The second thing you should know is that I'm spending about half my time this month in New Paltz, so I might pop up there or in NYC. Stay tuned to find out where I'm going to be and when.
I have other partners as well, who I see on a more casual basis. Just to be clear, I have a one on one arrangement with all my partners (as opposed to a group arrangement, like a triad). I'm open to the idea of group arrangements in general, but I'm not in any rush to get into one. My partner and I don't believe in a relationship hierarchy or anything. I'm a believer of letting every relationship find its level.
My experience with non-monogamy has taught me that affection, generosity, nurturing and empathy are not finite resources (though sadly time and emotional energy are), so don't feel like I'm going to keep you at arm's length or be inconsiderate of your time and/or feelings.. if I am lucky enough to meet you, that is.
It's come to my attention that being a girl on this site can really suck because the second your profile goes live, you're bombarded with copied-&-pasted messages from unsavory gentleman who are sure you've been waiting all your life to be ground up on by them. I've also learned that there's a plurality of guys who can form complete sentences in the Queen's English and appear decent enough in their profile, but when you meet them in real life they have the emotional intelligence of the first category of dudes. I could launch into a lengthy rant about how I'm definitely not one of those guys, but I know the only way to prove that is through good behavior and open communication.
Dream Job: Editor-in-Chief, 'Cat Fancy' Magazine.
Been cultivatin' that dad bod since before it was cool.
Bicycle Riding (I'm a half decent wrench too)
Taking Public Transit in Foreign (and Domestic) Lands
Finding Stuff (The Secret is to Look Underneath Other Stuff)
Passing Tools to People
Capitalizing Most Words
A couple people have told me I'm reminiscent of Paul Rudd, but taller. A "Tall Rudd" if you will. Personally, I'd love for that to be true, but I just don't see it.
If you swiped right because of the GORGEOUS pup in my current profile pic, I begrudge you not (If that pic is no longer my profile pic, and I forgot to amend this section, feel free to send me a gentle reminder).
Movies: Enter the Void, Citizen Kane, Anything Chaplin but particularly Modern Times and The Great Dictator, Persona, Pi, Wild At Heart, The Hudsucker Proxy, Underground, There Will Be Blood, Tetsuo The Iron Man, Paprika, Batteries Not Included, Sid and Nancy, Down By Law, Forest Gump II: Bubba's Revenge, Anything Pixar except "Cars," which I just haven't seen (and could be missing out?).
Music: Arcade Fire, Islands, Matt and Kim, Sleighbells, Yeaysayer, The Talking Heads, Japanther, Dragonforce, Ninjasonik, Harry Nilsson... So Much... Too Much... But Somehow Never Enough!
Time For Reading.
Dik-Diks (I've never actually seen one in the flesh, but just knowing they exist makes me happy. If you have no idea what a Dik-Dik is, please click this link **I promise it's adorable and not gross**
Looking through my answers to questions on OkCupid, and thinking: "Oh shit, why would I ever say that?! I sound like a misogynist asshole! What, I can only re-answer two questions in a 48 hour period (unless it's a leap year or mercury is in retrograde)?! FUUUUUUU.....!"
'Noiseman Sound Insect' (http://youtu.be/pw6TwYXwBjA)
Neoliberalism and how it's smugly ruining everything
The Uncanny Valley
Squirrels: Nature's Ninjas
The Space Elevator
Tard: The Grumpy Cat (http://tardthegrumpycat.tumblr.com/page/3)
You want to exchange witty pheromones.
You would pay a street musician to stop playing Sublime (We can probably still date if you like Sublime, but not to the level that I have to ever hear it or acknowledge that it was once a thing. Sorry, I have my reasons for this and I'll gladly discuss in person).
You don't mind seasonal facial hair.
I'm also interested in networking with other film/video professionals, shooters and editors in particular. So feel free to reach out for that purpose, and I will keep it oh, so platonic and professional. I know there's other sites for that, but Linkedin gives me a rash.
Oh, and here's a deal for those of you who may want to message me, but are suddenly overcome by writer's block (this happens to me quite a bit, and I can't be the only one): Feel free to write a very brief (even single word) message ending in "Mayonnaise." This is partly to test if you've closely read my profile, and partly to give you an out for aforementioned writer's block. Bonus points if you can catch the literary reference. Nobody has so far, even a few who are familiar with the author, so here's a hint (NO GOOGLE SEARCHING!): He's a late beat / proto-hippie poet who migrated from Tacoma to San Francisco to Montana, and once wrote a story about watermelons that grow black and soundless on a certain day of the week. That particular story doesn't contain the "mayo" reference, but if you're familiar with the author, you'll know that it's included in a three volume omnibus along with the story that does, and you'll know it's the right omnibus if you look at the back cover (There's three omnibii of the author's work by the same publisher. Also, that's the correct plural form of omnibus, no matter what spell-check says!)
And in case you zipped right to the bottom of my admittedly lengthy profile, please keep in mind that I'm in a committed-open relationship, and it's a pretty serious-major part of my life. If that's not a deal breaker, then bless you, and let's get to know each other!
I will be more likely to message you first if we have a high match rating, AND it say's you're open to open-relationships. In fact I won't message anyone who says they're not open to non-monogamy, out of respect. However, I know from experience that some of you out there are interested in open relationships, but have a good reason for not advertising it publicly (not that you should feel the need to defend that reason to me or anyone). If you fall into that category and think you might want to date me, please feel free to message me for some winning conversation that WON'T involve shaming you for not being out about your non-monogamy.