- so I'm not looking for a hook up, NSA, FWB...anything like that. I love sex just as much as the next girl. Probably more. But I am not even giving it up until we've had several dates. Sorry. I'm tired of being a one night stand.
- not looking for someone too awful far away. If you live on the other side of the country, I will probably ignore your messages. I'm not looking for an online relationship. I am willing to travel up to about 8 hours (do what you gotta do to find love, right?) but if it takes longer than the average work day to get to you I'm not doing it!
- my age range is about 29 ish to 50 ish. I do prefer men older than me. Maturity plays a big factor for me. (As does intelligence. Please know how to spell.)
What I AM looking for is a dominant man with a sadistic side to him. There is nothing hotter than a man with a wicked, sadistic, devious imagination. Someone who will challenge me and keep me on my toes. Someone who understands that BDSM is a lifestyle, and not limited to the bedroom. And someone who is interested in something long term, and hopefully monogamous.
About me - I am very introverted. I express myself best in writing, so in person I can be a bit quiet and reserved until I get to know someone...but then it really depends on the other person. Some are easier to talk to than others.
I have been in the BDSM lifestyle a little over two years. I have educated myself quite a lot. I try to stay connected to the community. I go to Munches, play parties, events. I have a good handle on my likes, dislikes, limits, and the things I have yet to try.
I have a strong desire to please. Not everyone. Just the people I like. And, no. Not just in the bedroom. I enjoy doing things for the people I care about, and I AM part Italian, so those "things" tend to involve food. (I make some badass ricotta cookies by the way)
I am VERY stubborn. I have been alone for a long time, so I'm pretty set in my ways...but I want someone patient enough to make me see, my ways do not always need to be set. Make me see YOUR way. Despite being stubborn, I tend to be a pretty good listener :-)
Also worth mentioning; I'm fairly absent minded, forgetful, and easily distracted. Sorry. Kind of. But hey, everyone needs a challenge, right?
I'm not brave enough to send the first message, so...ball's in your court. Thanks for your consideration :-)
-I will consider those who are vanilla, but have an understanding of the BDSM lifestyle and what it means to be a Dominant man in this lifestyle...and maybe you have been looking for someone to explore with. We all gotta start somewhere, right?-