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  • Ages 21–40
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My details

Last online
Jun 27
Queer, Homoflexible
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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Most of my education has been in Fine Art and Critical Theory. I make work on paper. I read a lot. I write a lot. If I'm not in the studio, I'm in the kitchen. I love to cook, and am an avid student of French, Indian, and Southern American cuisine. I'm happy involving myself with folks who share my interests, or who are very different from me. I will always fall for a good brain.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm back in California after a long hiatus. Teaching drawing and painting, making drawings (and sometimes paintings), cooking up miracles, and having a wonderful time in my favorite city (that's Oakland)!

Here's a link to some of my work:
(it's all just the pencil stuff)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Summoning spirits. Staying in bed. Jokes in the moment. Reading alone in a crowd. Making friends with hesitant people. Chain reactions. Slow, careful, tedious tasks. Easing tensions. Stirring up a bit of trouble. Tending my aquarium. Blending perfumes. Endless stories. Interrupting. Thinking. Listening. Interrupting. Thinking. Whistling.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have an on-again, off-again semi-ironic mustache. It comes and goes based on how comfortable I am with the John Waters comments. (Currently off-again)

I have recently been experimenting with a variety of homemade haircuts (rotating on a monthly basis). They have been called variously:
artsy, unfortunate, anachronistic, punky, bewildering, suave

Serious brown eyes. Remarkable snaggleteeth. Lefty.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Natural History, Pliny the Elder
Color: A Natural History of the Palette, Victoria Finlay
The Tain, Thomas Kinsella
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
Camera Lucida, Roland Barthes
Mythologies, Roland Barthes
On Photography, Susan Sontag
Regarding the Pain of Others, Susan Sontag
Epic of Gilgamesh
Beowulf (the Seamus Heaney kind)
The History of Sexuality, Michel Foucault
Notes on the Index, Rosalind Krauss
Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema, Laura Mulvey
The Religions of Man, Houston Smith
The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell
Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World, Jack Weatherford
Grendel, John Gardner
The Cement Garden, Ian McEwan
Trickster Makes This World, Lewis Hyde
The Histories, Herodotus
The Foodbook, James Trager

Wild Beasts, Owen Pallett, Bob Dylan, Veils, Nina Simone, Antony and the Johnsons, Lykke Li, The National, Nick Waterhouse, Roy Orbison, The Supremes, Jeff Buckley, Asaf Avidan, Fleet Foxes, Frederic Chopin, Philip Glass, The Presets, Arcade Fire, Patrick Wolf, Aretha Franklin, Arvo Part, Rufus Wainwright, Sufjan Stevens, John Cage, Chromeo, Animal Collective, Igor Stravinsky, Joanna Newsom, Belle and Sebastian, Michael Nyman, Elvis Perkins, Steve Reich, Fleetwood Mac, Patsy Cline, Grizzly Bear, Bon Iver, Van Morrison
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
good company
a pencil
a warm blanket
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Recipes. Pictures. The Neolithic Revolution. What shirt to wear. Bodies. Colors. Stories. Histories. Songs.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe having a drink with friends.

Maybe leaning over a drafting table, fiddling with pencils.

Maybe chopping and stirring and currying.

(on a great Friday night I might fit in all three)
You should message me if
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you think we'd enjoy each other's company.

you wanna sit on a corner, in a field, at a bar, in outer space, and talk about stuff.