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36 Baltimore, MD Man


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  • Ages 18–99
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My details

Last online
Mar 28
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Nearly as I can tell, the purpose of life is pretty much to add as much benefit as I can to the world around me before I inevitably become a corpse and presumably forget I even existed.

...and nearly as I can tell, the best way to go about doing that is to find other people who are also asking themselves how they can help, and then help each other to help.

It occurs to me that were we all trying to do that, with time we'd actually fix our problems instead of continuing to watch them worsen. What's more, we don't even need everyone onboard: for each of us who starts trying, things get that much better than they'd otherwise be. No need to wait on anyone, and nothing to lose by starting now.

Are you trying? How can I help you help?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Saving the world with beer...

For a long time I was a mild-mannered office worker by day and a musician by night, but then I realized my true superpower was brewing. Nowadays it seems pretty hard to use music to bring people together and inspire, but just give them some delicious adult beverage you made, and bingo! Instant connection! So I quit my bands and have been using my booze to try to get people involved, turn them towards each other, and build community.

A few years ago I started the "ChiliBrew" charity homebrew/chili competition to cross-pollinate and promote DIY community efforts and localized lifestyles. It's kind of A Thing now: the 8th event will be held on Fri 10/10/14, and the 7th had about 630 people in attendance with another 200+ turned away due to capacity. A Sun reporter managed to catch me on camera during that one while hectic and sweaty, and City Paper did a profile on me afterwards:

Thru organizing ChiliBrews (and a companion event, "Localize It!") I got involved with several nonprofit groups revolving around similar themes, most prominently cofounding the BNote local currency (to support local economic connections, resiliency, and self-determination), and most recently the Open Plough Project (a local food justice initiative to connect urban farms to community kitchens, microenterprise, and disadvantaged communities)...

...and all this built toward finally quitting my soul-sucking job this summer to start a new commercial co-op nanobrewery, the goal being to create a platform for homebrewers to do something they love for a living, for local bars/etc. to commission custom batches, and for circulation of the local currency. I've already built the brewing system, now the plan is to move it into an existing bar/restaurant in Station North and turn it into a brewpub, to start operation this winter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Brewing. Bass guitar. Thinking too much. Writing. Playing geeky games. Being too honest. Getting better.
The first things people usually notice about me
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1) The way I show up to an event dragging a big cooler on wheels holding two kegs of homebrew and a CO2 cylinder; 2) Probably the facial hair; 3) How conversation with me doesn't stay shallow for long.

If you look at my photos, you'll notice a lot of them are way-old at this point, yet I continue to look pretty much the same except for how I shave.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't like making these lists. While media consumption can be a source of great inspiration, I've grown wary of letting it substitute for actions and interactions that would be more truly fulfilling and helpful. It's better to just make something awesome happen than to watch/hear/read it, and to focus on production over consumption.

But still, everyone's gotta eat I guess. :)

So on that note, I go mostly for hot/spicy/exotic stuff, but I'll eat whatever (just don't be surprised if I resort to hot sauce in situations that you find inappropriate, even terrifying). The creativity I found in brewing has gotten me excited about learning to cook, even if my current repertoire is perhaps best represented by a heavily-spiced mishmash of frozen veggies, canned beans, and potato flakes: a recipe I have dubbed Bachelorgasm, for its unsurpassed ease of purchase, preservation, and preparation... but if my progress with brewing is any indicator I'm sure I will have my own cooking show within a few years, right?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There are plenty of things I'd never want to go without, but, beyond the basics (oxygen, etc.), I have trouble thinking of things I truly could not. I like to think I'd make do regardless, and figure out some meaningful way to keep going... but here's a shot at interpreting this more loosely (in no particular order):

My brew-kettle; my main bass; my family and lifelong friends; my sense of purpose and those who share it; my health; my mind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bringing an overkill quantity of my beer/cider/mead/wine to some party/potluck/fundraiser/other-such-gathering-of-excellent-people.

Or, going to see a show featuring my former bandmates or other friends' bands, probably hosted at some small venue where I chat with the owners.

Or, calling a couple close old friends to see if anything's happening with them. Then getting together with said friends even tho (or because) nothing is in fact happening. Then playing a boardgame and chatting 'til 3am.

Or, just staying home because I want to relax and catch up on sleep and/or get things ready to brew the next day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I view sexuality as another way I can "help people help." It can brighten our days(/nights) and motivate us to be a better part of the world, and certainly it's better than being overcome by frustration or wallowing in bitterness.

Unfortunately tho, the mating game as-is (especially its straight male role) seems awfully messed-up and driven by selfishness, while the other things I've been doing are not only incredibly fulfilling but also in need of my help in order to live up to their promise. So, trying to get people in bed with me is a pretty low priority, but that's not to say I'd object to having them there. ;)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. too try to figure out what benefit you can give to others, rather than get from them. do something awesome that I should know about, or want to learn more about the stuff I do. see some other way that being in touch with me could help make our world a more beautiful place before we leave it.

NOTE: I'm often pretty busy and log in irregularly, plus I'm just about the slowest email-writer ever and prefer to be face-to-face. I also really hate to be That Guy who sends an email and then falls off the face of the planet because I had too much on my plate to keep up communications. So please accept my apologies in advance if I'm sluggish in getting back to you. (Hell, you could even skip messaging me entirely and just go someplace I'll be anyway to meet me in person, like at a show, or the ChiliBrew... go ahead, stalk the crap outta me and say hi somewhere.)