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jainitai

42 M Tucson, AZ

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:22am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***update: single (technically separated)***
{I just realized I still had "open relationship" marked. Oops!}

I tend to thrive on the margins. I like to keep people guessing. I like musicals and fashion and I wear pink pants and yet, I'm straight. I went to law school but I've never practiced law. I like to read sports journalism but I rarely watch sports.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a papa to a five and a half year-old who likes puns.(My son, that is; i like puns too, esp really bad one, but that in sentence I was referring to my son.)

I work in an elementary school library. (Duh. What else would a person do with law degree?)

I'm trying to take advantage of this general upswing in my life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Humility.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My outfit. I like clothes. (And it shows.) I like to wear fun clothes and I'm usually a bit obsessive about my matching. I tend to wear awesome socks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Caveat: I'm lousy at favorites. I'm much more of a context/mood/momentum person. With that in mind, these are some of the things I might be enjoying at any particular moment.

Books
I'll read anything that holds my attention. At any given time, I'm probably reading 2-5 books. Or more. I tend to gravitate to one or two at a time based on my current proclivity. Or the ones that are near. Or that I can find.
Right now, I'm reading How The Mistakes Were Made and Understanding Our Mind, Carry the One, and The Newlyweds. I'm often reading some non-fiction book about psychology or some Balkan history book or whatever else I pick up at the library or bookstore that looks interesting. Oh, and Gone Girl when my son's playing in the toy section at target. I'd like to finish before I see the movie.

Movies
Grease (I just went to the sing-a-long at The Loft. Fun!) , The Fugitive or some more current action-y movie, Blue Ruin, Margin Call, Carlos, Million Dollar Arm. With movies, I go in looking to be entertained. If I'm educated or moved or provoked--great. But my primary motive is entertainment, and that can be achieved in a number of ways.

Shows
If this means TV, then The West Wing is my all-time favorite (ok, sometimes, I do have favs!). These days I like Parenthood and The Assets. I don't have a TV, so I don't really keep up with that aspect of pop culture very well. I do Netflix, however.

If this means musicals or plays then, I'm up for almost anything and I especially like musicals (um, I think I mentioned this already). Some favs: Rent, Oklahoma, West Side Story, and Grease.

Music
I tend to fall back on the stuff I grew up listening to. For me this means 80s music, hardcore/punk, and musicals. Lately, I've been trying to branch out a bit more listening to Florence & the Machine, The Lumineers, Regina Spektor, Bright Eyes. Bach is a favorite when I'm wired and need a visceral calming (if that's a thing). Also, I ran into a couple straight edge kids the other day and I think I'm going to go their show later this month. Good times. Ok, that was a long time ago. But still.

Food
I like food. If it's vegan and well-prepared (or just sweet!) chances are I'll like it. When I'm not being lazy I like to cook and I'm pretty good at it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(It seems like there are a couple of ways to answer this. People tend to either list essentials that they could literally never live without, or they name the things they really dig. I'm going to fight my literalism and try and come up with six things that are super important or constant in my life.)

Words
I really like words. I like learning new words, using descriptive words, reading, and writing. Also, they're key in communication.

Water
Ok, this is an essential. True. But I also drink a lot of water and need to have it on hand whenever my son is thirsty. Also, lately I've been drinking water from a reverse osmosis system and it's kind of amazing. Plus, I live in the desert so--water.

Bikes
This means bicycles. I ride a bike a lot. I mostly use it for transportation and have a trailer for my son. It's cheap, efficient, fun, environmentally-sensitive transportation.

Clothes
This is an essential too, yes. But beyond just protection from the cold or sun, I like to have fun with my clothes and tend to use them as a creative outlet.

Bags
I nearly always carry a bag. It's a good place for my wallet, phone, snacks, a book, a notebook, bike stuff, a swimsuit and goggles (in case I want to go swimming), and whatever else I think might prove useful at any given time. Plus about 53 things that I haven't taken out even though they stopped being useful 7 months ago.

Thoughts
I'm a pretty cognitively-based person. I tend to think a lot about philosophy, worldviews, politics, and so on. I'd be wise to more often let go of all these thoughts and just experience life, but that's much easier said than done.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Please see above.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
That's true. On a typical Friday I am. Although I think that pretty much applies to any day or time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's probably true.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You think we'd have interesting conversations or fun together. Or both! That "new friends" category is real, I've made a couple awesome friends from these kinda things.