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My self-summary
I'm in a stable polyamorous primary-like thing with TenThousandFeet. I understand that unicorn hunters are common and nearly as vexatious as single dudes, so I will say explicitly that I'm not looking for a triad.

I think my two guiding principles are empathy and long-term thinking; and from those two naturally comes kindness, because it just frickin' makes sense.

I engage in conspicuous non-consumption. I try to understand the context and implications of every notable observation. People are more fascinating to me than machines, but machines are more profitable to work on for the time being. I don't choose the profitability of work for its own sake, but for long-term security. In terms of safety nets and support systems, I'm an orphan.

On the theme of long-term thinking (again), sustainability is (quixotically) a big deal to me (Ask me about the utility-scale photovoltaic industry!).

I bike a lot, and I spend a lot of time at climbing gyms. Sometimes I run, and feel awesome. You might be able to stalk me in real life at Ironworks climbing gym.
What I’m doing with my life
Changing it, rapidly. Or at least, I was. And quickly found the limits of my capacity for time commitments. But there will be some kind of better-calibrated career change soon. On the personal side, everything changed, largely for the healthier, in 2015.

I've started volunteering at the Berkeley Free Clinic, just in time for them to lose their space like every other bay area nonprofit.

in 2012 I went skiing for the first time. Now during the winter I'm doing that a lot, too. Did you know there are several ways to plan North Tahoe weekend ski trips entirely using public transit?
I’m really good at
Lots of things. Too many things, but often not the right ones. Anything spatial and logical. Also, communication and nurturing (even of myself every now and then). This is a weird combination that leads to comfortable, natural conversations with almost no one. Troubleshooting anything. Making anything. Doing nothing. Being late and apologizing.

If you take a look at my Personality tab, you'll note a huge slab of blue at the top marking me as "More Sex-Driven". That might be the case if I were more charming, but in reality...
The first things people usually notice about me
include that I'm being a wallflower, most likely. Except when I'm the only person laughing at something particularly goofy, because I find everything funny and expect everyone else to as well.

I also sometimes think I've given strangers the feeling that they've been told by a Jedi to go home and rethink their lives - which is both self-flattering and bemoaning how good at getting to know people I'm not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm going to leave it at "any of the above that offers enough intricacy to be interesting".

I'm quite the fan of silence.
The six things I could never do without
I have shown a lot of fucking adaptability (<-- Neal Stephenson reference here) in my life, and I'm pretty sure I could deal with deprivation up until it killed me. But awesome things I appreciate include:
- Indoor plumbing and heating
- Very dark chocolate
- Funny people
- Cuddly people
- Sunshine
- Forests
- Information
- More chocolate (fair-trade, please)
- Oh, and a bicycle , how could I leave that off...
- A drill, circular saw and set of basic hand tools are pretty critical
- And I just learned how to weld steel! So many possibilities.
[E]BufferOverflowException:Number of awesome things exceeds array size of 6.
[E]And you call yourself a software engineer.
[F]Perhaps you want to go home and rethink your career.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The operational status of elevators on the BART system.

Anything that I find uncomfortable to think about; I make it a point to identify why.

Algorithms and electricity.

Oppression of the powerless, and how to most effectively subvert the refusal of other middle-class folks to see it.

What in hell that ad with the elderly lady peeling her face off is trying to accomplish. Gah! Actually why OkCupid doesn't display better ads in general. They have complete personality profiles of most of their users, for frick's sake!

How designs of human-made objects and environments evolved, and how totally sensible design processes can result in perplexing things becoming standardized and immortal. How to engage in a kind and productive way with beliefs of others that I see as destructive. Anything other than the looming endgame of a culture based on the assumption of unlimited resources. What time it is, which I can never keep track of. And also sex, but I would never say that in an OkCupid profile as a straight cis-dude. I mean, jeez.

How incredibly badly my personality meshes with male role in the traditional hetero dating paradigm. How much I loathe all the characters in that story archetype.

Recently: all the benefits and downsides of cooperative housing, and the USA's weird real estate fetish. (Please let me know if you're aware of a co-op of teetotalling introverts, or would like to start one. It'll be the funnest place in town!)

I just spend a lot of time thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
dinner and games with highly nerdy but undeniably classy folks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Privacy is all about not being unfairly judged and having to deal with adverse results of that. So, I don't know, how judgmental are you?

I re-use the peanut butter knife for the jelly. I answered the showering question with "a couple times a week". I lack strong family connections and in relationship must consciously manage how quickly I get attached. I wasn't joking about spending a lot of time thinking about sex.
You should message me if
...pretty please?