Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My friend Kate is too generous, writing: "When the Excellent Man
Awards are awarded, J will get a shiny one. His balance of
analytical and humanistic intelligence, his loyalty as a friend
while always inviting you to change and stretch, his ability to
shoot hoops and jam with the daydream band (guitar or piano take
your pick, sit down, prepare to be impressed), his ever-readiness
with a dirty joke or a sympathetic (but never just palliative) ear
these are some of the qualities that make J an extremely rare,
delightful guy. He's always stretching himself, learning something
new (meditation, world economics). To top it off, he's got great
Of course, it's completely undeserved. Well, maybe except for the
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the moment, I manage a great team of engineers at an internet
startup in SF. I enjoy getting out of the city, particularly to
visit my niece and nephews in Minneapolis (even in winter!). Aside
from that, I hope I can spend my life learning and growing, getting
excited by new ideas, and sharing wonder and curiosity with friends
and new acquaintances.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My omelet-making skills are respectable for an amateur. Favorite
ingredients include spinach or eggplant, cheddar, and generous
turmeric. I used to use three eggs, but after reading Julia Child I
decremented to two for a normal-sized omelet and have never looked
Separately, one of the creations I am most proud of is this
humorous song written and performed for my good friend's wedding
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Perhaps not at first glance, but within an initial conversation I
like to think that people notice that I'm a good listener and
honest thinker, and aspire to understand things deeply.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Paul Simon, Billy Joel, Woody Allen, and Lennon/McCartney are
geniuses. Other favorites include Rushmore, My Cousin Vinny, Small
is Beautiful, Yearnings, One God Clapping, Anna Karenina, Life of
Pi, Eating Animals, Carole King, Amy Winehouse. I am currently
working my way through aptly-named Infinite Jest.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends and family.
Feeling like I'm contributing something useful.
Going hiking occasionally.
Wonder and curiosity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about how to stop thinking so much
and trust my gut.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying a good meal, a solid cocktail, and laughs with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can get teary in cheesy movies.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You've got a healthy bit of east-coast character. You don't have to
be from the east coast, but at least:
- You prefer to address conflict rather than avoid it.
- You are not allergic to planning and short-term
- You've probably lived through a few bitter winters.
You are adventurous, curious, edgy. A bit of a dreamer.
You have both a sense of wonder and a sense of humor.
You have opinions and rarely shy away from sharing them.
You are generous, considerate, kind. You enjoy the outdoors. You
have rhythm. You can be a little naughty.
Who are you looking for?
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