As for you: intelligent, you articulate your thoughts in depth, but not in a chatterboxy sort of way. You've honestly represented whatever level of education you've attained; being "a couple of credits short" of the degree doesn't count as completing it. You're compassionate, health-conscious, with no STDs, fit and toned, with no substance addictions (including nicotine gum - sorry, it's a major turnoff). Low-key and calm, you're attractive with personality and a sense of humor. I usually connect well with ladies who either have an east coast mentality, or who have lived in a lot of places. If you're highly strung and easily jangled emotionally, we're not a match. And, while you don't have to be a CEO or high achiever in that context, you do have to have a small amount of ambition. "Common Decency" is an important part of your persona. You realize we are all a package deal; you accept me for who I am, just as I accept you.
You're looking for and, most importantly, you're READY for a relationship. I have no interest in volleying email back/forth; one or two emails and/or a lengthy online chat should be enough before we move to the phone. You want to talk sooner than later, as the only way to really gauge chemistry is to talk for real, and to me it's a giant waste of time to go back and forth via email past the most rudimentary introduction.
I think it's okay to meet multiple people if you don't have anyone you've had more than one or two dates with. But if you've found someone with whom you have obvious chemistry - you spend 6 hours together and it passes by in an instant, you bring each other out in a good way, and each conversation is another revelation in something else in common, and the goodnight kiss has some serious steam to it - I think you need to follow that up with a solo trial, even though it's a bit premature to call the other person your boyfriend/girlfriend. I want to be off this site sooner than later, and hopefully you do, too.
Religion - Open to all faiths, I only ask that you respect my beliefs just as I respect yours. But, if you have to state in your profile how important God is in your life, or if we can't get through an introductory coffee date without your having to tell me the same, we aren't a match.
Age: it's just a number and I've had the pleasure of dating women of many ages. But YOU MUST BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR AGE SOMEWHERE IN YOUR PROFILE. It 's one thing if the introductory blurb says you're younger than you are, and the text of your profile explicitly states your real age, and that you list yourself as younger so you don't receive as many responses from men in their 60's and 70's. I think that's okay - it's up to me to read the fine print. On the other hand, finding out after we've been dating a month that you weren't truthful up front about age is an unconditional deal breaker.
Kids: I don't consider your children baggage. And, if it turns out we're on the same page about parenting, down the road I welcome yours if you already have them. However, if starting a new family is a must-have requirement for you, it'd be disrespectful of me to waste your time, so I'll wish you the best and let you find someone else if that's the case.
Lastly, I can't emphasize this enough - you're ALL THE WAY SINGLE, and you know what I mean.
For the two of you who haven't tuned out by now, I'd love to hear from you!
I am cerebral, unique, and peripatetic.