My simple goal, as trite as it may sound, is to find my soul-mate, best friend, confidante, and companion. I want someone I can talk to and build new adventures with; someone with whom I can share the simple tasks and chores of life. I am looking for an equal partner who wants to grow, explore, and walk with me through the ensuing decades of our life’s journey. We will have each other’s backs, bolster each other’s courage, urge each other to push the envelope further than we might alone, catch each other if one of us falls, and hold each other closely at the end of the day, regardless of what the day has brought.
So how do I convey in simple words who I really am? I guess, as a starting point, I acknowledge that I am an ever-evolving, imperfect man, still hoping to make grand dreams come true, while still thoroughly enjoying life’s simplest pleasures. I am an ardent, if not perhaps awkward, romantic, who enjoys a quiet conversation filled with passion and intensity as much as a trip to a museum, a movie, or a walk in the park. In truth, I am confident, but admittedly not without some doubts; I am intelligent, but still know that you can surely teach me a few things. I can fool people at a party into thinking I'm oh so comfortable, but it's more likely that my true comfort zone is when you and I are alone together. Yes, I own and can put on a suit, but please know that I'd prefer to go somewhere where jeans and a button down shirt are more the norm. I have two grown daughters whom I adore, and who keep me young in life and spirit; but at my core, I still believe in old-fashioned honor and chivalry. I work hard to stay in great shape because I intend to live an active life for many decades to come. And while I don’t pretend that I am without the standard litany of human flaws, I do have a clear vision of what I aspire to be.
And who is this woman I’m looking for? I’m not sure there is one definition that suffices, as she could be so many different things, and I’m uncomfortable over-defining her into some non-existent fantasy. Of course, as we all know, it starts with that indefinable, intangible sense of chemistry; yet certainly there are some basic qualities I’m hoping to find in her. I would hope that she is truly honest and sincere; and given time to trust, willing to be open about her goals, dreams, desires, and needs. I’d like her to be intelligent and interested in the world around her; open to the simple pleasure of conversation, from the quiet talk of life's mundane occurrences, to perhaps some spirited debates on the larger issues of the day. She would have varied interests and be willing to explore new endeavors. And I believe a sense of humor is as important as a sense of compassion. Most importantly, though, she knows in her heart that two close friends can become much more than the sum of their individual lives.
So, is there something about who you and I are that might bring us together, even for a moment in time? If so, I can only hope our paths will cross and that we will recognize each other when that time arrives.