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jbasil

22 New York, NY Cis Man, Genderfluid

Cis Man, Genderfluid

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–33
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 23
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 6″ (1.98m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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There should probably be a few words here about the gender identity above, and I'm going to say them, but bear with me, because this is still something I'm figuring out for myself. I include "cis man" because I was assigned male at birth, and because on the great majority of days I feel completely comfortable with this label. And I present outwardly in a way which is read by nearly everyone in that way as well. That said, there are days when I don't feel like I am a man, when there is more to my relationship with gender than the simple "check yes in the box and move on" that seems to characterize cis-ness. There is some more going on here, I guess is what I'm saying. And I don't know how much of that is that I haven't allowed myself to or had the time to think it through more, or to try on other kinds of identity, or because I'm just "mostly cis", whatever that means. I guess I'm just trying to figure it all out.

I am in a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship with another lovely grad student in the city. I'm not even remotely looking for monogamy or exclusivity or anything of that nature. If you're interested in what poly means for me, or what it might mean for you, or what it might mean in general, let me know! I love talking about poly things, and finding out new ways that people do it.

I really like math, and fonts, and hip hop, and opera, and poetry, and getting lost. I don't know how to describe myself, and I don't know if I wish I did.

I speak in analogies, and I like to be confused.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm doing the grad school thing at the moment---I've just started a PhD in math at CUNY. I'm figuring out how to live here, figuring out what I like to do, and trying to meet fun and interesting new people.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening, math, getting lost, reading maps, giving massages, calligraphy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
tall? bald?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books:
Joyce---A Portrait of the Artist As a Young Man; Nabokov---Lolita, Pale Fire; Murakami---The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, Saint-Éxupery---The Little Prince, Deleuze & Guattari---Anti-Œdipus, A Thousand Plateaus; Tolkien---The Silmarillion, The Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit; Rowling---All the Harry Potter; Proust---As much of In Search of Lost Time as I've read, it remains a reading in progress; Kierkegaard---Fear and Trembling.

Movies:
Amélie, My Neigbor Totoro (and almost every other Miyazaki movie), Pan's Labyrinth, Lawrence of Arabia, Lord of the Rings, Les Miserables, Hiroshima mon amour, Frances Ha, etc etc.

Shows:
The X-Files, The West Wing, The Rachel Maddow Show, The Mentalist, Doctor Who, Person of Interest, Dexter.

Music: hip-hop, folk rock, indie rock, electronica, trance, rap, soul, Motown, musicals, opera, classical.

favorites among those genres include: wu-tang clan, joanna newsom, the decemberists, ella fitzgerald, the band, bob dylan, james deano, IAM, chuck berry, the beatles, puccini, yeah yeah yeahs, nas, infected mushroom.

Food: cakes, pies, pasta, vinegar, chocolate, tomatoes, barbecue, comfort food (basically anything southern), gnocchi, rice, peaches, chicken.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
typography
homotopy
cuddling
whiskey
the moon
bears
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I should have said yesterday, math, time, depression, kerning.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I have no idea what a typical Friday is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I make a lot of jokes about math.
You should message me if
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...you want to?

...you're interested in ethical polyamory (or other names for multiple ethical relationship frameworks).