I am somewhat introverted, but typically very easygoing/laid back. I don't like confrontation--however, if faced with it, I hold my ground. I can be patient, but only to a point. I sometimes come across as disagreeable or indifferent, but this is actually far from the truth. At times, I can be far too empathetic…and my disagreeable/indifferent disposition has become a bit of a defense mechanism. Some people might call me a pessimist, but I think of myself as having a slightly greater awareness of risk--I also respond to both positive and negative situational cues more than most people.
I can be a bit of a dork at times. I am aware of this, and I have come to accept it. I am not looking for perfection--and I don't have it to offer. But I do tend to see beauty all around me. I have a deep appreciation for the arts. I also have a great interest in unconventional ideas. I am open to new experiences and intellectual pursuits, and I like a good mental challenge…I like to experience life as deeply as possible. I'm not troubled by rule-breaking behavior as long as the intent is just--the "right" decision depends on the circumstances. I have a habit of living in the moment and doing what feels good now, instead of delaying gratification for the sake of long term objectives...this is a habit I am trying to break. (I can also be careless and disorganized, which is something else I'm trying to work on.)
I tend to prefer a cozy night in to going out on the town...it's not that I'm opposed to it, I just find large crowds and lots of noise to be exhausting--I prefer a small group of close knit friends to a hundred acquaintances. I don't generally go out of my way to impress people, but I do enjoy getting attention.
Some people have said that I'm a bit unusual...and these are typically the people who know me best.
So, a couple things…
If you have a problem with my lifestyle, please do not message me...if you've answered poly/open relationship questions in a negative way, please do not message me (unless you have questions and can be polite about it). If you think I'm interested in leaving my husband...DO NOT MESSAGE ME!!!
I am not interested in random/recreational sex. We do not "swing" or "swap". Sexting bores me really quickly. And…no...I do not want to give you my phone number after 10 one liner messages (actually make an effort to get to know me first).