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Last online
Sep 30
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Buddhism and laughing about it
Has kids and might want more
My self-summary
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Ooh! Ooh! Pick me! Pick me!
Really, why not? I'm a terrific guy. Definitely not mainstream, and I like it like that. Many years ago, I wanted to be "in" the right crowd, and I did make it, for long enough to get very clear that is not where I wanted to be.
I aspire to be fearless- not stupid fearless, but not confined in my life by fear of what others would think, or do. Fearless to be myself, I guess, in every moment.
I have a lot to learn, and I'm a pretty good student. I hope to learn a lot from a partner, and return the favor with interest.
What I’m doing with my life
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My work is a big part of my life. I love what I do (mostly) and am proud of what I have accomplished. I'm the executive director of a nonprofit arts organization that I founded, and the organization is thriving. I feel good about that.
Being a dad is another big part. I am so grateful to have had the opportunity; I've learned so much about love and life.
In my spare time, I am a performing jazz musician, a rabid fly fisherman, a builder of things and a zen student.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty good at being self-effacing, actually. If forced, I would say I'm good at my job and I'm a great, but not perfect, dad. I am a good teacher.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well, I haven't asked, but I would guess that people notice that I'm intense and intelligent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a musician, I got a degree in jazz performance, if you can believe there is such a thing. In the course of doing that, I learned a lot about classical music as well as jazz, and I love listening to Bach and Beethoven, Scarlatti and Mozart. One of my absolute favorite things to do is to lie in bed listening to great music with my lover- its been quite a while, but I'll bet it still floats my boat.

I love to read, but my selections generally are books people have given me. I enjoyed "Omnivore's Dilemma" very much, found Kieth Richards' autobiography entertaining, and just finished "The Kite Runner", which I found on the shelf in my mother's nursing home in WA DC. Brilliant book.

I don't have much time or interest in TV.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spent years working in the backcountry for Outward Bound, up in the N Cascades. Back then, the "absolute must haves" were a dry pair of socks, a hot drink, ibuprofen and a crossword puzzle to work on while the kids were sorting things out. Life is more complex now, but I still appreciate dry socks and a hot drink.

I'd rather not be without an instrument, one of my guitars, and I sure enjoy coffee. I suppose I should include my glasses, they do come in handy.

I guess I am easily satisfied in terms of material possessions. The "things" that are most important to me are not things- time with my daughter, playing music with friends, standing waist deep in a big river with my steelhead rod, hearing something extraordinary.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A zen student spends a lot of time thinking about not thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully playing a gig somewhere. I love performing, even though a lot of what I do is background music. If no gig, then packing for a fishing trip, or if I have my daughter (she is 7) having crazy fun with her.
You should message me if
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you aren't chicken! Maybe that's not very nice, I'm sorry. Message me if you're ready!