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jamesmerenda

28 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 5
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I recently moved to the Oakland/Bay Area from Brooklyn, so I know very little of the area and how to get around it or where the best places are. So that's a thing.

I like to create. My imagination sometimes interferes with my daily life, and I don't mind that at all. I think of myself as a progressive person who struggles with how privilege manifests itself in my life, and would love to be called on my shit.

A few identifiers: queer, polyamorous, feminist, sex-positive, cis-male.

I am a poet & playwright. Planning to be in an MFA program for one of those two subjects starting next Fall.

I was a vegetarian for between 3 and 4 years, before I was informed I had a B12 deficiency, and had to start adding some meat to my diet. So I'm figuring that out.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've was in the non-profit world for four years back East, while also trying to figure out how to actively engage in being an artist without starving or going mad. I am very interested in the artist/activist paradigm and how art, or love, or politics work with each other.

Also, I'm picking up random skills like carpentry and locksmithing so when the zombie apocalypse arrives, I am useful to my survival party.

At the moment, I am unemployed, and navigating the job search while also looking into getting my own place in the near future. I'm currently living with my most recent ex-partner. Did I mention I am brand new to the Bay Area? So there's a lot of discovery on the docket right now. It remains to be seen how much this adversely affects my ability to date and/or be social, but I'm working on it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Giving unbiased advice when it's requested. Easing tense situations. Being ridiculous. Making fun of myself. Crisis situations. Intersectionality.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically, my eyes, my smile, or my beard (for better or worse). Otherwise, that I am very welcoming.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I keep a really large poetry collection. Some contemporary favorites are Marie Howe, Li-Young Lee, Richard Siken, Keetje Kuipers, Yusef Komunyakaa, Mary Oliver, Robert Haas, Aracelis Girmay, Traci Brimhall, Patricia Smith, Patrick Rosal & Sharon Olds.
Fiction: Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, Murakami.
Jonah Lehrer. Other books by people who appear on RadioLab.
Siddhartha by Herman Heese.
Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks.
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.
Leaving the Atocha Station by Ben Lerner

If I listed every movie or musician I enjoyed, this would take forever. I'll say that Tom Waits is important to me. No Doubt was one of my favorite bands as a child, and I still think Tragic Kingdom is a fantastic album. Bikini Kill. Radiohead. The Roots. Jimi Hendrix. Yasiin Bey (Mos Def). Frank Ocean. Janelle Monae. Neutral Milk Hotel. Kendrick Lamar. Beyonce.

Firefly and The Wire are probably my two favorite TV shows. Been revisiting The West Wing of late. Seasons 1-3, 5 of Community.

If you introduce me to something/someone new that I end up loving, we'll be great friends.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A Notebook
NPR (Also, Radiolab)
Poetry / A Novel
An LED Flashlight
Roof Access
A flash drive
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The wonderful rigged_romance
Social Change. The status quo. Privilege. Sexual politics.
How much I hate gentrification but how I am at least somewhat complicit in it by living in the neighborhoods I can afford, previously in Brooklyn, and now in Oakland.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't know yet, I just moved across the country, and I imagine my routine will change. Suggestions?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I fall asleep in public more often than is probably advisable. I'm also less worried about this than I probably should be.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You've ever read a poem that changed something for you.

You're poly or poly-friendly. I'm going to need to stress this. I'm sure you're outstanding, but I am not interested in monogamous situations. If you want to talk as friends, let me know, though.

You are uncomfortable with gender binary and heteronormativity and want to discuss while at a dog run while watching puppies be adorable.

You like a person who can talk theatre, and talk sports. Queer theory and comfort food. Systemic oppression and twenty-sided dice.