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jmzq

31 Berkeley, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 8
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think my two guiding principles are empathy and long-term thinking; and from those two naturally comes kindness, because it just frickin' makes sense.

I engage in conspicuous non-consumption. I try to understand the context and implications of just about everything. People are more fascinating to me than machines, but machines are more profitable to work on for the time being. I don't choose the profitability of work for its own sake, but for long-term security.

On the theme of long-term thinking (again), sustainability is (quixotically) a big deal to me (Ask me about the utility-scale photovoltaic industry!).

I bike a lot, and I spend a lot of time at climbing gyms. Sometimes I run, and feel awesome. When I lived in the city I went to a vaguely-goth swing dancing night each week, and since moving to Berkeley (as of July 2013), I want to get back into dancing. Actually I really want to learn ballet. I took a couple classes way back when, and loved the act of moving with such precision. I'd probably enjoy yoga if I wasn't so put off by the mysticism that tends to go with it. UPDATE: Just (Feb 2014) started a dance conditioning class at Kinetic Arts, and it's great. Nice shallow learning curve. As of Aug 2014, you might find me at Beat the Blues at La Pena on Wednesday nights.

About body type: It won't let me select both "Athletic" and "A little extra". I'm obviously really active, and try do something physically intense for the pure joy of it maybe every 2-3 days. I'm muscular and nimble. I also self-medicate with fair-trade dark chocolate more or less continuously. It's a good life. :) Happily trending toward just "Athletic" at the moment, and I'm loving feeling more nimble.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After a long road condensed into not that many years in the grand scheme of things, I've found a great deal of contentment in work that always keeps me learning, with some of the best people I've ever met. With my newfound settledness, my current most important goal is to put my rural-Appalachian pathological independence behind me, build connections with people, and make a spot for myself in a community. There's no clear way to do that other than being an interesting person and putting myself in situations where I might meet similarly interesting people. So, first immediate goal: be awesome. I'd like to read more, I'd like to dance, I'd like to build things, I'd like to volunteer more, I'd like to contribute to open-source software. Lots of I'd-like-to's; still to be seen which ones will pan out in this brave new life.

in 2012 I went skiing for the first time. Now during the winter I'm doing that a lot, too. Did you know there are several ways to plan North Tahoe weekend ski trips entirely using public transit?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Lots of things. Too many things, but often not the right ones. Anything spatial and logical. Also, communication and nurturing (even of myself every now and then). I will analyze and diagnose real-time concurrent software, or that lingering frustration with life you can't quite put your finger on. It takes awhile for complicated sets of rules to sink in to my brain, but once they do I will optimize the hell out of how I work within their constraints.

If you take a look at my Personality tab, you'll note a huge slab of blue at the top marking me as "More Sex-Driven". That might be the case if I were more charming, but in reality...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
include that I'm being a wallflower, most likely. Except when I'm the only person laughing at something particularly goofy, because I find everything funny and logically expect everyone else to as well.

I also sometimes think I've given strangers the feeling that they've been told by a Jedi to go home and rethink their lives.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm going to leave it at "any of the above that offers enough intricacy to be interesting".

I'm quite the fan of silence.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have shown a lot of fucking adaptability (<-- Neal Stephenson reference here) in my life, and I'm pretty sure I could deal with deprivation up until it killed me. But awesome things I appreciate include:
- Indoor plumbing and heating
- Very dark chocolate
- Funny people
- Cuddly people
- Sunshine
- Forests
- Information
- More chocolate (fair-trade, please)
- Oh, and a bicycle , how could I leave that off...
- A drill, circular saw and set of basic hand tools are pretty critical
too.
[E]BufferOverflowException:Number of awesome things exceeds array size of 6.
[E]And you call yourself a software engineer.
[F]Perhaps you want to go home and rethink your career.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The operational status of elevators on the BART system.

Anything that I find uncomfortable to think about; I make it a point to identify why.

Algorithms and electricity.

Oppression of the powerless, and how to most effectively subvert the refusal of other middle-class folks to see it.

What in hell that ad with the elderly lady peeling her face off is trying to accomplish. Gah! Actually why OkCupid doesn't display better ads in general. They have complete personality profiles of most of their users, for frick's sake!

How designs of human-made objects and environments evolved, and how errors and lack of foresight can result in perplexing things becoming standardized and immortal. How to engage in a kind and productive way with beliefs of others that I see as destructive. Anything other than the looming endgame of a culture based on the assumption of unlimited resources. What time it is, which I can never keep track of. And also sex, but I would never say that in an OkCupid profile. I mean, jeez.

How incredibly badly my personality meshes with male role in the traditional hetero dating paradigm.

Recently: all the benefits and downsides of cooperative housing, and the USA's weird real estate fetish. (Please let me know if you're aware of a co-op of teetotalling introverts, or would like to start one. It'll be the funnest place in town!)

Overall, I just spend a lot of time thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
dinner and games with highly nerdy but undeniably classy folks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Privacy is all about not being unfairly judged and having to deal with adverse results of that. So, I don't know, how judgmental are you?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm in a fairly committed secondary relationship with the inimitable Jellykka, and I don't think I want to balance another secondary relationship just yet. So, if you're looking for a committed non-monogamous primary, primary-like, or anchor relationship. As for "casual sex" - it has honestly never happened (I got zero or negative "game"), but remains a compelling concept.