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40 Tucson, AZ Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 17
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
A little extra
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Some facts about me:
- I am an honest and deep
- I am hopeful/hopeless romantic
- I absolutely love Tucson
- My favorite holidays are St Patties and the Day of the Dead
- I love to wear ties
- I am a song writer
- I wish I could go the rest of my life not wearing shoes (even if I with a tie)
- I am currently married but we are only friends at this point. We have three teenage kids that keep our arrangement I but you should know that I consider myself as single
What I’m doing with my life
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I do computer networking support by day and a I am a college professor by night (Computers, Rhetorical Writing, and Humanities). I have spent a lot of time lately in my classes focusing social injustices caused by "hidden biases" (basically biases that we may not even be aware that we have).

I also play the ukulele and guitar as we as sing in a couple of bands (one is indie-pop and the other New Orleans based Jazz/Funk) in the Tucson area. I considering my voice to be my main instrument.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I live my life with the believe that there is always something amazing and/or beautiful to be seen and forcing a schedule, although can be useful as a guideline, can actually prevent you from encountering the wonders of the world that you didn't know existed. Scheduling stuff is fine but I don't like to let it control me.

Basically, If you just keep your heart, eyes, and ears open you will find something that will make you feel blessed. There is no need to over-prepare. When I need money for something it eventually comes or it will just be free when I get to it. I call this the Process of Life and I have deeply put my faith into it for most of my life. The best part is that this mentality causes you to appreciate the little things (which is the key I think).
The first things people usually notice about me
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What people usually notice: I am happy, genuine, big, and have a red goatee
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I listen to a lot of genres of music but to name a few I listen to a lot lately: Nina Simone, LCD Soundsystem, Neko Case, Washed Out, Leonard Cohen, the Roots, and music from the 1930s. I have been listening to a lot of Nick Cave lately too.

I also listen to a lot of old school Cuban music - I guess I just have a weird connection with Cuba for some reason but I have never been there.

My favorite song is Marley's "Waiting in Vain"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee, my ukulele, pen & paper, my phone (hate to admit that), Mexican food, and affection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- The usage of fonts
- Word for new songs
- Why I have not deleted my Okcupid profile
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On Fourth Avenue somewhere checking out live music and just floating place to place
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am an honest person and have a habit of assuming everyone else is as well (which has burned me on occasions)
You should message me if
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The cat and mouse structure of OKcupid is exhausting and I really don't like it when someone says they want to be impressed in any messages they get. If you have any interest - just say hi and we can go from there if there is anywhere for us to go :)

I am heavily drawn to smart, creative, and confident women and have a strong attraction to musicians, artists, feminists, and those engaged in education.