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jamesmerenda

28 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:32pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
[Hi Brooklyn. I'll always love you, but I'm moving to the Oakland/Bay Area soon. So long-term anything is probably out for the forseeable future.]

[Hi Bay Area, I'll be living with you soon. I'd be excited to meet new friends/lovers/partners. Looking forward to meeting all of you.]

I like to create. My imagination sometimes interferes with my daily life, and I don't mind that at all. I think of myself as a progressive person who struggles with how privilege manifests itself in my life, and would love to be called on my shit.

A few identifiers: queer, polyamorous, feminist, sex-positive, cis-male.

I am a poet.

I have a wonderful partner, MsFace to whom I recently got engaged! We have a great, open, communicative relationship. We don't subscribe to the idea of primary/secondary/tertiary partnerships, but probably look like we're primaries from the outside.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been working in the non-profit world, while also trying to figure out how to actively engage in being an artist without starving or going mad. I am very interested in the artist/activist paradigm and how art, or love, or politics work with each other.

Also, I'm picking up random skills like carpentry and locksmithing so when the zombie apocalypse arrives, I am useful to my survival party.
I’m really good at
Listening. Giving unbiased advice when it's requested. Easing tense situations. Being ridiculous. Making fun of myself. Crisis situations. Intersectionality.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically, my eyes, my smile, or my beard (for better or worse). Otherwise, that I am very welcoming.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I keep a really large poetry collection. Some contemporary favorites are Marie Howe, Li-Young Lee, Richard Siken, Yusef Komunyakaa, Mary Oliver, Robert Haas, Patricia Smith, Patrick Rosal & Sharon Olds.
Fiction: Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, Murakami.
Jonah Lehrer. Other books by people who appear on RadioLab.
Siddhartha by Herman Heese.
Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks.
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.
Leaving the Atocha Station by Ben Lerner

If I listed every movie or musician I enjoyed, this would take forever. I'll say that Tom Waits is important to me. No Doubt was one of my favorite bands as a child, and I still think Tragic Kingdom is a fantastic album. Bikini Kill. Radiohead. The Roots. Jimi Hendrix. Yasiin Bey (Mos Def). Frank Ocean. Janelle Monae. Neutral Milk Hotel. Currently spinning: Kendrick Lamar, and Beyonce

Firefly and The Wire are probably my two favorite TV shows. Been revisiting The West Wing of late. Seasons 1-3, 5 of Community.

If you introduce me to something/someone new that I end up loving, we'll be great friends.
The six things I could never do without
A Notebook
NPR (Also, Radiolab)
Poetry / A Novel
An LED Flashlight
Roof Access
A flash drive
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Social Change. The status quo. Privilege.
How much I hate gentrification but how I am automatically at least somewhat complicit in it by living in the neighborhoods I can afford in Brooklyn.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't know yet, I'm about to move across the country, and I imagine my routine will change.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I fall asleep in public more often than is probably advisable.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You've ever read a poem that changed something for you.

You're poly or poly-friendly.

You are uncomfortable with gender binary and heteronormativity and want to discuss while at a dog run while watching puppies be adorable.

You like a person who can talk theatre, and talk sports. Queer theory and comfort food. Systemic oppression and twenty-sided dice.