lady_earlgrey who I've been with since this last summer, but it feels like we've known each other all our lives!
selcouth_ who I've been with for over two years, and we're still just as smitten with each other as the day we met!
FYI, we're not a triad, and in fact you'll notice selcouth_ moved to CA, much to my chagrin, and that was right before I met lady_earlgrey, so they incidentally haven't gotten a chance to met one another. Also, we don't believe in a relationship hierarchy or anything (I'm listing them in alphabetical order, not order of importance, as if there is such a thing), though I will casually point out that I'm a 99% match with both of them, but, uh, no pressure or anything 😉
So yeah, while my dance-card isn't full quite yet, I should disclaim that I don't feel that I could offer any other would-be partners the super-intense level of commitment that I share with my current partners. That being said, my experience with non-monogamy has taught me that affection, generosity, nurturing and empathy are not finite resources (though sadly time and emotional energy are), so don't feel like I'm going to keep you at arm's length or be inconsiderate of your time and/or feelings.. if I am lucky enough to meet you, that is.
For a lot of people open relationships, and non-monogamy are nothing new, but for a lot of people they are. I'm also aware of the negative stigma around open relationships, thanks in large part to people who attempt them without any tools for dealing with potential bumps (Or they're just fucking bat-shit sociopaths, in which case they should probably keep their dilapidated trailer park of a relationship to themselves. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I've only experienced one such instance of this firsthand. I'll tell you about it some time between generous sips of smooth, smooth bourbon). So if you have any questions or concerns about my open relationship, ask away. It's a subject I'm not the least bit shy about.
It's come to my attention that being a girl on this site can really suck because the second your profile goes live, you're bombarded with copied-&-pasted messages from unsavory gentleman who are sure you've been waiting all your life to be ground up on by them. I've also learned that there's a plurality of guys who can form complete sentences in the Queen's English and appear decent enough in their profile, but when you meet them in real life they have the emotional intelligence of the first category of dudes. I could launch into a lengthy rant about how I'm definitely not one of those guys, but I know the only way to prove that is through good behavior and open communication.
Dream Job: Editor-in-Chief, 'Cat Fancy' Magazine.