I'm different. I take getting used to for most people. I'm deep. I'm passionate. I'm strong. But I do still remember how to laugh and I can be quite mundane at times.

I like to converse. Favorite topics include sex (with occasional forays into gender and sexuality), spirituality, parenting, the world and life in general.

I enjoy museums, zoos, amusement parks, and walks in forest preserves with clear, comfortable trails.

I love kids, used to work with them, have two sons, Will, born July 2005, and Finn, born July 2008, and was born to be a stay-at-home mom. I don't recruit...in fact, I typically encourage people NOT to have children. This just happens to be what I'm naturally cut out for and find fulfilling.

I'm happily in love with Tom, whom I married in 1996. We are best friends and spend the vast majority of our free time together, so it's pretty much necessary to like both of us. Fortunately, he's an easy guy to like. I'm the difficult one. :P
I'm not actively looking for anything more than friends (except with this Quiver feature here that I've rather grown to like), but if the right woman came along, I wouldn't exactly be sad. I feel like my life would be nicely rounded out, in fact, if I could fill that woman-to-woman romance niche permanently.
I am in NO WAY looking for the mythical hot bi babe. While I am not entirely closing the door on a triad type thing if the right person comes along, that's as far as it goes. I'm looking for me, period. And he is absolutely fine with that.

I suppose I ought to mention what I'm looking for in Ms. Right, too. I'm looking for a part-time relationship (making two full-time relationships work while actively parenting just isn't gonna happen), but a long-term one. Ms. Right would be intelligent, liberal, possessed of a good sense of humor, kinked in the right direction, and kind. For more details, write me. :)

Once you know me, I'm very assertive, but I'm not good at making the first move. If you like me, contact me. Seriously. I really want to hear from you. Tell me why you like me/what you think we have in common and I will write back.

Living it, every day. I have two small boys to raise which keeps me pretty busy. I'm also working on my newly discovered calling as an auspex (one who reads the omens of birds), maintaining my wonderful relationship with my spouse, and cherishing and participating in a number of fantastic friendships it took me most of my life to find.

We have a desire to ultimately immigrate to Canada, but changes in policy have us stuck in the States for the foreseeable future. In the next five years we plan to move either to the US Northeast (New England) or, if we get really lucky, to southern Ontario. Just a heads up for the future. Illinois is not our long-term location...hopefully!

Getting into other people's heads. Thinking. Managing a household. Being nice. Being eccentric. Giving advice. Being a mommy. Dealing with/surviving Bad Stuff without being overly dramatic. Pursuing life whole-heartedly.

At least one person thinks it's the dimple in my chin. Never would have occurred to me, 'cause I virtually never think about it! *laugh*

When you see me, I look like a pretty typical overweight woman. Then I open my mouth and it turns out I'm a freak. I long ago embraced my freaky self, fortunately.

I love books in general. Generally, I read fantasy (especially comic fantasy), mysteries, and scifi. I also read poetry and some non-fiction. Some important books with regard to me: The Callahan Chronicles by Spider Robinson, Curtain by Agatha Christie, Neverending Story by Ende, The Hitchhiker books by Douglas Adams, Don Quixote by Cervantes (which I haven't finished, but it's still important), Walden by Thoreau, and The Last Unicorn by Peter S. Beagle

My all-time favorite film is Princess Bride (although there are a LOT of close runner-ups including The Last Unicorn, The Ghost and Mrs. Muir, The Muppet Movie, Muppets Take Manhattan, Labyrinth, Goonies, Annie, and Star Wars.) I am also a huge Star Trek fan. STNG FTW. (That's more than enough geek cred, no? :P)

I listen to most music, but generally listen to rock (light to heavy varieties, generally more light), folk, and classics from most eras/styles. I have a pretty large collection of "Greatest Hits" albums and "Various Artists" albums. Some artists I listen to frequently include:
Tracy Chapman, Jimmy Buffett, John Denver, Bon Jovi, Def Leppard, Aerosmith, Joe Bonamassa, Peter, Paul and Mary, Keb Mo' and Dr. John.

Vegetarian who only embraced cooking in the last year or so. I am not a very adventurous eater...I don't like hot/spicy food and am highly disappointed that I can't seem to enjoy Indian food. I'm turning out to be a fairly creative cook, though, within the limitations of the foods I like. :) I still love to eat out, though, mostly Chinese, Italian, and non-spicy Mexican.

Freedom, love, control, natural beauty, physical comfort, and my brain.

Life, the universe and everything, my family and friends, what I'm doing, what I'm planning...sex, relationships, magic, spirituality, the world.

At home with my spouse and kids.

There's very little I keep private.

You like me and think you might want to be my friend. We're a really high match and you think that's cool. You are/think you might be Ms. Right. (I already have Mr. Right, guys, sorry.) You live in the places we plan to move to and like me. :)