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jhameia

28 / F / Bisexual / Single

Riverside, California

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 6:47pm
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Malay (Okay)

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My self-summary
Intersectional WOC theorist doing science fiction and fantasy. I read, write, analyse stories. I spend an inordinate amount of time on Twitter and Tumblr. I like thinky thoughts, assorted geeky pursuits, arts of various kinds, and fluffy things. I will not take coffee, but will do hot chocolate. And cake. I do not suffer fools gladly, and prefer substance over form, content over grammar.

I'm apparently also Famous On The Internet for writing Silver Goggles, a blog on anti-racism and postcolonialism in steampunk. I write genre fiction and poetry (double whammy, I know). The most recent thing with me in it is Vintage Tomorrows, a book on steampunk. I sew and garden as part of how I do steampunk (bricolage approach to life in creating something new and more pleasing out of the old).

I'm from Malaysia and as such work on articulating a Malaysian-specific feminist ethos, among other things. I think I'm liberal, according to Western frames of thinking, and am prolly also a dirty socialist, since I hang out with dirty anarchists. I like things that mess with dominant paradigms. As a result, I am a firm believer in Moff's Law, and that can't-be-neutral-on-a-moving-train principle.

Non-nerdy things I do resembling normalcy involve clubbing, hiking (or long walks), silly little crafts, modeling (commercial and art nudes), and vegetating quietly. I've also traveled widely, and am starting a little garden on my patio.
What I’m doing with my life
Starting a PhD in Comparative Literature, with a focus on steampunk and neocolonialism. Revising my MA project, writing short stories, planning a new novel, and looking for a publisher for a SEAsian steampunk anthology. Working on my sewing skills, with an eye to seamstressing since I feel like dropping out of academia after I'm done my PhD.
I’m really good at
Decent writing. And extrapolation.
The first things people usually notice about me
A guy once said "your snappy wit and gorgeous eyes" but your mileage may vary.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, non-fiction: i. Beyond Power, by Marilyn French; ii. The Promise of Happiness, by Sara Ahmed; iii. Specters of Marx, by Jacques Derrida

Books, fiction: i. The Color Purple, by Alice Walker; ii. The Last Unicorn, by Peter Beagle; iii. The Redemption of Althalus, by David and Leigh Eddings. Current changeable favourites include: Lilith's Brood novels by Octavia Butler

Movies: i. Mulan (2010, not the Disney one) (I will actually look down on you if you hold the Disney one in high regard); ii. The Color Purple; iii. The Fifth Element; iv. Nausicaa in the Valley of the Wind.

TV Series: Dresden Files, Avatar: The Last Airbender. Props to you if you remember Thundercats, She-Ra: Princess of Power, and Jem and the Holograms. I need someone to do an Elementary marathon with sometime.

Music: Gary Numan, Nightwish, Sonata Arctica, Rammstein, Alexander Rybak, Vernian Process, Pink, The Clockwork Dolls, Unwoman, and various various assorted others.

Food: White rice. Maggi Mee. Roti canai. Kari meen. Whole deep-fried fish. Fast food (it's tastier in Malaysia). And I have a habit of trying out unajyu in every Japanese restaurant I try. I'm not much of a foodie, and I have a pretty carb-high diet, so I can be difficult to eat out with. Still, I'm not opposed to trying out Korean BBQ, Japanese restos, HK cafes, Vietnamese and Thai places.
The six things I could never do without
1) A laptop with a working keyboard and word processor.
2) Printer.
3) Pen
4) Paper
5) Academia
6) Some semblance of happiness.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Me, myself and I in relation to social justice, oppression, systems of power, marginalized peoples, movement making, world transformation. Anything and everything and anyone and everybody connected to me, myself and I. Which is a lot of people, as a Third World feminist upper-middle-class cis woman of color who is able-bodied with clinical depression.

But that's what Tumblr is for. Actually I spend most of the time thinking about my PhD and how I can get it finished on time without killing myself.

Also, my garden, my writing projects, and the next thing to sew.
On a typical Friday night I am
during the same thing I do every night, Pinky: Tumblr!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not a very private person, so I'll feed you a funny thing instead that will give the best look into how my life works. Recently, while trying to console me over a guy, a friend told me, "You're young, attractive, & healthy. You have no substance problems, no criminal record, no serious financial/credit problems, no significant family of origin issues, no insanely jealous ex partners, no dependents, & no sexual hang-ups. You've travelled widely, and are cosmopolitan & open-minded. You're loyal, honest, politically astute, and passionate about equity & human rights. Extremely intelligent, articulate, creative, & ambitious, you're about to commence your PhD at one of a range of prestigious US universities."

"In short," I replied, "I'm not real."
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
- you hate small talk about as much as I do. And you think "hi how are you" is an annoying way to start a conversation unless it's with someone you know quite well.

- you're genuinely interested in the shit I talk about in my profile. You can miss me with the "oh how interesting" stuff.

- you need a hobby friend! Sewing, gardening, drawing specifically. I can't drive so you'd have to be local but I am always down to chatting about recent projects. (Maybe also writing but I currently don't have time or spoons to beta-read anybody's stuff.)

- you can hold a conversation in text based on the above, because I refuse to meet people offline until I've had proof you can carry on a substantial conversation.

- you strongly identify as POC. White dudes need not send romantic / sexual overtures. Cutesy jokes about this are not cool; don't make 'em.

- you actually put some thought into that first message; ya'll, I have a LONG profile that has a lot of stuff to respond to, and I'm not even asking for a super-long message. I know it says casual sex, but I don't fuck uninteresting people who can't hold a conversation.