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46 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40-53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:35pm
5' 3" (1.61m)
Body Type
Judaism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English, French (Somewhat), Indonesian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Leaving this site soon . . .

OKC told me I should put the body shot 1st - is that a subtle way of telling me I have a face for radio?

I can't see if you "like" me, so you'll have to try your hand at a note.

I'm a coast hopper, most at home here in this wonderful and difficult city than anywhere else I've lived.

My family did not prepare me for the realities of the world. Raised to have integrity, to be honest, appreciative and grateful, to treat people well and to share my toys, I find I gravitate to those who have an equally unrealistic view of the world.
(In other words, no Republicans, please.)

Smart and funny is a favorite combination and good conversational skills are much appreciated.

Cynicism is the default of the lazy in my book - so, if that's your thing, we probably won't be a match.

Having seen parts of Africa, Asia, South America, Central America and Europe only makes me want more - so many places still to explore!

I'm into moderation in all things - including moderation.

Friends describe me as youthful, fun, funny, smart, generous, and fiercely loyal.

To me, great food is one of the finest pleasures in life. It doesn't always have to be fancy - I love french fries and foie gras - why choose? (I also like healthy food - I love it all!) Cooking brings me pleasure, though don't do it as often as I'd like. Maybe you can inspire me . . .

Though I've loved them, I have to admit a certain suspicion of those who don't drink coffee.

The young'uns seem to like me, but I'm looking for someone closer to my own age . . .

I was raised Jewish "Lite" and identify more with the culture than the religion - a soulful pragmatist (Agnostic).

I can drive a standard.

Carl Kasell's voice is on my home answering machine.

I was married. I was divorced. I am single. (divorced over 8 years ago) Nothing hidden here. . .

Truth in advertising: Please be honest in your profile and have a couple recent photos - and not just of your eye, or your headless, shirtless torso or your crotch (you know who you are), or hiding behind sunglasses - if you want to make contact. This is a visual medium. You've seen me. It's only fair... No photos, no dice.
Fortune favors the bold. And remember, the question is "what is your age," not "what do you wish were your age."

If you think there might be a connection here, send me a note - If I feel the same I'll get back in touch and we can take it from there.

**I'm asking nicely: please don't contact me if you're married. I'm not here to judge you, but I'm also not here to meet you.**
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at Scrabble and I'm a black belt back-scratcher.

Knowing the difference between "they're," "their," and "there," as well as "your" and "you're." I really hope you do, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, there are two of them . . . They're pretty big . . . They're round . . . And they're real.

And they're blue.
My eyes. (what were you thinking?!?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Recent favorite books include:
The Orphan Master's Son, by Adam Johnson
The Patrick Melrose Novels, by Edward St. Aubyn
Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay, by Michael Chabon
Disgrace, by J. M. Coetzee
Bird by Bird, by Anne Lamott
Salvage the Bones, by Jesmyn Ward
Not recent, but I loved A Prayer for Owen Meany, by John Irving

Too many to write but I'm in the process of compiling a comprehensive list of recommendations for friends who've asked. For now, you should know that Young Frankenstein and The Deer Hunter are both among the top 20.

So many sounds for so many moods. I am very susceptible to "ear worms" - once a song is in there, I find it nearly impossible to dislodge it.

By now, you know how I feel about food, don't you? I'm an omnivore from way back.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
something to look forward to

not necessarily in that order
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If the personality evaluations and match algorithms here are in any way accurate. (Mine says at the top that I'm "More Submissive" and at the bottom "Less Romantic." While it's true that I rarely make the first move, I don't think those who know me would call me submissive. I can be lots of ways - among them very romantic, if inspired . . . References available upon request)

Why anyone chooses to write in ALL CAPS.s

Why any guy who wants to get laid would sport a "man bun?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
. . . aren't you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I lied about one thing above - I said I love all food. I don't. I abhor cilantro with a white hot passion. There. I've said it.

(There is mounting evidence for a genetic cause to this aversion. I am not alone: check out the site Incidentally, I don't generally direct rage at herbs.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are striving for some balance in yourself and your life. You don't write, "Ask me" as an answer in your profile.

Here is my wish list. You're:

Thoughtful, but not brooding.
Ambitious, but not a shark.
Sensitive, but not too soft.
Smart, but not arrogant.
Attractive, but not unreal.
A generous giver and a gracious receiver.
Fit, but not fanatical.
Interested in debate, but not argumentative.
Confident, but not overly competitive.
Oh, and a great kisser.

In short, I'm looking for a worthy opponent.