I seem to go through cycles of being totally content being single and really wanting to be with someone super-radical. I find it difficult to meet other queer men whom I can really relate to. Most of the queer guys I meet are really cool, but I have little interest in dating. I've been undergoing an exponential amount of growth lately and I think I am in a great place and that I have a lot to offer someone. That hasnt always been the case.
So Ive had this account for a while and I thought that I would update it and just be brutally honest and if someone is down with going out for a cup of coffee or wine, give them a fair shake.
Here are something you should know about me...
1- I will never like you, let alone love you, as much as I do my dogs. They are my best pals and have loved me before you and will love me unconditionally after you go...also, they sleep on the bed, so get use to it.
2- I'm looking for a substantive relationship. I'm not saying I want to get married, I may or may not even believe in the institution, but I am looking for a commitment.
3- I'm not looking for friends - I have lots and I barely have time for them as is. If we are going to "hang out" in my mind its a date, or its a predate, we are hanging out because we are seeing if we could be compatible as partners
4- If you are racist/sexist/ableist/transphobic/heterosexist/essentialist, I will call you out for you bullshit. If in your profile you make it known that your not "into" black guys, or asian people, or if you are femphobic, or that you are "only into white guys, sorry", don't bother messaging me because you are horrible.
5- I will probably judge your taste in music...I just cant help it.
6- I don't look good all the time. I try to dress well, but there are days when I wake up that I look horrible. I'm an active guy, but sometimes I may walk around with 5 extra pounds. I'm not perfect and I don't expect you to be either.
7- I need to talk about my feelings and I have a hard time relating to people who do not.