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40 Elmira, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:19pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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All of a sudden, I am apparently HUGE in Canada.

That or OKC has decided I'm such a tough sell that they've spread my profile to other countries now.


I am on the back foot here, y'all. If you read all the way down (and note what I'm Looking For, just to the right there --->) you'll recognize I'm very direct (if rarely crass). Getting a "Match" notice doesn't tell me that you've actually read my profile, so please, if you have read it, go ahead and have the cojones to write me first. Only you can tell if I'm your cup of tea.

List of the best "suggested qualities" I've read on people's profiles:

Genuinely like women
Critical yet tolerant of others
Not perfect. (That's me!!)
You're a [] straight guy who examines his privilege every goddamn day.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Readjusting to DC.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Never responding to people who have ever answered one of those race- or religion-based questions by writing, "I prefer someone of my own race/religion."

Hang up, NOW.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The white hot anger.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
"A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again," "The Right Stuff," "Mr. Show," Rimsky-Korsakov, Sasabune in The HNL.

What do "Mr. Show" and "Arrested D" have in common?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Most of these profile questions.

Oh, sorry, did you say could NEVER do without?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why anyone would get upset about being accused of being fake on OKC.

It's not personal, but when you have one photo, answer 16 questions, and only answer what you are doing on a typical Friday night (and that is something flatly sexual), you MAY get challenged on some issues just to figure out for sure.

I don't know you. When I say, you seem slightly sketchy to me, that's not a personal slight; I don't find you an untrustworthy person in real life. I just doubt you actually exist.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I can't understand why people are congenitally unable to comprehend this question.

It says "willing to admit:" don't be cute/coy - this is an opportunity to show how clever you are, people, not the Inquisition. If you're only willing to admit that you've never seen "Caddyshack," SAY THAT!

What's that you say? I've conveniently managed to avoid answering the question?

Oh, well, that's easy: I did ballet as a kid. Yup, and a Marine: I'm sure you can square that somehow.
You should message me if
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So apparently I am not as clear here as I could be. Thus:

*I am non-monogamous and expect that anyone who contacts me will be accepting of that.*
*I am not looking for anything romantic; what is most natural to me is to have friends whom I fuck but care about deeply. This generally means I don't do one-time things.*
*I am purely self-taught - and I mean that; this is shit I've long considered and is the product of serious introspection - as someone who practices what I guess is (somewhat ridiculously) called "ethical non-monogamy." I enjoy engaging on the topic with people who are more experienced with or better educated about it.*