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jeffr82

32 M Bloomington, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:08am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
Drinks
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Wants kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
You can continue reading below but here's the gist of it. I'm here because it's easier for me to initiate a conversation here. However, I realized recently that I don't want to spend time messaging back and forth needlessly, so here's my proposition: let's meet for coffee and have a conversation, after that we can continue talking or go our own separate ways. I'm finding it silly to go through profiles and read all this stuff and judge based on answers or whatever, that's just not how the human soul works. We require interaction, we can't really know if we like someone based on a profile on a website. My two cents for the day. Word, yo.

Greetings,

How are you? I hope you're well. I'm terrible at this sort of small talk, how does one know when it's enough and to move on? How does one know when you've accomplished the goal of small talk? I'll be honest and say that small talk has never really been my thing (part of being an introvert) and I really prefer to get to the point. This tends to happen a lot professionally for me. I work in IT Tech Support and a lot of the time people will try to make small talk when I'm trying to do something and while I participate, I often wonder what's the point? Maybe I'm weird but I called you to fix your issue, I don't really need your life story. Yeah, it's probably more about the human connection, but as an introvert I don't need human connections with everyone I come across.

If you read the paragraph above you're probably realizing that this isn't a typical "About Me" paragraph and is more (at least I hope) like a letter to an anonymous person whom I just might meet one day. I like this way a bit more, it allows me to be more free with how I type this out and is more of a free flow of thought than a contrived list of positives about myself. I'm at that point in my life where I have most things that I want (a car, a nice job, a place to live, friends, etc) with the exception of my own personal family (my immediate family is in Indiana (I'm from there...) but you know what I mean - wife and kids... all that). I've realized from hanging around my friends who have kids that I do indeed want my own child to enhance what this life is and to learn from. Of course, I'm not one to just go out and find someone to have a child with, I won't settle, I know the type of person I want and I know the type of person I would to be the mother of my child. Not everyone fits these qualifications (and I'm not going to make a list of them) and that's OK. We all have the things we're looking for, we all have what we need in a partner and there is no reason that anyone should settle for less than what they think they deserve.

I digress, I'm not on a dating site out of desperation, I'm here because it's difficult for me to approach people in real life. It gets to the point where I'm at the precipice of saying something, but then that anxiety of "what am I actually going to talk about" sets in and I chicken out like a bitch. It sucks, but I have made a personal promise that if I see someone who I maybe interested in AND they have something about them that is something I'm extremely passionate about I'm just taking the leap of faith and going for it. No more holding back. I know that coming out of your shell shouldn't be THAT difficult and all it really takes is that one push, I just haven't got the chance yet. So back to my point, I'm here because it's much easier to tell when you have things in common people when they list the things they're interested in here. Also text is an easier form of communication than speech.

You might want to know more about me, so here's a short life story. I was born and raised in a small town outside of a bigger midwestern city (my town is Danville, the city is Indianapolis). I didn't necessarily live in the 'country' but I also didn't really live in town until after I'd graduated high school. Growing up I mostly kept to myself, hung out with the neighbors and/or family, played video games, read, played a few sports (mainly basketball.. I'm from Indiana after all...), and apparently wanted to be a doctor. I eventually became a doctor...for computers...and graduated college. I started my career and held a bunch of jobs that weren't really up to my capabilities and eventually landed here in Bloomington working for a rather large company. I like the job mostly, and the town doesn't seem too bad, but I do want to escape (Pacific Northwest you're calling my name!). This has turned out rather long and I don't want to bore you, so if I left you with any questions feel free to ask! Otherwise, well, do what you will, I'm not the boss of you.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it. What else are you supposed to do with your life? They say don't let it pass you by so I'm not doing that.
I’m really good at
Learning. No really, I'm a quick learner and I strive to perfect the things I learn to do. This can also be a bad thing since I get frustrated if I'm not doing something better than everyone else near me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: typically sci-fi or fantasy, sometimes bildungsroman (just learned this word!) Authors like Neil gaiman, George r r martin, Douglas Adams. I recently read "We Need New Names"

Movies: I'm not a huge movie buff, I love Kevin Smith's stuff though. Ill watch almost anything but I hardly ever seek out movies to watch

TV: a few shows: Doctor Who, The Walking Dead, Top Gear are ones I keep up with, I also enjoy the simpsons, American dad, 90s Nickelodeon, king of the hill, the office, star trek, and others

Music: My musical tastes are constantly expanding. I love the banjo for whatever reason. Bands that I cant stop loving: Modest Mouse, Morning Teleportation, The Builders and the Butchers, Murder by Death, The Front Bottoms, Andrew Jackson Jihad. Most recent discovery Carolina Chocolate Drops see here: http://youtu.be/UbxMDsJPXKw I don't tend to listen to the radio so it is unlikely I could even name a current Top40 song. Nearly anything with a banjo in it is fantastic to me.
The six things I could never do without
The essentials obviously. Music. The quirks of humans. The internet. Caffiene. Other people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The reasons behind why people do the things they do. Especially those that make me question humanity.

Why honesty on the internet doesn't seem to exist. This isn't limited to here either (though its very rampant, ever moderated? Heh) but also includes news sites and nearly everywhere.
On a typical Friday night I am
Game night with friends or chilling out at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
One time when I was in maybe sixth grade I had longer hair and hared it, so I cut some myself. When my parents saw it they assumed a kid at school did it so I went with that. Someone got called into the principal for that, we are little jerks when we're kids eh?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're an awesome person and want to make a new awesome friend.

You want to start as friends and see what happens.

You like taking walks

You'd rather do something outside than go to a restaurant or bar.

I can't believe I have to put this but, if you write just a single word or something short like that to me, I will ignore you. This isn't an instant messaging service.