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29 • Oakland, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 22–36
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Today – 4:14am
- Queer, Pansexual
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
- Graduated from university
- Art / Music / Writing
- Open relationship
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)
I like to create. My imagination sometimes interferes with my daily life, and I don't mind that at all. I think of myself as a progressive person who struggles with how privilege manifests itself in my life, and would love to be called on my shit.
A few identifiers: queer, polyamorous, feminist, pro-kink (switch, still learning), sex-positive, cis-male. I'm nerdy and a secret introvert. I like people & social situations, but I want to recharge alone.
I am a poet & playwright. Planning to be in an MFA program for one of those two subjects in the next year or two.
I was a vegetarian for 4 years, before I was informed I had a B12 deficiency, and had to start adding some meat to my diet. So I'm figuring that out.
Also, I'm picking up random skills like carpentry and locksmithing so when the zombie apocalypse arrives, I am useful to my survival party.
I recently got a wonderful job at a non-profit children/family services agency in Berkeley, after 9 months of unemployment. I feel super relieved to be working again, and grateful to have found a good cause to pursue with some fantastic colleagues.
Alternatively, that my hair is full of secrets. Yes, I just did that.
Fiction: Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, Haruki Murakami, James Baldwin, Junot Diaz
Jonah Lehrer. Other books by people who appear on RadioLab.
Siddhartha by Herman Heese.
Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks.
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.
Skinny Legs and All by Tom Robbins
Leaving the Atocha Station by Ben Lerner
If I listed every movie or musician I enjoyed, this would take forever. I'll say that Tom Waits is important to me. No Doubt was one of my favorite bands as a child, and I still think Tragic Kingdom is a fantastic album. Bikini Kill. Radiohead. The Roots. Jimi Hendrix. Yasiin Bey (Mos Def). Frank Ocean. Janelle Monae. Neutral Milk Hotel. Kendrick Lamar. Beyonce. Ingrid Michaelson. Kimbra. Lately spinning Flying Lotus.
Firefly and The Wire are probably my two favorite TV shows. Been revisiting The West Wing of late. Seasons 1-3, 5 of Community. I'm really liking How to Get Away with Murder so far. Brooklyn Nine-Nine grew on me
If you introduce me to something/someone new that I end up loving, we'll be great friends.
Music / Talk Radio
Poetry / A Novel
An LED Flashlight
A flash drive
Anti-Racism. Social Change. The status quo. Privilege. Sexual politics.
How much I hate gentrification but how I am at least somewhat complicit in it by living in the neighborhoods I can afford, previously in Brooklyn, and now in Oakland, and how I can mitigate that effect.
You're poly or poly-friendly. I'm going to need to stress this. I'm sure you're outstanding, but I am not interested in monogamous situations. If you want to talk as friends, let me know, though.
You are uncomfortable with gender binary and heteronormativity and want to discuss while at a dog run watching puppies be adorable.
You like a person who can talk theatre, and talk sports. Queer theory and comfort food. Systemic oppression and twenty-sided dice.
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