I joined okcupid for a research/activity paper for my Social Constructions of Sexuality class at CU Boulder... no lie... I was supposed to write about hegemonic cultural scripts, heterosexual privilege, traditional versus ascending sexual scripts, and patriarchal gender binaries displayed or played out on this website.

These phrases get me hot. So while researching, I got distracted. I got sucked in to the intricate and complicated web that is okcupid, and I wrote about that in my paper. I also wrote about the fact that the site only gives two options for gender, and does not offer the option of being "queer" in choices for "orientation". I am pretty fucking queer.

Things I love: girls in vintage sundresses, punk-rock women, men who work to dismantle the patriarchy, over-intellectualizing, queer theory,ellipses (because of the POSSIBILITY in them), gender-neutral bathrooms, prayer flags, , septum rings, the word "dilapidated", existentialism ("how am i not myself? how am i NOT mySELF? HOW am I not myself?), garage art, poetry slams, poets..., protesting corporate greed and capitalism, waxing philosophical, social justice, vegan pumpkin pie, tea kettle whistles, plots to overthrow the government, indigenous spirituality, shamanism, patchouli, incense, faeries, autumn, crimson, bright orange couches, art, mutually consenting activity, obliterating injustice, writing, books books books books, love, and above all: magic.

Things I hate: when people say "irregardless"... because it's not a word, bigotry in any form, war, ann coulter, politicians, broken promises, lying, lemming mentality, when people spend ungodly amounts of money for frivolous things (i.e. weddings, long-stem rose bouquets, hummer limos, illegal wars in iraq, stuff like that...), Superficiality, boring conversation, social injustice, arrogance, STASIS, refusal to evolve

I am currently attending the University of Colorado at Boulder for a degree in Women and Gender Studies. I work as a co-program coordinator at the Women's Resource Center on campus. Although I resisted joining in the first place, I spend way too much time on "online communities", and avoid writing papers until the night before they are due. I graduate next year and I plan to earn my masters in social work at Virginia Commonwealth University and live in DC next year. I think I would like to work in therapy/support or some kind of direct care for "troubled" queer youth, devote my life to shamanic healing, global social justice and environmental sustainability/permaculture/urban gardening!, be a witchy midwife or doula to teenage mothers, travel to Africa, India, Guatemala, and New Zealand and write books about it!

I am a poet and an artist as well and I am working on improving the quality and increasing the quantity of my work this year!

I am so much more than can be described on this silly site. I believe in depths and dimensions that cannot possibly be explored through a computer screen....

kissing, reflective listening, making lists (except about what I'm good at), bitter diatribes about the state of the world, smiling at everyone I pass by, magic, communicating, loving wildly and with abandon

used to be my massive dreadlocks, but since I cut them :o( I am not sure... Probably my big bootie, but people only tell me that after we start dating or we have been friends for a while... or they are drunk...or crude

Books: Jeannette Winterson, especially The Passion and Oranges are Not the Only Fruit; Geek Love, Rainer Maria Rilke, especially The Book of Hours and his Elegies, the journals of Anais Nin, Henry Miller's Tropic of Capricorn, Audre Lorde's Zami: A New Spelling of My Name, The Emily of New Moon series by Lucy M. Montgomery, Anne Sexton and Claudia Rankine poetry, The Hours, Terrible Girls, The Meat and Spirit Plan, Invisible Monsters, The Self Aware Universe, Dreaming the Dark (Starhawk); Privilege, Power and Difference by Allan Johnson, Rubyfruit Jungle, 1984, The Red Tent, I Never Promised You a Rose Garden, and so on and so on and so on....

Movies: The Dreamers, Shortbus, Donnie Darko, Royal Tennanbaums, Secretary, Science of Sleep, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Mulholland Drive, Requiem for a Dream, Stranger than Fiction, When Night is Falling, But I'm a Cheerleader, Mirror Mask, I Shot Andy Warhol, Little Miss Sunshine; You, Me, and Everyone We Know.

Music: The prospect of listing all the music I listen to is overwhelming... so I will pick my top fifteen at the moment in no particular order: ani difranco, tori amos, Bright Eyes, Ladysmith Black Mambazo, modest mouse, tom waits, album leaf, M.I.A., The Decemberists, Me'shell Ndegeocello, Devotchka, Flogging Molly, mirah, feist, and Brandi Carlile.

Food: watercourse restaurant even though they kinda sold out and got super expensive and now all their original loyal customers cannot afford them... that said, I can't get enough of their seitan which i like to call SATAN. Seitan buffalo wings, country fried seitan, seitan fajitas, seitan french dip sandwich, dona lee wrap... with seitan...... if you know how to cook amazing seitan while wearing nothing but an apron and you talk to me about social justice WHILE you are cooking??? I might marry you on the spot... I also do not believe that cooking anything but sweet food should be done without garlic. I also love Hawaiian Extra Sweet Pineapple and Tofutti Strawberry "icecream" sandwiches I am trying to be vegan... but not succeeding as well as I would like. I have, however, been a vegetarian for over eight years.

a journal (or at least paper and writing utensils), some form of non-petroleum based lip balm, breath, ALONE time, creative outlet, touch

but I also believe in alchemy and I believe these "things" have a myriad of ways of manifesting or transforming themselves

social justice, my crazy long TO-DO list, sex, spirituality, hegemonic cultural scripts and gender binaries, how much i over analyze, my future orange kitten who i will name solstice, how I am going to pay for grad school, where a neutrino goes when no one is looking, how light can behave as both particle and wave, the origins of the universe, the space/time continuum, dark matter/dark energy, worm holes, how to embody magic fiercely

at a friend's house or a bar laughing and spilling things on myself.

i don't really have secrets. I wear my heart on my sleeve, so if you wanna know...

just look at my sleeve

you are radically obsessed with social justice, spirituality, philosophy, and making the political personal.

you like to fuck with gender, you are adventurous and light-filled, you can appreciate being dark and brooding SOMETIMES, you love to read and discuss, you are able and willing to expose enough of yourself to experience raw connection (in friendship or otherwise)