With women, I'm primarily looking for physical intimacy. Whispers, hand-holding, cuddling, and sex sometimes go together, and sometimes they do not. If I do like you, then I'm probably more interested in the sound of your voice, than in casual sex. But whatever works.
I work in a coffee shop, and I like math.
The body of consumer marketing is endlessly fascinating. Its head consists of myriad tribal languages (cultures; turns of phrase visual, aural, and more), its heart is set by mewling poms of a thousand varieties (each fundamentally the same), its substrate is the graph of meat that turns food into carnival (billions of human bodies, governed by a specific information system sometimes referred to as consciousness). To me these things are easy, and often gross. At work I see myself primarily as a manager of money. All balance sheets are the same. What I have to do, is merely plumb the morass of corporate and artisanal staff, customers, a market substrate, and machinery... nudging us forward each day, along an undetermined vector, in an n-dimensional probability space. It is in this activity that one contemplates the control of variances, in the movements of particles through such space. Particles: a simplifying assumption.
And then I get to figure out how to translate how I think about the problem, to people who mostly just want good food, or good coffee, or a peaceful ambience, or friends, or family, or a stable job.
Such is nerd life...
They could be. For example, if work is of paramount importance.
I'd like to play a small part in making this happen:
Sometime I get bored and do things like this for the sake of anthropology (may require some backstory unless you're Malaysian):
For work, I enjoy taking on difficult tasks, learning them faster than others, and then designing sustainable systems to ensure the persistence of the organisation as a living entity.
Sometimes I figure a person's structures out, and then they get good massages thereafter.
Movie: Requiem for a Dream, Thr Machine!!
TV Shows: Dexter, House, BBC's Sherlock
Music: Smashing Pumpkins, Deftones, Radiohead, The Prodigy, UFO, Tori Amos
Food: food is fuel
I'm not really a books, movies, tv, music, or food person, but I've consumed and analysed quite a bit of these. I like physical activity though. Intellectually I do like segmenting people into groups based on their opinions of the sensual genres above.
Now, if this isn't how you tell your older brother, that he is a plebeian dumbfuck... I'm not sure what is. On the other hand, some women... you can't tell them the truth, as they then take insult and leave you. https://www.brainpickings.org/2013/01/29/anton-chekhov-8-qualities-of-cultured-people/
But since we're here. Your lips. The small of your back. The curve between your scalp and the lobe of your ear. Clits. Brains. Muscles.