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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 3:17pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not sure how to describe myself because so often what we think of ourselves can stand in at least partial contrast to how others view us. That said, I like to think I am a mix of my loving, fun, relatively drama-free upbringing and the the wisdom and experience of an adult life marked by hard work, lot os love, some loss and despair, hope, and the elusive search for a perfect balance.

I love exchanging ideas, thoughts, and laughter, hopefully on a wide range of topics, and find that as a pathway to real connection. I like meeting people with experiences from their life to share. I know how I got 'here' and I am constantly curious about how others have arrived where they are and where they want to go next.

More and more I am inspired by the hope of building something unique and wonderful with someone. After a few years of not thinking long-term I now find myself hoping to find that elusive partner that can be a blend of so many things.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying my best to simply *live* life. This includes being utterly human and accepting all the joys and stress that come with it, and seeking out both answers and new questions to pretty much everything.

I am also embracing my independence and new possibilities after exiting a very long relationship about 4 years ago. I've learned a great deal from the introspection and new experiences that have followed and I hope whoever I meet next will have a similar balance between independence and togetherness/being a couple.

I take my professional life seriously and feel blessed to enjoy it the majority of the time, but ultimately I work so that I can live and not the other way around. Oh, and my job is pretty damn cool and a bit unique. Get to know me and I'll be happy to tell you why. (Note: I am not a spy. It's not that cool!)

I love new things and establishing new routines and finding varied forms of activity. I regularly exercise via cardio and swimming but would love to get outdoors or find other forms of activity like roller or ice skating, a long hike, etc.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Making mix CDs. I fear it's becoming a lost 'art'!

- Storytelling. Across a table, in written form, and, over the past year or two, live on stage. I've had the chance to tell stories to hundreds of strangers [via The Moth story slams, Back Fence PDX] and it's an amazing experience that I hope to do more of in the future.

- At being a parent to my two teenage sons (15 and 18) who live with me 1/2 time. They are amazing young men so they actually make it relatively easy.

- I am pretty damn sure I can beat you at Scrabble or Words (on FB, if we eventually become friends).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The thing people notice is that I am very talkative and expressive, that I say what's on my mind, and that I can go from "kinda shy" to "will not shut up" very fast.

I am also very heart-on-my-sleeve and that has a vulnerability to it for sure but it beats the alternative.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite book of all time is "To Kill a Mockingbird". On the more contemporary side I love pretty much everything Nick Hornby, Jonathan Tropper, Douglas Coupland and Tom Perrotta have ever written, and Rob Sheffield's two fantastic memoirs, "Love Is a Mix Tape" and "Talking To Girls About Duran Duran".

TV: "Mad Men", "Orange Is The New Black", "Arrow" and "The Flash" (yes, I like me some super heroes) are current shows I like. In the Netflix age I like the occasional joy of discovering a series I didn't see during it's initial run. I was a huge "Sports Night", "West Wing", "Ed", "Cheers", and "Frasier" fan during their runs.

I only watch one sport regularly: Hockey (NHL and locally WHL), and I do love it, but I am not obsessive over it and while I would love to take a date to a Winterhawks game I don't think every interest has to be shared. I also never turn down a Timbers, Blazers, etc. invite.

I absolutely love music, recorded and live, and have wildly eclectic tastes. Especially love The Replacements, The Gaslight Anthem, Brandi Carlile, Cold War Kids, Butch Walker, Joe Henry, and countless others. If it can set a mood or has lyrics that speak to me I'm in. And love getting out to Portland's wonderful live venues, though I still have a few I've never been to and want to check off my list.

On the other spectrum of audio I love The Moth, Radio Lab, This American Life, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, and Fresh Air.

Movies: "It's a Wonderful Life", "Love, Actually","This Is Spinal Tap", "Dan In Real Life", the Bourne triology, "Finding Nemo" (and pretty much everything Pixar has done), "Goodnight and Good Luck", "Hamlet 2", "Point Break" (yeah, I said it), "Kings of Summer", and "The Way Way Back" . Just saw "Boyhood" and it might be the best movie I've seen this decade and "Guardians of the Galaxy" was a hoot! Recently found myself actually crying at "Inside/Out"!

Food: Really good pizza, Thai, Italian, Indian, sushi, good soups and salads, BBQ... no known allergies so anything is worth a try. I kinda love being an omnivore but I am always up for eating at a vegan or veggie spot, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My sons and family
2. Coffee/Tea
3. My friends
4. Music
5. Water (to drink and to swim in and as vital ingredient to #2)
6. Memory foam :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How John Cusack sorta "ruined me"... this is a theme that runs through my writing and live storytelling.

Why we want to put everything in a box when it's so much more fun to scatter the pieces and see how they fit on a wider canvas?

If Lumosity games really are improving my brain or if I am just getting better at silly Lumosity games?

If my sons are doing okay and how I can make things better for them while still respecting their burgeoning independence and new experiences. And what new thing to cook for them!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It varies according to my schedule with my sons. So it could be anything from watching a movie at home to playing games or just having some solo time. On my own I could be out with friends, seeing live music or a movie, doing something active or whatever someone suggests. "New" tends to be very appealing to me so unless I think it's gonna kill me I am usually up for anything.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I saw Richard Marx in concert when I was in high school. His opening act was Wilson-Phillips. Many who saw that show are now in witness protection.
You should message me if
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If you like great conversation and can find humor in even the smallest things.

If you like to see 'live' things, like music or science lectures, storytellers, comics, or anything that awakens the senses.

If you can define, at least to some degree, what you hope to find in the short and the long term future. We're all in different 'places' but clarity and communication are very attractive and important.