Last evening a forum post caught my eye, something about advice to nice guys to stop being nice guys and be assholes instead because women supposedly prefer that. In the forum there was a jerky guy who said something about "fatties". So being my feisty Aries self, I had to say something.I will try and link to the page but here is the gist of it...

I told the guy that he would be surprised how many men-not boys, can appreciate a confidant "fattie". I somewhat facetiously used the term "traditionally built" because after all skinny was not always the ideal of beauty nor is it now in most of the rest of the world. I also told him that Im sure he had a mother, grandmother, aunt or cousin who is not a size 2 and that he should show some respect or shut up. Not surprisingly i got 2 responses from men, one calling me a "whale" and one suggesting I was the size of a castle fortress.

Of course it can be said that I invited this by responding to the OP in the first place but I wonder if I met these men in person would they have the balls to say that to me or is it the anonymity of the internet that makes people feel such blatent rudeness is okay? I am curious about for peoples opinions. I actually tried to delete my post because I am not welcoming of any more rude personal attacks right now but could night figure out how, maybe someone could tell me that?

On a positive note, I did get a very sweet email from a guy in Pheonix apologizing on the assholes behalf who seems like a great guy. If i get his permission I will repost his user name so ladies in that area may look him up as he seems like a peach.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

I am considering getting my left ear pierced at the cartilage at the inner part known as the daith, i have heard that this area can interfere with ipod earphones. Does anyone have any personal experience with this? Any yeas or nays? Feedback is appreciated. Thanks

So I went on a fantastic date on Friday. Dinner was nice, drinks at a little karaoke bar were nice, walking around a park, looking at stars were nice. We make plans to go out again the next night and I am pleased with that.

Sometime over the course of the evening, the subject of what living arrangements were like came up. He shares a house with roomates, so I disclosed the fact that I am being a reluctant landlord to a (male) friend who has fallen on hard times. This is a friend Ive known since '92 who recently had some legal troubles, lost his job and had nowhere to go. I have a 4 bedroom place so I am lending a hand til he gets back on his feet. I had also mentioned that since the friend is unemployed he is around alot and getting on my nerves and that I was looking forward to having the house to myself on Saturday.

Saturday comes around and the guy, 2 hours before were set to get together tells me he has had time to think about things and isnt comfortable with the situation and doesnt want to get "involved" . I tell him I think he misunderstands, that the housemate is just a friend but he doesnt believe me. He quickly gets off the phone and has not returned an email sent to him.

So of course I realize in hindsight that I should have just kept my mouth shut, said I had a housemate and left it at that. The guy says the fact that my friend is not paying rent is weird, and I guess he views me as a doormat? I dont know. I also realize that his reaction may be some sort of indication of trust issues of his, so thats on him. But I am wondering what to do next time? What do people think? Is honesty when one is in an awkward situation the best policy? Are things like living arrangement a conversation for a first date? Thanks for taking the time to read and respond. - Jill

So a few weeks ago some wanker hacked my laptop, gave me a key stroke logger and stole my identity and went shopping on my dime via Papal. Its been all straightened out except for the 7 year credit flagging (sigh).
Needless to say I was busy dealing with that and leary of some websites for a while, so today is my first time on here in weeks. What I discovered is that I kinda missed logging on here and seeing whats going on with all the singles. This site, in addition to confirming that geeky girls and guys need love too is comforting in a way and reminds me of a great Ben Lee song that says "Were all in this together", I think its a refreshing thought! I am sure that my computer is safe to be on here now, so lookout Nova men...

I figured out the purpose of WTFs...

What is the purpose for the WTF reports? I thought it was to like flag someone whose profile made you think What the F*#K is that persons deal? I dont get it...
Luckily in the 5 days i have been on here meeting people there has only been one person that made me question his motives and sanity. On the whole I have found everyone to be quite delightful!