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jaylemurph

36 M Seattle, WA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:16am
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Okay), Latin (Fluently), Occitan (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm intensely curious about everything. I'll talk to anyone about anything, even though this has gotten me into trouble numerous times.

I love to travel, and have lived in London, Glasgow and Brooklyn, and am always looking to go somewhere new. I moved to Seattle last year to go to school, but I don't know a ton(ne) of people here. Yet.

Right now, I'm sort of proud of myself for finishing both the Six Week 100 Pushup Challenge and the Six Week 200 Situp Challenge. I expect the novelty will fade, though, so I've taken up squats and dips, too.

I'm also sort of pining for my dog, a basset hound who is currently staying with my parents. He's sort of my role model. He's awesome, partly because he believes everyone in the world wants to rub his belly and give him treats, partly because he's goofy beyond belief and frequently trips over his own ears.

Two characters I think are ridiculously hot (and I'm not 100% why): Frazz, from the daily comic strip, and Ben from Parks and Recreation. Take from that what you will.
What I’m doing with my life
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School, mostly: teaching and student-ing. (Why is there a verb for one and not the other?)

I also work as a director, playwright and dramaturg, and study English Renaissance plays (especially non-Shakespearean ones).

If I had a car, I expect I'd be traveling around more, looking at the mountains and sea, but I don't, so I'm exploring the city via the bus. Which is its own sort of interesting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking. Listening. Kidding. Having Fun. Exploring. Kissing. Napping. Reading. Enumerating sundry gerunds.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I really don't know. I sort of wish I did.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Honestly, if you want to know who I am or what I'm like, this is your best bet --

Books: Ohhh, lots and lots. Hitch-hiker's Guide; Catcher in the Rye; Go Down, Moses; Sarah Caudwell's mysteries, plays by Christopher Marlowe, John Ford and William Davenant; The Remembrance of Things Past, The Decline and Fall (Gibbons and Waugh), Rivers of London, The Walking Dead, the Scott Pilgrim series, HP Lovecraft, Clementine in the Kitchen, The Basic Eight, Doctor Who and an Exciting Adventure with the Daleks...

TV shows: Doctor Who, ER, Fawlty Towers, Being Human (US), People's Court, Skins, Home Movies, Quatermass serials, Wonderfalls, Cracker, Are You Being Served?, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Blake's 7, Freaks and Geeks, Sherlock, Gilmore Girls, House, Globe Trekker, Flight of the Conchords, Blackadder...

Movies: Scott Pilgrim versus the World, The Lion in Winter (the real one with O'Toole and Hepburn, not that made-for-TV trash), The Revenger's Tragedy, Branagh's Henry V, McKellan's Richard III, Jarman's Edward II, Clue, This Sporting Life, Snakes on a Plane, Dark City, Empire Records, Juno, Shakespeare in Love, Up, Withnail and I

Music: Belle and Sebastian, Camera Obscura, The Smiths, Sufjan Stevens, The Pains of Being Pure at Heart, Magnetic Fields et al., Arcade Fire, Franz Ferdinand, Joy Division/New Order, Petula Clark, The Pocketbooks, Allo Darlin', Glass Candy, Telekinesis, The Clash, Bach, Vivaldi, Debussy, Chopin, pop music from the 20s to the 60s, piano-based 60s jazz.

Food: Just about anything -- Sushi, Thai, Indian, Ukrainian, delis, Malaysian, French, Ethiopian. I love Bojangle's chicken and BBQ from little road-side shacks. I also love to cook.

BONUS! Radio/Podcasts: Savage Love; Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me, Says You, This American Life, The World's World in Words.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) My iPod -- seriously, it's never more than 10 feet away from me. Think: Linus van Pelt and his blanket.

2) Books: Anything from a Penguin Classic edition of The History of the Franks to Skins: The Novel. Preferably something old with the words Doctor Who on the cover.

3) A warm, fuzzy blanket of some sort. Or at least a dependable towel.

4) Access to a non-digital copy of If You're Feeling Sinister.

5) Teh Inter-webs. Most of my friends are in excess of 500 miles away from me, so I need it to feel in touch.

6) Caffeine. Preferably in the form of Diet Coke.

(Extra bonus items: a pen and paper, so I can write something.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The past and how it relates to the present, and how old ideas can be restated in modern terms. (This sort of the raison d'etre to my career as a dramaturg.)

Why people act the way they do. (Professionally and privately)

Also: How awesome basset hounds are.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At work. Either at my job, studying or writing. (I know, it sounds terrible: wouldn't you like to remedy it? ;) )
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've only ever slept with one person (a musician) that made me feel sleazy or gross afterwards. The rest of the time it was all good fun.
You should message me if
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You're bored. I can cure that in 37 different ways.

Also: if you were wondering about how Christopher Marlowe's connections to the School of Night may have made significant impact on his dramaturgy. I've never actually met anyone else who might care, but I remain hopeful. One has to have some pillow talk on reserve.