Too daunting, ask questions. Btw, that's not a horribly conceited
user name; someone in the room asked if they could call me "Jay"
when I happened to be choosing a name here and my reply was...
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to enjoy it, being there for and helping people I care
about, doing things that I think are meaningful, starting new
projects or seeing through what I have going on (work,
volunteering, etc). I'm entrepreneurial and pretty driven (by
successful outcomes not greed)... Not taking myself to seriously.
Being ambivalent about NY (I've lived here off and on since being a
kid so...) I'm trying to stick w NY though after LA (CA), VA, DC
area, So FL, New England and short periods in the Middle East and
London; need to settle/be rooted a little.
I’m really good at
Seeing the better (and often the humorous) side of things. Seeing
possibilities and strengths in situations and people. Picking up or
making varied and obscure references. Finding ways to help people
accomplish what they want to. Adjusting to whatever. Listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
Really you'd have to ask them. That I have freckles perhaps. I hope
not though and they are not that noticeable. I'd like to say that I
am genuinely interested in what people are thinking, feeling, etc.
and that comes across. And I'm often trying to repress an
inappropriate smile, laugh or joke.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, I can't hurt a lot of books' feelings by choosing favorites
but I'm a huge reader. Can't go wrong with classics. But also
journals, blogs, lit mags, etc. Less so these days than formerly-
time constraints and it's better to live life than read it.
Incidentally, I also write- essays, short stories, poems, novels-
and was in journalism for a brief time.
The same holds with film but I'm not a serious film geek...
Television is easier because I don't watch much- 30 Rock, Arrested
Development, Chapelle Show, Borgias, Family Guy, Catherine Tate
Show, South Park, Eastbound and Down, All Creatures Great and Small
(I lived on a farm for a while in an out of the way, time forgotten
and very picturesque community and this reminds me of it). The
occasional PBS fare, you know Masterpiece Theater- I'm that person
who is disappointed when an Evelyn Waugh book is badly interpreted
in film and says wistfully, "It was better with Jeremy Irons"
*shameface*. Southern Cal (USC) and Cornell college football and
track when it's on. Occasionally "period" series.
Lianne La Havas and How to Dress Well are getting play at this
instant (take off a manly-man stripe). The following by mood:
Chillwave/Glo-fi, R&B, Older Salsa and Cuban genres, Old School
Hip Hop, New Wave/New Rom, Southern and Classic Rock, Jam Bands,
Country, Reggae, Soca, Classical, Grunge, Glam-Funk, Funkadelic,
Food- really varied but I haven't done Vietnamese despite many
entreaties and advice to; I feel I need to leave something
unexplored and that's what I selected. Yes, I can cook, in a
The six things I could never do without
Family and friends (not things I know). Um mobile phone, bottled
water, earphones for music, passport... More non-object things.
I'll say, laughter, ideas, projects, communication. See I did extra
when not limited to objects.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
World peace. Seriously, who does an inventory of their thinking?
Ah, all the people who answered this question. Guess I'm not as
self aware as I assumed. But I do think a lot about culture,
politics, sociology, philosophy and religion, history, economics...
I was a political analyst for a while (international focus, Middle
East and Latin America- variation), and worked in academia- there
is a huge geek lurking underneath but I think it's well covered up.
I'm analytical by nature. I'm sure I think of less heavy subjects
much more than anything else.
On a typical Friday night I am
"He drinks a whisky drink, He drinks a vodka drink, He drinks a
lager drink, He drinks a cider drink, He sings the songs that
remind him of the good times, He sings the songs that remind him of
the better times." Just kidding.
Out with friends (I'm surrounded by bars restaurants, galleries,
etc so why not), catching up on work, in transit for a quick
vacation w friends / getting out the city (split my time in DC
travel for work), reading, catching up on sleep, in that order.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
First time filling something like this out but I'm big on meeting
new people (don't want to go through life knowing prep school,
college and fraternity buddies, work friends and the random people
I chatted up over the years.) The people who have contacted me and
met in this very short period are really interesting, far more so
than I would have imagined and more so than I encounter otherwise.
New friends are a good thing...
You should message me if
Conditions on saying, "hello" to me are too much; that's no
judgment of those who are more, um, focused. I'm genuinely doing
the friendship and networking thing, not looking for luv. Hope
that's ok. Comment on what I've posted, share something about
yourself, ask about anything, discuss any topic,- I'll definitely
return any message. If I forget to blame my head... Feel free to
I'm probably not going to initiate convo not b/c I'm an ass but
because I put up a bunch of stuff so you can determine how
reprehensible I'll be and save yourself the time. (j/k) I do wait
for others, but when I actually initiate contact it is usually in
the form that anyone does in social media or real life, i.e. a
quick comment or question that may not be all that serious; forgive
me if there are other expectations with this that I do not meet
okay. ;-) Best.