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jay-three

31 M Minneapolis, MN

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 15
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Often
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English, LISP (Okay), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm shy and spend a lot of time at home unless prodded, but like to think I'm fun to be around once out of my shell. I moved to MN from Tulsa, OK in April 2010 and am very slowly growing my social circle.

My main goal here is to meet new people to hang out with and/or date casually. Right now I think my ideal relationship would be a step or two past friendship. I'm not closed to something developing beyond that, but that's not really what I'm looking for.

I enjoy music, sports, reading, trivia (bar and any other kind), movies, crossword puzzles, and Scrabble.

I have a lot of old man characteristics. I enjoy reading the newspaper (ideally in paper form), CBS Sunday Morning, going on walks, and waking up early.

I like the idea of reducing one's possessions and have been slowly working toward that end.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a software engineer employed by Level 3 Communications and work from home. Ideally I'd like to work somewhere with an innovative workspace that fosters community and productivity. Ultimately though I would like to retire early to own my own business. Possible ventures: soap making, used book store, apple cidery, or maybe I'll buy a small town motel and run the miniature versions of the previous three out of the lobby.

In a more broad sense I am trying to better myself. This means losing weight (and being healthy), being productive, doing more things I enjoy and fewer things I don't and in general having a full life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at knowing things that most people would find unimportant. I'm usually good at keeping my cool and understanding things from other peoples' prospectives. I am pretty good at doing the New York Times crossword puzzle. I am good at analyzing problems and coming up with solutions (at least when it comes to software).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my curly hair and beard. Also I am quite overweight at the moment (and have been for all but a year or two of my teen and adult life), but I am working to improve that. I probably usually have a guarded posture if I am at all paying attention to other people. I've been told I have nice eyes, but I don't really know anything about that.

Currently I also have a rather large, usually unkempt beard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like The World According To Garp, The Song of Ice and Fire series, Cormac McCarthy, Chuck Klosterman, Michael Perry, Cat's Cradle, Neal Stephenson, etc, etc

Somewhat recent movies I have enjoyed are Moonrise Kingdom, The Cabin In The Woods, The Master, The Artist, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy, Safe House, Beginners, and The Guard. I like the Coen Brothers. I enjoy watching Hud whenever it is on and also like Touch of Evil. I like most Judd Apatow movies. Often I would rather watch TV than movies. I enjoy Mad Men, The Wire, Carnivale, Deadwood, Twin Peaks, etc. I'm a huge fan of British TV, especially panel shows.

I also really like live comedy, though I don't go locally as much as I should. I went to New York in 2012 and went to The Comedy Cellar twice and both UCBs. In 2013 I went to SF Sketchfest.

Right now my favorite bands are probably T. Rex, Sparks, Devo, Yes, and 10cc. I also like Mastodon, TV On The Radio, Girl Talk, Ghostface Killah, The Lounge Lizards, MGMT, Beirut, Gogol Bordello, and country music with a steel guitar. In general I can find something to like in just about any genre I can think of (though I'm not big into reggae). Good music is good music.

I'm a fat man and like a lot of foods. My favorite foods are probably Indian and Thai. Oh, and sandwiches. I also like foods with cheese. In general I like savory foods as opposed to sweet foods. In the past I rarely ate fruits and vegetables, but I am broadening my horizons. I just went two months (5/14 - 7/14) as a vegetarian, and didn't really mind at all. I'm back to eating meat, but not much.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Solitude - I enjoy spending time alone. I like being around other people too, but if I go a while without some alone time I grow increasingly anxious.
The Internet - I discontinued my cable service and have been watching TV on Hulu, ESPN3, Amazon VOD, torrents, etc. I spend all of my work day on the computer so usually don't do much traditional internet-y stuff after hours, but for video and all the other services becoming more and more widespread it is indispensable.
Music/Comedy - I've been thinking about taking music off of this list. It's not that I don't like music anymore. It's just that it's not as important in my life as it used to be. Stand up comedy and podcasts have kind of taken that place for me. However, I recently resubscribed to Spotify and have been trying to keep up with music more actively than just listening to The Current in my car.
Sports - I like a lot of different sports. I watch a lot of tennis right now, but I love baseball, football, basketball, golf, curling, and anything competitive. That said I don't let sports control my life. I'm not the guy who "must" see this game or that game. I might obsessively check scores on my phone if in an appropriate setting, but I've spent enough of my life around people who dislike sports that I know how to keep it in check.
Trivia - I like playing trivia games, reading books of trivia and just learning new facts in general.
My Mind - I don't really like the idea of dementia.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I've been thinking about how my previous entry here was kind of a bummer. I'll rewrite at some point.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually I'm spending time at home, though I'm trying to get out more often. I'm not much for crowds and don't like crowded bars/clubs, unless a band I like is playing. If I'm going to go out on Friday night I prefer a laid back bar where I can actually have a conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I get high, great music makes me cry like a baby.
You should message me if
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Message me if you need an extra person for your bar trivia team, want someone to watch sports or live comedy with, or just want to hang out.

If we have things in common and you think I seem interesting, I'd love to chat and learn more about you.