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29 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:16pm
White, Other
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly other
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from space camp
Art / Music / Writing
Seeing Someone
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), Czech (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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First thing you should know is that I'm active practitioner of ethical non-monogamy. If you don't know what that is, feel free to ask. I have two partners that I'm very committed to, and I can't believe how lucky I am to have met them both. They are:

lady_earlgrey who I've been with since this last summer, but it feels like we've known each other all our lives!


selcouth_ who I've been with for over two years, and we're still just as smitten with each other as the day we met!

FYI, we're not a triad, and in fact you'll notice selcouth_ moved to CA, much to my chagrin, and that was right before I met lady_earlgrey, so they incidentally haven't gotten a chance to met one another. Also, we don't believe in a relationship hierarchy or anything (I'm listing them in alphabetical order, not order of importance, as if there is such a thing), though I will casually point out that I'm a 99% match with both of them, but, uh, no pressure or anything 😉

So yeah, while my dance-card isn't full quite yet, I should disclaim that I don't feel that I could offer any other would-be partners the super-intense level of commitment that I share with my current partners. That being said, my experience with non-monogamy has taught me that affection, generosity, nurturing and empathy are not finite resources (though sadly time and emotional energy are), so don't feel like I'm going to keep you at arm's length or be inconsiderate of your time and/or feelings.. if I am lucky enough to meet you, that is.

For a lot of people open relationships, and non-monogamy are nothing new, but for a lot of people they are. I'm also aware of the negative stigma around open relationships, thanks in large part to people who attempt them without any tools for dealing with potential bumps (Or they're just fucking bat-shit sociopaths, in which case they should probably keep their dilapidated trailer park of a relationship to themselves. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I've only experienced one such instance of this firsthand. I'll tell you about it some time between generous sips of smooth, smooth bourbon). So if you have any questions or concerns about my open relationship, ask away. It's a subject I'm not the least bit shy about.

It's come to my attention that being a girl on this site can really suck because the second your profile goes live, you're bombarded with copied-&-pasted messages from unsavory gentleman who are sure you've been waiting all your life to be ground up on by them. I've also learned that there's a plurality of guys who can form complete sentences in the Queen's English and appear decent enough in their profile, but when you meet them in real life they have the emotional intelligence of the first category of dudes. I could launch into a lengthy rant about how I'm definitely not one of those guys, but I know the only way to prove that is through good behavior and open communication.

Dream Job: Editor-in-Chief, 'Cat Fancy' Magazine.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Misadventured piteous overthrows.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Video Editing
Bicycle Riding (I'm a half decent wrench too)
Taking Public Transit in Foreign (and Domestic) Lands
Omelette Engineering
Makin' Out
Finding Stuff (The Secret is to Look Underneath Other Stuff)
Passing Tools to People
Capitalizing Most Words
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Beard (Hooray, the beard is back just in time for the polar vortex!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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GoodReads profile:

Movies: Enter the Void, Citizen Kane, Anything Chaplin but particularly Modern Times and The Great Dictator, Persona, Pi, Wild At Heart, The Hudsucker Proxy, Underground, There Will Be Blood, Tetsuo The Iron Man, Paprika, Batteries Not Included, Sid and Nancy, Down By Law, Forest Gump II: Bubba's Revenge, Anything Pixar except "Cars," which I just haven't seen (and could be missing out?).

Music: Arcade Fire, Islands, Matt and Kim, Sleighbells, Yeaysayer, The Talking Heads, Japanther, Dragonforce, Ninjasonik, Harry Nilsson... So Much... Too Much... But Somehow Never Enough!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Time For Reading.
Dik-Diks (I've never actually seen one in the flesh, but just knowing they exist makes me happy. If you have no idea what a Dik-Dik is, please click this link **I promise it's adorable and not gross**
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
'Noiseman Sound Insect' (
The Uncanny Valley
Squirrels: Nature's Ninjas
The Space Elevator
Tard: The Grumpy Cat (
This Louis CK bit and how it perfectly sums up why I'm leaning towards not wanting to have children:
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Tearing up to episodes of 'My Cat From Hell' on Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've never driven a car or taken a driving lesson in my life. But I will soon, I promise.
You should message me if
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You want to exchange witty banter.
You want to exchange witty pheromones.
You would pay a street musician to stop playing Sublime.
You don't mind seasonal facial hair.

I'm also interested in networking with other film/video professionals, shooters and editors in particular. So feel free to reach out for that purpose, and I will keep it oh, so platonic and professional. I know there's other sites for that, but Linkedin gives me a rash.

Oh, and here's a deal for those of you who may want to message me, but are suddenly overcome by writer's block (this happens to me quite a bit, and I can't be the only one): Feel free to write a very brief (even single word) message ending in "Mayonnaise." This is partly to test if you've closely read my profile, and partly to give you an out for aforementioned writer's block. Bonus points if you can catch the literary reference.

And in case you zipped right to the bottom of my admittedly lengthy profile, please keep in mind that I'm in a committed-open relationship, and it's a pretty serious-major part of my life. If that's not a deal breaker, then bless you, and let's get to know each other!

And just so you know, I'm less likely now, more than ever, to take the initiative when it comes to messaging. Sorry, it's mainly a time-crunch thing, and it's not like I feel like I have no obligation to actively show interest in you or think of good ice-breaker topics. However, I will be more likely to message you if we have a high match rating, AND it say's you're open to open-relationships. In fact I won't message anyone who says they're not. However, I know from being messaged by you, that some of you out there are interested in open relationships, but have a valid reason for not advertising it publicly. So I encourage you to message me if you're so inclined.