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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 24
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English, Hebrew (Okay)
My self-summary
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My friend Kate is too generous, writing: "When the Excellent Man Awards are awarded, J will get a shiny one. His balance of analytical and humanistic intelligence, his loyalty as a friend while always inviting you to change and stretch, his ability to shoot hoops and jam with the daydream band (guitar or piano take your pick, sit down, prepare to be impressed), his ever-readiness with a dirty joke or a sympathetic (but never just palliative) ear these are some of the qualities that make J an extremely rare, delightful guy. He's always stretching himself, learning something new (meditation, world economics). To top it off, he's got great eyelashes."

Of course, it's completely undeserved. Well, maybe except for the eyelashes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the moment, I manage a great team of engineers at an internet startup in SF. I enjoy getting out of the city, particularly to visit my niece and nephews in Minneapolis (even in winter!). Aside from that, I hope I can spend my life learning and growing, getting excited by new ideas, and sharing wonder and curiosity with friends and new acquaintances.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My omelet-making skills are respectable for an amateur. Favorite ingredients include spinach or eggplant, cheddar, and generous turmeric. I used to use three eggs, but after reading Julia Child I decremented to two for a normal-sized omelet and have never looked back.

Separately, one of the creations I am most proud of is this
humorous song written and performed for my good friend's wedding rehearsal dinner.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Perhaps not at first glance, but within an initial conversation I like to think that people notice that I'm a good listener and honest thinker, and aspire to understand things deeply.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Paul Simon, Billy Joel, Woody Allen, and Lennon/McCartney are geniuses. Other favorites include Rushmore, My Cousin Vinny, Small is Beautiful, Yearnings, One God Clapping, Anna Karenina, Life of Pi, Eating Animals, Carole King, Amy Winehouse. I am currently working my way through aptly-named Infinite Jest.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends and family.
Feeling like I'm contributing something useful.
Going hiking occasionally.
Wonder and curiosity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about how to stop thinking so much and trust my gut.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying a good meal, a solid cocktail, and laughs with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can get teary in cheesy movies.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You've got a healthy bit of east-coast character. You don't have to be from the east coast, but at least:
- You prefer to address conflict rather than avoid it.
- You are not allergic to planning and short-term commitments.
- You've probably lived through a few bitter winters.

You are adventurous, curious, edgy. A bit of a dreamer.

You have both a sense of wonder and a sense of humor.

You have opinions and rarely shy away from sharing them.

You are generous, considerate, kind. You enjoy the outdoors. You have rhythm. You can be a little naughty.