justice music with an "angry bitch" flair.

I'm a bit of a "utilitarian foodie." When I have to eat, I do, and I'll eat anything veggie. But there are times (Wonderful times! Amazing times!) when I get to eat REALLY GOOD FOOD. And I enjoy every single bite.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Statistics and research methods. No joke. I'm the person who reads the paper, comes across a statistic and goes to look up the original data. Plus, it's my job and my passion.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing code, at a fundraiser, doing volunteer work, dancing, or maybe just reading whatever's at hand.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I'm having one of those days when everything's going wrong, I watch Free Willy I, II, III, or IV. Betcha didn't even know there was a sequel and I own them all. Kids, whales, and everything always works out for Willy in the end. It makes the world a better place.
You should message me if
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you knew what I meant by feminist standpoint theory.
you want to know what I meant by feminist standpoint theory.
you are an artist.
you are a numbers person.
you are a people person.
you want to know how artistic vision is being combined with mathematical theory to produce art quilts.
you think that we shouldn't be deporting our neighbors.
you don't have a pre-existing "I'm looking for someone to be my [insert relationship role here]" that you're trying to fill.
you understand that commitment and monogamy are not the same thing.