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31 Riverside, CA Woman


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  • Ages 30-35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
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5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and it’s important
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Malay (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have a long profile. I also write long messages. If you don't like reading, please move on.

Intersectional radical woman of colour writing analyses of power and neocolonialism in science fiction and fantasy. Also a published writer of said science fiction and fantasy. Not always feminist-identified, but working on articulating a Malaysian feminism with some friends. I am Chinese, of Hainanese extract. I am also a grad student, which means anything from "I am intelligent phwoar" to "I have super anxiety issues" to "please don't let me talk about my work for more than five minutes or else I will bore you to death" to "I am flaky as shit sometimes sorry". I don't suffer fools gladly and am a dirty little socialist.

If that didn't scare the shit out of you, I am actually capable of normal activities like watching TV and movies, hiking, clubbing, and going out to try some new eats somewhere. I especially like sewing and gardening, so if you like that too, ping. If I like you enough, you may get to sample my cooking, which as far as these things go, is pretty darn decent.
What I’m doing with my life
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Finishing a dissertation proposal, then dissertating. An anthology I edited will come out later this year! So am prepping for that too. You can find out more about it here: *rolls around in excitement*

Revising a novel. Writing short stories and poetry. Improving my sewing. Raising earthworms. Keeping my apartment from becoming a biohazard to my tenuous health. Amending the terrible soil of my garden. You know. Life things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Explaining things I understand.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A guy once said "your snappy wit and gorgeous eyes" but your mileage may vary.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books, non-fiction: i. Beyond Power, by Marilyn French; ii. Unthinking Eurocentrism, by Ella Shohat and Robert Stam; iii. Asia as Method, by Chen Kuan-Hsing.

Books, fiction: i. The Color Purple, by Alice Walker; ii. Herland, by Charlotte Perkins Gilman; iii. The Redemption of Althalus, by David and Leigh Eddings. Current changeable favourite: ????

I am indeed one of those nerds on GoodReads. Currently reading: THREE-BODY PROBLEM. You know, that Chinese science fiction novel that won a Hugo recently.

Movies: i. Mulan (2010, not the Disney one) (I will actually look down on you if you hold the Disney one in high regard); ii. The Color Purple; iii. Pacific Rim; iv. Nausicaa in the Valley of the Wind. Current favourite: JUPITER ASCENDING (and if you don't like this movie I can't really see us getting along =( )

TV Series: Dresden Files, Avatar: The Last Airbender (Korra is dead to me, do not ever speak to me of it). Props to you if you remember Thundercats, She-Ra: Princess of Power, and Jem and the Holograms. I need someone to do an Elementary marathon with sometime. Sleepy Hollow I should catch up on but man, that mid-season finale was terrrrible.

Music: Gary Numan (dark electronic), Nightwish (symphonic metal), Sonata Arctica (power metal), Rammstein (industrial), Vagabond Opera (Yiddish/Eastern European cabaret), Vernian Process (steampunk electronica), Pink (pop), The Clockwork Dolls (symphonic electronica), Unwoman (indie goth rock), Muhammad Assaf (Arab pop/folk), Alexander Rybak (Russian pop/folk), and various various assorted others.

Food: Jasmine rice. Maggi Mee. Roti canai. Kari meen. Whole deep-fried fish. Bak kut teh. Fast food (it's tastier in Malaysia). And I have a habit of trying out unajyu in every Japanese restaurant I try. I'm not much of a foodie, and I have a pretty carb-high diet, so I can be difficult to eat out with. Still, I'm not opposed to trying out Korean BBQs, hot pot / steamboat places, Japanese restos, HK cafes, Vietnamese and Thai places.

I also love chocolate chip cookies, like, a lot.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) A laptop with a working keyboard and word processor.
2) Printer
3) Pen
4) Paper
5) Dreams
6) Some semblance of meaningful activity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I want to say something ambitious like, how to bring about a postcapitalist era and I'm sure that this has got an agricultural revolution so I plot out vertical farms.

Actually I spend most of the time thinking about my PhD and how I can get it finished on time without killing myself. And my students' work.

Also, my garden, my writing projects, and the next thing to sew.

But yeah, vertical farms, y'all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing the same thing I do every night, Pinky: Tumblr!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not a very private person, so I'll feed you a funny thing instead that will give the best look into how my life works. Recently, while trying to console me over a guy, a friend told me, "You're young, attractive, & healthy. You have no substance problems, no criminal record, no serious financial/credit problems, no significant family of origin issues, no insanely jealous ex partners, no dependents, & no sexual hang-ups. You've travelled widely, and are cosmopolitan & open-minded. You're loyal, honest, politically astute, and passionate about equity & human rights. Extremely intelligent, articulate, creative, & ambitious, you're about to commence your PhD at one of a range of prestigious US universities."

"In short," I replied, "I'm not real."

Also, I sew to the Saber Rider theme song.
You should message me if
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- you strongly identify as POC. If you don't know what that means, go brush up on your Loretta Ross, bell hooks, Grace Lee Boggs. If you are a white dude and interested in anything romantic/sexual, don't, and don't try to persuade me otherwise. (But why? I hear you cry; because I don't want to date white dudes anymore, that's all.)

- you're genuinely interested in the shit I talk about in my profile. Ask me no generic, boring questions, I will give you no generic, boring answers. Ask me something shallow or so broad it's meaningless, and you're liable to get ignored. And if you can't find anything to ask in the hundreds of words on my profile? I just-- WHY NOT?

- I checked out your profile and didn't message you because your profile is so empty or generic I can't come up with anything to say to you. This is strangely, discombobulatingly, common.

- you need a hobby friend! Sewing, gardening, drawing specifically. I can't drive so you'd have to be local but I am always down to chatting about recent projects. (Maybe also writing but I currently don't have time or spoons to beta-read anybody's stuff.) I also like going to conventions (steampunk, comic, media, SFF, less so anime though) and am trying to hit up more local stuff, so there is also that.

- you wanna hear about socialist squirrels and proletariat earthworms. You may not use this as an opening gambit to ask for sex afterward.

- you can hold a conversation in text based on the above, because I refuse to meet people offline until I've had proof you can carry on a substantial conversation. Sometimes it's me being a snob. Sometimes it's me being overly-anxious and srsly let's just not waste each other's precious offline time. The only exception to this is if you are a really hot Asian my age or older with an attitude compatible with mine, in which case, why would you message?

Messages of the following flavours will be ignored because I have just this few fucks to give:

"Hi, my name is"
"Hi, how are you"
"Hi, you're cute"
"Hi, I think you are interesting"
"Hi, wanna chat"
"Hi, wanna fuck"
"Hi, would you go out with me"
"Hi, here is my phone number"
"Hi, [long message rambling about various things that show some tangential relation to stuff on my profile but really reads as a request for a date / sex]"